Can you do more for a human than carry their child?

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I was reading another thread where the OP yet again is not being treated with consideration by her husband after having a baby.

AIBU to think that there is very little more you can do for another human being than to carry and birth their child, continue their DNA and make them a parent?

I do not even think giving them a kidney is as big or as life changing as pregnancy and child birth is upon the woman.

That would depend on whether the child in question was planned and wanted by both parties. I certainly wouldn't be grateful for an "accidental" pregnancy forced on me.

Pregnancy and childbirth is one of the most dangerous things you can do in your life. Its the 6th cause of death of women in the USA today. And just 200 years ago, 1 in every 100 women died from it.

The plethora of extremely wealthy women today who outsource gestation and birth to poor woman is a fairly good indication that given the choice plenty of women would opt out if they could have a child another way.

I certainly would expect some appreciation from a partner for undertaking the task if a child was wanted by both of us. Of course you are always going to have the mother earth types whose pregnancies were glorious and births orgasmic. With gestational diabetes, pre eclampsia and 5kg babies with heads in the 99th percentile, I was not one of them.

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