To say my choice of holiday destination is not cause of his car crash

[Flowerpower333]

I made the mistake of not getting dd’s passport sorted for a holiday and so we couldn’t go. We went somewhere in this country and my partner crashed his car. He says i should pay half the damage as it was my fault we were there for not checking the passport. My argument is where ever he was, it is nobody else’s responsibility but his how he drives and he has equal responsibility to me to check whether a passport is in date or not. He says because I booked the holiday and I wanted to go that it was my responsibility to check the passport.

If he’s a good dad, why didn’t he check his daughter’s passport?

The child is both of yours so both of your responsibility to check the passport. His car however was entirely on him, it doesn't matter where in the world you are, it's the responsibility of the driver unless you, as a passenger, went off your nut and grabbed the wheel or something insane. He is a CF. I hope you show him this thread so he knows people think he is a grabby asshole.

With that logic I want my neighbour to pay up for my expensive cocktail because they stopped me for a chat as I was trying to head out the door and missed the happy hour as a result.

i was late tonight op im blaming you for making a thread

He's being ridiculous and he knows it.

Also, if you were the one who wanted the holiday ie he wouldn't have initiated it himself, then his point doesn't even make sense. He was always going to be in the UK on the day he crashed!

He’s a fucking idiot but you know that already.
And I’m shocked that 15 people think you’re being unreasonable ffs

Car accidents are shit and hassle but that’s what insurance is for. And no one died - that’s most important thing.

Tell him to protect his no claims bonus and fuck off

Ahaha. Get that fucker out of your house.

So the plonker reversed badly and because you weren’t abroad it’s somehow your fault.

When I’ve reversed into things in the past (only twice), I’ve checked for damage. Accepted it on my car and moved on. If it needed repair I’d decide insurance or private but I’d not involve my partner even if he was distracting me.

Why does he want to separate? You seem very calm about this considering you were still together on this holiday.

I cannot see how the two things are related. Lesson learned re the passport that if you book abroad check the passports of everyone. As you booked it you should have done that. The accident is down to him if he was driving and nothing to do with the holiday. He is just chancing his luck on trying to get you to pay. Tell him to pay or claim on insurance.

What a dweeb! The ONLY way I'd consider myself responsible (as a passenger) for another's crash would be if I MADE them crash physically (ie grabbing the wheel, putting my hands over their face, otherwise acting the fool) or I shouted something to make them swerve 'as a joke'.

But to say you're responsible because the two of you went to an agreed upon different location because of a lost passport? Don't be ridiculous. And that's all I'd tell him.....'don't be ridiculous', over and over and over.

When is he leaving? If paying half would mean he'd leave right away maybe it'd be worth the price!!!

He sounds totally batshit and a complete tit. I certainly wouldn't be paying anything.

So whose fault is it any other time he has an accident? Creep.

How ridiculous He's just trying to make you feel bad for the passport
Does he have valid insurance?

Tell him to walk away now
Kill 2 birds with 1 stone

The passport was/is equally both of your responsibilities. The car crash was his.

Not much of a man.

As far as I know, and I have been on this earth a very long time; someone's passport not being sorted has not been a listed reason for a car accident.

Even with a DD not having their PP sorted, one can still go in reverse without hitting something. Tell him that he should have known that before the car goes into gear, his brain needs to be in gear.

Other than that, you can offer to called whine-one-one and get him a wwwaaahhh-bulance.

His accident=his fault=his wallet/insurance

⬆I love this response!

I have heard of people telling their parents a variation of that. "I didn't ask to be born, so you are responsible to buy me a car/XBox/PS5/Apple watch/new cellphone etc." Makes me laugh every time.

If only that pesky wheel hadn't been invented....

I bet in some far-off cave, somewhere, there is a hieroglyphic portraying a man blaming a woman for their carelessness.

Oh, hell to the NO!
If my DH fell and broke his leg while we were out shopping for shoes for me, it STILL would not be my fault and I wouldn't have to break my leg also to keep it "even".

He has done a great job on your psyche by making you a perfect scapegoat for his failings. It was his car, he has insurance, it's his responsibility. Don't believe me? Call YOUR insurance company and give them the scenario. I am betting they could use the laugh.

I've just renewed my insurance. Pretty sure there wasn't a question about declaring an accident brought about by any non-drivers (or drivers, for that matter)forgetting to renew a passport.

Of course, he's a twat.

And luckily very soon an ex-twat (but still a twat)

Oh I had one like this. He had taken my DS and I out for the afternoon and we were stopped because he hadn't paid the car tax on his car. My fault apparently because I wanted to go out. Nah mate.

Reminds me of my mates ex bf who sent her a bill for hand of what his new tyres cost as her being in the passenger seat speeded up the wear and tear

I was reversing in a tricky spot once, was convinced that my car was scraping a wall. Asked my husband to look - he said fine. I continued.

Massive scrape.

Not his fault at all. I was the one in charge of the car.