About DH aversion to some foods

[Hereinthismoment]

DH has some foods he really hates, not just he doesn’t like eating it but can’t stand the smell or appearance or anything. Problem is they are fairly standard recipe sort of items so hard to totally avoid.

Hes just been making ugh disgusting type noises again.

I think it’s really rude and he should stop. But wondered what others think.

What I have noticed on MN is that there is literally nothing a man can do that cannot be explained away by some incredibly rare condition. He can't just be a twat.

IRL most people manage to get through their lives without retching and gagging.

I agree. I don't know how some people survive in the real world.

I'll tell you what I find depressing. The lengths some people will go to find excuses for men's rude and boorish behaviour!

@MotherofGorgons Oops, just noticed that you made my point yesterday!

So he's been normal throughout your marriage, but 'lately' [this week, month, year] started gagging and commenting on normal cooking smells.

With the gagging, with a woman, I would say, 'Is she pregnant?'

With a man there are only three options. 1 that something rare and medical has rapidly developed. Or 2.; That he has a psychological problem making him gag involuntarily. Or 3. he's doing it deliberately .

In any case, it is above Mumsnet's paygrade.

He won't have a reasonable conversation about it. So your first step is to rule out a genuine medical reason. Maybe gagging at smells is a symptom of something.(A) consult a doctor to find out if it could have a physical cause. The way one smells burnt toast when having a stroke. E.g. something like a tumor in the area of his brain perceiving smell has developed, or if it's a symptom of something, like pain in your shoulder means something is wrong with your liver or wherever.

If he is cleared by a doctor, then:

(B) A therapist to get to the bottom of why he's doing this. An involuntary reaction, e.g. Some childhood trauma or whatever, or (C) Is he just being a dick to make your life difficult for some reason.

The outcomes will be (i) he stops it, (ii) he doesn't. Then it's for you to decide to (I) live like that forever, (II) stick around in the hope it stops.

I don't know how the icon got there. Ignore.

You have to be taking the piss.

She told him days to knock it off.

Why are you listing steps for the Op? She isn’t married to a child. If he thinks a medical condition has started this HE can go pursue medical attention.

Love how you at its above MNs pay grade. Then, as an mner, go on to give a ridiculous list of jobs.

My point is that it's either medical or it's not. If it's medical, find out what. If it's not, get to the bottom of why. Once op has the relevant information OP can make an informed choice.

You have no pointZ because you seemingly can’t understand the Ops posts or have poor comprehension.

Op has already told him to pack it in. It’s dealt with. No need for Op to set the poor, incapable man (that only you think he is) to sort him out tests or therapy.

@Hereinthismoment i think 2027 is a conservative estimate 😂

Next time he does it, take the pot and throw everything in it in the bin.

Tell him he is in charge of cooking from now on, and you will hover nearby making gagging sounds.

Or tell him you're cooking whatever it is for yourself and he can dend for himself from now on.

I have punished DCs for rude and entitled behaviour along the lines of your husband's. This was back when they were 5 or 6. Somebody dropped the ball when your husband was a child.

THIS

Though there is a condition called 'entitlement', but it's easily cured.

I came here to say the same thing. I too am autistic and I can't help making noises at things that are disgusting to me. Is ur husband diagnosed?

Also for the people saying he is acting like a child... am I a child then? Because I too have this issue.

Yes as an autistic the noises are involuntary and yes I make them if I am eating out at a restaurant. Autism is a disability. The sensor processing issues cause a reaction that I cannot control, whether that be a noise, gagging or saying something. I would hate to have things cooked in my own home that cause me physical distress, as that is what happens when someone with autism or sensory issues is subjected to a trigger. It physically hurts and mentally hurts.

So if he does have an actual issue then you are hurting him. He's not "being a child"

I may be wrong on this, but I don't think adult onset autism is a thing.

I will buy a hat and eat it if this man has suddenly turned autistic after years. WTF! My own DH occasionally makes annoying clicky sounds when bored. I ask him nicely to shut up and he does. He is another autistic or Aspergers or anything. He is just occasionally annoying as humans are.

He is NOT autistic I meant. Not another.

I'm with you. If I was at a restaurant and someone started "gagging", I'd be dry heaving right back. It's on the person who is so sensitive to foods that they gag to avoid putting themselves into that situation and ruining other people's meals.

Hey, by page 12 you might be told you are getting reported to children's services, the hate crimes police and the government for committing terror acts against your DH by cooking food he doesn't like.

Something to look forward to. 😬🙃😜😆😉🙄