About DH aversion to some foods

[Hereinthismoment]

DH has some foods he really hates, not just he doesn’t like eating it but can’t stand the smell or appearance or anything. Problem is they are fairly standard recipe sort of items so hard to totally avoid.

Hes just been making ugh disgusting type noises again.

I think it’s really rude and he should stop. But wondered what others think.

I couldn't be with someone like this. I have a child with asd and spd among other things and they have a very limited diet but they most certainly don't get to dictate what the rest of the people in the house cook and eat! It's pathetic and extremely rude to sit there commenting or gagging, complete overreaction! They should simply leave the room if they really don't like it!

This may sound harsh but the world doesn't revolve around those with food issues. Just be thankful you don't suffer from an eating disorder then.

I hate to break it to you, but for people who have severe sensory issues around the taste, texture or smell of certain foodstuffs, the world really does revolve around what they can and cannot tolerate. They can't help it. They're not doing it for fun.

"They can't help it. They're not doing it for fun."
Of course they're not. But, like my son, they can take themselves away from the triggering food, not hang around it making gagging noises.

@blacksax

Actually I did have an ED, fully recovered and all that, but it is actually very triggering (much as I loathe that word) having people ewwwwing at your food. Or would you seriously start going ‘oh that looks disgusting’ as someone recovering from anorexia starts eating

Totally with you @Hereinthismoment. It would annoy me too.

@Hereinthismoment I was unaware of your history when I posted, sorry. You're right then, your dp is being insufferable.

Well; that was a nice message, but I don’t think even DH knows the history, ages ago and all that.

But this is the point. Someone says ‘well lucky you that you don’t know what an eating disorder is like’ actually they do but it’s a different type.

So person A gags and chokes around food and loudly says it’s disgusting and makes them feel sick and that’s an involuntary response. That triggers person Bs eating disorder as they feel self conscious and anxious about eating and that’s also an involuntary response: who ‘wins’?

I reckon most people would agree that person A needs to knock it off. Does not mean they have to like the food or enjoy it or even go near it but they do need to keep their opinions to themselves. Otherwise, there’s a potential chain of involuntary responses!

God, I can't stand fussy eaters. This sort of silly, childish behaviour from a grown man would make my fanny close up for as long as it took to LTB.

Was he not like this when you married him?

>was he not like this when you married him?

OP refuses to answer this

The gagging might be involuntary, but standing around while you cook food saying "ewww" and "that's disgusting" is 100% voluntary. He's doing that deliberately and it looks very attention-seeking and performative.
If his aversion to multiple everyday food ingredients is that serious, the two of you need to cook and eat separately, and he needs to keep well away from the kitchen when you make your food. The fact he doesn't shows that it's a performance. Why would someone choose to put themselves through an unpleasant response to the food when they can avoid it?

Fucks sake! No, I did not - I answered it several pages ago! You seriously need a hobby, mate.

See?

Tbf he doesn’t usually comment but lately …

That is the THIRD TIME I’ve drawn your attention to that, but you still keep asking about dating. It is starting to move from funny to exasperating.

Just a yes or no is all that I was after.

This isn't the first time I've seen this user take over threads. Just FYI.

‘What’s for dinner?’
’chicken.’
‘I asked you what’s for dinner.’
’i said chicken!’
’For the THIRD time, what’s for dinner?’
’I told you! Chicken!’
’I keep asking her what’s for dinner!’
’for fucks sake, chicken!’
’Just answer what’s for dinner, can’t you?’
jesus. (No, he’s not for dinner!)

YANBU he needs to grow up. Do the 20 times exposure thing and he'll come round to liking foods he claims "not to like". My dd claimed to not like olives so I asked if she'd tried them 20 times, she hadn't so set herself a mission to do so - mainly in an effort to prove me wrong!- but guess what, she now loves olives!

OP

Is it legal to marry a three year old where you live? Because that's what tiny children say.

I don't like lamb or mutton, but I don't go ewwww gross when someone else eats it around me. If offered some I say " No thank you; I don't like the taste"

Look up afrid

Give him a heads up you are cooking it so he can stay out the way. A number of foods make me feel sick but I'd leave the room. Do you cook separate /different meals?

Arfid no reson to be rude as an adult.

My DC and I all have food inversions to taste, smells, textures, of a lot of common foods. DC are all Autistic and lower primary age, I'm still working on then saying no to food or asking to eat somewhere else politely. They always used to say foods they have an aversion to are disgusting like your DH does, but they're getting better and toning their reactions down. As an adult I'd expect a polite response. However from his side I'd expect to know too beforehand especially when what you're cooking/eating involves smells I have an aversion to.

The two of you nees to discuss and agree on how to handle things when you're cooking or eating foods he has an aversion too. For example giving him a heads up and agreeing he'll/you'll eat somewhere else could be reasonable ways to handle the issue. An adult making faces and calling food disgusting is not reasonable.

So he should force himself to eat food that makes him physically gag twenty times on the off chance that he'll magically like it?

Yes @AnorLondo - that's how it works.

No he should not eat what he doesn't like.

But acting like a little child does him no favours.

" No thank you I really don't ever like (whatever)" is what is polite to say

But I hated olives for years then one day tried and love them now.

Lamb tried last year (yuk) but I just say " I don't like lamb not ewwwwww lamb is gross (pukey sounds) "

Incorrect