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To say my choice of holiday destination is not cause of his car crash

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Flowerpower333 · 28/06/2023 20:49

I made the mistake of not getting dd’s passport sorted for a holiday and so we couldn’t go. We went somewhere in this country and my partner crashed his car. He says i should pay half the damage as it was my fault we were there for not checking the passport. My argument is where ever he was, it is nobody else’s responsibility but his how he drives and he has equal responsibility to me to check whether a passport is in date or not. He says because I booked the holiday and I wanted to go that it was my responsibility to check the passport.

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IncompleteSenten · 28/06/2023 20:51

He is ridiculous.
Unless you actually caused the accident it's his fault!

MarshmallowsOnToast · 28/06/2023 20:51

He's being a twat...

NoTeaNoShade · 28/06/2023 20:52

Oh dear

sweeneytoddsrazor · 28/06/2023 20:52

Doesn't he have insurance

Confrontayshunme · 28/06/2023 20:52

He is on glue, to put it mildly. And while the passport is annoying (couldn't he go without you?!) he is totally unreasonable to attribute his crap driving with you booking a domestic holiday. I can't believe any adult human is that thick.

Comtesse · 28/06/2023 20:52

Maybe it is your responsibility to check the passport but he crashed his own car - not you!

SemperIdem · 28/06/2023 20:52

Is he for real?

Elfandwellbeing · 28/06/2023 20:53

He is a fool. Do you love together, share a child, share a car?

Icedlatteplease · 28/06/2023 20:53

Do you have joint finances? Who lost out financially on the holiday? are they his kids

PaigeMatthews · 28/06/2023 20:53

well, what is he like the rest of the time as he sounds like an arsehole from this snap shot.

how much responsibility for the child does he normally take? What actually caused the accident?

PosiePerkinPootleFlump · 28/06/2023 20:54

Is he 3? My son used to do this kind of blame thing when he was as he couldn't cope with things going wrong. He'd grown out of it by 7 or 8 though.

MrsTerryPratchett · 28/06/2023 20:56

Blame is very powerful.

Thelondonone · 28/06/2023 21:00

You should possibly pay for any costs associated with cancelled holiday but that’s what his car insurance is for….

veryfluffyfluff · 28/06/2023 21:02

Is he always like this? Can he not take responsibility for his own actions?

orangeflags · 28/06/2023 21:05

Did you cut his brakes? If not then no

Flowerpower333 · 28/06/2023 21:06

I didnt realise I had to renew dd’s passport after 5 yrs as she is my only child but I think that is not just my fault. I do the vast majority of the organising of these things.
we are married and live together although we are in the process of amicably splitting up (his decision)

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Flowerpower333 · 28/06/2023 21:07

😂

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PrueRamsay · 28/06/2023 21:07

Is he a serial piss taker?

Please tell me he has insurance?

Tell him to fuck off! Do you live with this amazing specimen?

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 28/06/2023 21:08

Was he not insured?

Flowerpower333 · 28/06/2023 21:08

We have our own cars, live together

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Flowerpower333 · 28/06/2023 21:09

Yes but doesnt want to lose his no claims and feels like it is part,y my fault so I should pay something so he doesnt have to lose no claims

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Throwncrumbs · 28/06/2023 21:09

Flowerpower333 · 28/06/2023 21:06

I didnt realise I had to renew dd’s passport after 5 yrs as she is my only child but I think that is not just my fault. I do the vast majority of the organising of these things.
we are married and live together although we are in the process of amicably splitting up (his decision)

He’s a knob, but you know that. You are going to soon realise how lucky you are to be shot of this knob!

Flowerpower333 · 28/06/2023 21:10

He has insurance but thinks I should pay something rather than him doing that as he feels it is partly my fault. We are in the process of splitting up (his decision)

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veryfluffyfluff · 28/06/2023 21:11

Flowerpower333 · 28/06/2023 21:09

Yes but doesnt want to lose his no claims and feels like it is part,y my fault so I should pay something so he doesnt have to lose no claims

Tough shit. He is the one who crashed.

PrueRamsay · 28/06/2023 21:11

God! Just ignore him. When is he moving out?

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