To expect a gift for my newborn?

[Freckles978]

If I ever visit a family member or friend to see their newborn child, I would always bring a gift for the baby. Am I the only person who would always do this?

I met a friend specifically to let her meet to my newborn, and she didn't have a gift, and I think it's just rude to not have one. She did previously ask me if I was having a baby shower, to which I had said no. Might this be reason?

Is your newborn very disappointed?

Fuck me these threads are getting worse 🤦‍♀️😂

You 'let' her meet your newborn?

She should be on her knees with a fist full of vouchers and a pocket full of homemade lasagne for you!

I guess you don't take gifts to see your friend's newborn?

Also, no one has automatic right to see your newborn. They can wait until the baby is older meet them.

Were you not pleased to see her and excited to show off your baby? You’re a bad friend.

maybe she just left it at home! Personally I think it isn’t the best to expect gifts, it’s lovely she wanted to see you and meet our lo

I am happy with gifts we did get, did not think anything of ones we didn't I left that kinda thought in childhood, no offense but babies are not that interesting

It's unusual especially if it's your firstborn, but I don't think it's rude. Let's face it, newborns get so many clothes they grow out of some before they wear them, and you only need so many blankets, cloth books and cuddly toys!

Good Lord, Mother's Day is going to be a stressfully anxious time in your household.

I think you need to remember that not everyone finds other people's babies interesting. Presents are lovely. Coffee and a chat also lovely.

It wouldn’t even enter my head. YABU.

It’s a nice gesture to bring a gift but I wouldn’t expect it. Things might be tight for her, or she might have been unsure what to get that would be useful.

I can't say I say expected gifts from anyone when my son was born. It was nice to get some but I wouldn't hold it against them if they didn't! You sound entitled and grabby. Maybe your friend has other stuff to think about.

I think it's far more rude to expect a gift simply because you had a baby.

School holiday or full moon? This is the next in a series of batshit threads today

I personally would always get a gift for a close friend’s newborn. But my friends certainly don’t feel entitled to a gift for a baby, and if they did I wouldn’t get them one 💅🏻

Y’a know, I had a ‘friend’ drop in with a gift to visit me and newborn. Except she said after not very long oh I have to go I’m meeting mutual friend for lunch. She wasn’t coming to see me at all, I was an afterthought. She must have thought it sounded rude and said you can come if you like. Me, recovering from CS, with a newborn. So I’d rather a genuine friend drop in with nothing than that.

Of course she was unreasonable.

Your baby and yourself are the centre around which the universe revolves and this was a snub of the highest order, you having deigned to arrange an audience with her.

Frankincense, gold and myrrh should have been presented on arrival as is custom for such an historic meeting.

I think you are especially generous in not mentioning a lack of present for yourself quite frankly.

Some Jo Malone fragrance and candles should be a minimum pre-requisite offering (though a spa day would be more on par).

Honestly the world is going to the dogs.

Nobody knows how to behave any more.

Simply meeting a friend and having a lovely chat whilst they coo over your newborn is sooo last century...you can't Instagram a nice time - you need the merch for a good social media post that reflects how wonderful life is....

I wouldn’t even notice. I’m friends with my friends because I like them not because they buy me things. Maybe she can’t afford it. I was excited for my friends to meet my baby. 🤷🏼‍♀️

I wouldn't dream of meeting someone's baby without bringing something. It's just not the done thing, in terms of how I was raised anyway. I wouldn't dream of going to someone's house for dinner without bringing wine or a dessert either. I'd find it rude if someone didn't bring a gift because of how I was raised, but I would try not to focus on it and remember that not every has my background.

Sorry you lost me at 'let her meet your newborn'.

You do realise that beyond you, your partner and maybe the baby's grandparents, no one give a toss about meeting your newborn right?! Seriously, newborns are boring. Everyone smiles politely and may give you a gift but a gift is not a requirement.

I absolutely appreciate that your newborn is the most precious thing in the world to you, but you very quickly need to adjust your attitude to your expectations of others and your newborn.

YABU.

Your friend likely isn't interested in your baby, I'm not particularly interested in other people's newborns but I pretend to be because I know it's important to my friends. At the same time I don't expect people to be interested in mine either. I do bring a gift but I don't expect one, that's so grabby. Some people can't afford to buy gifts and even if they can I'm not so entitled to think my child deserves one just for being born.

YABU. What the actual fuck? Be grateful your friend wants to come and see you. That should be enough. Other people's children are boring.

Jesus fucking Christ. I’m amazed you have friends.

The entitlement is strong.