About DH aversion to some foods

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DH has some foods he really hates, not just he doesn’t like eating it but can’t stand the smell or appearance or anything. Problem is they are fairly standard recipe sort of items so hard to totally avoid.

Hes just been making ugh disgusting type noises again.

I think it’s really rude and he should stop. But wondered what others think.

But her DH is averse to practically everything. Just one thing is ok.

I do think avoiding an entire country is a tad extreme tbh! But this is MN

Ugh I hate this too, OP. In an office where most people are having cooked food from the canteen, some twat will start going around saying ‘it stinks of oranges’ (after having just had fish and chips himself).

Oranges don’t stink, Yes, someone may be sensitive to the smell, but equally someone else will be sensitive to the smell of fish.

There is no point in making noises and screwing up your face!

It's not really the fact that he has an aversion, it's the ridiculous gagging noises and comments that would really annoy me. So immature
I can't eat eggs( no allergies, just can't even quiche) but because I would do anything for my DCs, I boiled and fed my DS's facing them in their highchairs eggs and soldiers for breakfast.
Does he cook his own meals?

Well you come across as you making something YOU want and then complaining he doesn’t like it.

Jeez!

He won't allow OP to eat any of these ingredients. And he stands over her retching. Does this really strike anyone as normal behaviour?
I dont like the smell of fish so I leave the room when DH cooks it. We have an open plan too. Hanging around noisily is silly.

So he needs to cook himself. As his disliked foods are vast, OP would end up with malnutrition if she followed his edicts.

Right, because there's never any ableism on mumsnet. 🙄

Wanting to cook normal foods for yourself without your partner retching and commenting is not ableism FGS.

There are some people who although they have preferences, don't truly dislike any food and will always struggle with those who do. The foods I don't like, I really don't like and there is no way I could sit and eat them even to try and be polite. But I just don't eat them, I don't gag or make gross comments if they were put on my plate and I wouldn't even comment on someone else's plate.

There are two very particular foods, where the smell turns my stomach but luckily my Husband wouldn't choose them either and they aren't common to be fed at others houses/served in restaurants. But even if they were I would try my absolute best the ignore the smell and would never made noises or whatever.

He is being unreasonable.

I've never met anyone who didn't have a single food dislike. I'd think that was very very rare.

Well, that's another reason "open plan" is an utterly terrible way to design a house.

(And yes I know I'm completely missing the point.)

Well you come across as you making something YOU want and then complaining he doesn’t like it.

You think it's ok for one partner who has a long list of common foods they won't eat to force their partner/family never to cook those foods?! If they were dangerously allergic, fair enough, but that's not the case here.

Well, that's another reason "open plan" is an utterly terrible way to design a house.

Not really. We're all different. Some people love open plan houses. People who don't can choose not to live in one!

Good thing I didn't say it was.

I was responding to the post when the OP implied that any food aversion isn't really involuntary.

Difference between food aversion and retching and ‘ewwww’.

Anyway, I love how the thread has turned into a critique of my dating technique and house layout

You'd never encountered a smell or taste that makes you involuntarily retch? Good for you, but don't be so arrogant to assume that your experience is universal.

I’d cook whatever I liked and would let him go hungry if this were my husband.
I’d also have a word with his mother and suggest she raise him a little bit more and perhaps she can cook for him too and pander to his every little whim the way she so obviously did when he was young.

I think a lot of it is for show, yeah, @Startofit . Otherwise restaurants would be filled with gagging MNetters and they aren’t.

@Mumtothreegirlies give over making it a woman’s fault

Or people with food aversion, especially ones related to ND conditions, avoid ordering things that make them gag and only go with individuals who also won't. Or they avoid resteraunts altogether because of judgy ableist people like you.

He would give me the ick

I think we can all agree that if your condition is such that you really cannot avoid retching and saying eww around certain foods, then avoiding some public places might be best.

After all, what if someone else’s involuntary reaction is violence?

This

Erm you're comparing food aversion to violence now? FFS.