To ask what the rudest thing your child has said to you in a melt down?

[DrSeuss84]

Tonight my very hormonal, 12 year old, pre teen told me to “shove off” when I made a joke about her playing with Lego instead of tidying her room. Quickly followed up with “you ruin everything”. It took me back a bit to be honest. It was completely out of character. It got me wondering 2 things:

1. is this normal teenage behaviour? Or is my child suddenly going off the rails?

2. what’s the worst thing your child has said in a rage.

😂😂😂

I once went to an important work meeting, sat down and opened my notebook in front of everyone and DD had written “I hate you” in felt tip on the front page, large enough for everyone to see. Fortunately we now laugh about it.

Mines is the opposite, I was having a rant at my son, he was 12 or 13 I think, I can't remember what he had done to make me mad but his response was a cool calm "settle petal" how I did not throttle him I don't know!

Toddler told me she liked her other mummy better.

There is no other mummy, no female partner, no stepmum, nothing... 🤨 Never did get to the bottom of that one!

Oh and ds once came into our room early to hop into bed with us and after pulling back the covers he quickly trotted out of the room and I heard him telling his sister to “come and look how big mum’s bum is”. I wouldn’t have minded but I was a size 10 at the time.

That “things would be much better if you’d died instead of daddy” 😭😭😭

He really didn’t mean it and was SO sorry afterwards. Grief.

Tbh, I regularly think things would indeed be much better if it had been me. But there we are. I don’t voice it.

You can't just change the meaning of words to suit you, noe control how others use perfectly reasonable words.

"I'm very disappointed in you" said very cold voice with utterly deadpan face is common here with DS age 12. He doesn't do meltdowns just icy cold responses.

I’m not changing anything, there is a distinct difference between a tantrum and a meltdown.

Not words as such, but my 17 year old just moved to live with her father.

The man who walked out on us, started a new family, and has never once been there for her or her siblings.

All over some money x

My ASD PDA and ADHD 12 year shouts the most horrific things during a meltdown. A lot of them mentioned by other pp who have teenagers additional needs. If only he just stormed off just shouting he hated me in a teenage strop.

Some of these are so hilarious 🤣 afterwards, anyway!

I’m a little bit in awe - that’s amazing! Not sure I would have kept my cool though!

Must be!! We are currently reading it to him

'I hate you' and 'i don't have a mummy any more'. Age 4.

I got told something very similar by my six year old the other day (I'd given her sister the last lolly in the freezer while she was out) so think you're doing v well if you're only just getting this at 12!

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My two year old told me I was 'annoying' when I told her it was sleepy time 🤣 (I don't describe people as annoying around her I assume she picked it up at the childminders)

Oh like: I hate you I wish I had a different mummy. That was pretty hurtful. She retracted it later at least

DS4 does this.

'I can't hear the baby. Has she died?'
'Oh. She just made a noise. She's not dead.'

'I HATE YOU. YOU'RE STUPID.'
-DS5

He did once tell me that I'd ruined his life.

I took that as praise.

Oh @StJulian2023 Im sorry to hear that. DSIL recently died and poor DBIL is getting lots of ‘why didn’t you die instead of mummy’ from his 5yo. It’s heartbreaking.

When DD was 4.....

"I'm VERY disappointed of you!!!"

My very fiesty three year old said in a temper once " I wish you'd fall in the road and get run over" 🤣 she was very dramatic . For context, I used to say " because I don't want you to fall in the road and get run over" when she demanded to know why she had to hold my hand.