About DH aversion to some foods

[Hereinthismoment]

DH has some foods he really hates, not just he doesn’t like eating it but can’t stand the smell or appearance or anything. Problem is they are fairly standard recipe sort of items so hard to totally avoid.

Hes just been making ugh disgusting type noises again.

I think it’s really rude and he should stop. But wondered what others think.

No.

You clearly were. People with food aversion that might make them gag shouldn't go to some public places, just like people who are involuntarily violent shouldn't. According to you.

No, but your argument is based around the fact that people have certain reactions they have no control over, correct? And therefore the rest of us cannot judge, no matter how uncomfortable or unpleasant it is to be on the receiving end of gagging, retching or ‘eww’ type noises, because the person who is doing it cannot help it and so to feel this way is ableist.

The trouble with that argument is that if two people both have reactions that are involuntary and contradict each other, who ‘wins’? Let’s say person A has an uncontrollable reaction to someone eating eggs, but person B has a very limited diet and reacts badly to gagging/choking noises.

Obviously some noises made by some people are totally involuntary and unfortunate, but ewwwww ain’t one of ‘em.

I agree Op.

I am ND and someone gagging on the next table would make me feel sick and unable to eat for days.

By all accounts is ableist if I expect to be able to eat without someone retching and gagging on the next table.

But it’s not abelist to tell me I have to fully accept that someone might be gagging on the next table and if they are ND, it’s tough. Accept it or don’t go out.

Thankfully I eat out at least once week. Despite a large amount of MNers that are completely unable to control their gagging, I have never come across this in RL. Can’t be all that common.

Still no answer about how you got past the dating stage.

Did you never go for a meal?

Were you long distance and he kept this hidden, then you got married on the day you met in person?

Or he's got a magical willy, so you ignored that all he will eat is beans on toast or whatever.

Food aversion is a thing. Hanging over said food gagging and going yuck disgusting is something that should be grown out of by the age of about 8. For context, my adult son has an aversion to all fruit. He manages to live in a house with a fruit bowl and while his family and friends don't eat strong smelling fruit in front of him, he copes politely if someone else does. Sometimes he has to remove himself-but he does so politely.

You’re obsessed with our dating stage @ThatFraggle !

On Wednesday, at 21:27 I said:

Tbf he normally doesn’t comment but lately has started to. It’s a pita.

@ProfessorXtra I’m not ND but I’m glad you said that! I am surprised at how uncomfortable it can make you feel. Anyway, it is sorted now, hopefully.

You appear to be way more than irritated by DH

I think you and he are incompatible

I think you’re bonkers, in a nice way!

Ever since I was pregnant with DS, I cannot abide the smell of ripe bananas. Luckily, it’s not something I come across much in public places. However one time, I was driving on a motorway, DH got one out to eat. I had to tell him to throw it out the window, before I threw up over the steering wheel and probably had a crash!

So, imo, Yabu!

I hear that @Quisquam

So if you were in a queue or a concert or on a plane and someone started to eat a banana, you’d tell them to put it away?

" I had to tell him to throw it out the window, before I threw up over the steering wheel and probably had a crash!

So, imo, Yabu!"

There's a difference between being an enclosed space, and in a house where you can walk away.

@Hereinthismoment

It’s never happened; but I wouldn’t have long before vomiting!

Was he like this before you married him?

See 05/07/23, 21:27!

@Quisquam I’m not completely unsympathetic. During a pregnancy I found those synthetic air fresheners (the plug in ones) made me sick. It was in the run-up to Christmas and is was a special festive one and 🤢.

But by the logic on here, picnics, eating on trains, planes and ferries, restaurants and cafes, work canteens, would be filled with people retching and gagging and wailing and that’s just not the case!

To be fair. That’s completely different.

It’s one food and you were on the motorway, travelling at speed where you couldn’t move away, on a very small enclosed space.

Also did you tell him to throw it out or just stare at it telling him it’s disgusting?

He didn’t need to eat a banana right there and then. One food item. It’s not a collection of perfectly normal food like ops situation where she would be expected to avoid them permanently.

Yes.

You're saying that this guy won't accept the smell of chicken, garlic, onions, and a long list of other normal things.

Behaves bizarrely.

You're on Mumsnet complaining about it.

So I am fascinated about how a relationship actually progressed.

If I went on a date and the guy said something like, "I only drink diet pepsi. No water, no tea, just that." that would be enough not to get a second date.

You're with someone that weird about food.

I'm curious about whether you didn't know.

Or whether you knew all along.

Why am I curious?

Because you made a thread about it, and it's super weird.

Why are you ‘fascinated’ you weirdo

Seriously, this is actually a far bigger deal to some of you than me.

I have a faddy eater in the house who has started being vocally faddy lately. I got pissed off with him, told him to quit it and he did. The end.

If I went on a date and the guy said something like, "I only drink diet pepsi. No water, no tea, just that." that would be enough not to get a second date.

See I wouldn’t think that’s weird at all <shrug>

If I asked for a lime and soda and someone started gagging and choking then yeah … but I don’t care if people dislike food and drink. Why would I?

My husband can't abide liver, especially the smell of it, whereas I love it, so to be considerate I only usually eat it when he's not at home.
He doesn't make weird noises about it, but he does go a bit green round the gills.
I'm allergic to eggs and the smell of one frying makes me heave, so he will only fry one if I'm not at home, he opens the door and window too.
It's a happy compromise.
Maybe this could work for you op?

This thread is batshit in a way that only MN can be. But glad he shut up, OP.

It really is

You've handled the nutters and shit-stirrers admirably, Hereinthismoment!

This thread has made it over to the 'other site' 😆

Which one? <fame>