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To say my choice of holiday destination is not cause of his car crash

202 replies

Flowerpower333 · 28/06/2023 20:49

I made the mistake of not getting dd’s passport sorted for a holiday and so we couldn’t go. We went somewhere in this country and my partner crashed his car. He says i should pay half the damage as it was my fault we were there for not checking the passport. My argument is where ever he was, it is nobody else’s responsibility but his how he drives and he has equal responsibility to me to check whether a passport is in date or not. He says because I booked the holiday and I wanted to go that it was my responsibility to check the passport.

OP posts:
veryfluffyfluff · 28/06/2023 21:12

Flowerpower333 · 28/06/2023 21:10

He has insurance but thinks I should pay something rather than him doing that as he feels it is partly my fault. We are in the process of splitting up (his decision)

Good - I'd see if the process can be sped up a bit.

Flowerpower333 · 28/06/2023 21:13

No we keep them separate

OP posts:
Frogmila · 28/06/2023 21:14

Obv hes talking bollox re crash but is DD his? If so then he is even more responsible as he could have checked everything and helped with the admin or found out the passport rules himself.

Theunamedcat · 28/06/2023 21:16

Is his no claims not protected?

Did you pull the wheel or scweem and scweem and scweem until your sick?

PaigeMatthews · 28/06/2023 21:16

Flowerpower333 · 28/06/2023 21:09

Yes but doesnt want to lose his no claims and feels like it is part,y my fault so I should pay something so he doesnt have to lose no claims

No. Just say no.

WaitingfortheTardis · 28/06/2023 21:17

Unless you held the out of date passport in front of his face whilst he was trying to drive, thus preventing him from seeing and causing him to crash it seems unlikely that you are in any way to blame for this. Was anyone else involved?

EllaRaines · 28/06/2023 21:18

Pleased get shot of this dim witted greedy fool.

And tell him what I said.

EllaRaines · 28/06/2023 21:18

@WaitingfortheTardis Grin

LaBefana · 28/06/2023 21:19

@Confrontayshunme

He is on glue

I love this! OP, tell him that there is something he can do without a car, and that is to jog on.

Chersfrozenface · 28/06/2023 21:19

Did this particular road in the UK rise up and collide with his car when a French road would have stayed flat? Did a tree leap out and wallop his car when a Spanish tree would have remained motionless?

If not, what difference did it make what country you were in?

What a plonker.

Backstreets · 28/06/2023 21:21

CF extraordinaire

Flowerpower333 · 28/06/2023 21:22

Is it not both parents’ responsibility though? He said he wanted to go, It was my idea but we hadn’t been abroad for 7 years! He said he was bothered we didn’t go, so he did ant to go. I just suggested it and booked it after we agreed. Does that make it all my responsibility?

OP posts:
EnjoyingTheSilence · 28/06/2023 21:26

He’s an idiot but you already know this. Speed up the split, you will be much better off. And no, you are not at fault, he’s a dick

RandomMess · 28/06/2023 21:27

Even if the passport issue was your fault who on Earth does that make him being in a car accident your fault.

It was either his, the other drivers or a mix of both of them.

twoandcooplease · 28/06/2023 21:27

Comtesse · 28/06/2023 20:52

Maybe it is your responsibility to check the passport but he crashed his own car - not you!

Why is it ops responsibility when the child is both of theirs?
Shared parental responsibility doesn't apply here ... why?

piedbeauty · 28/06/2023 21:29

What an idiot. The crash was the driver's fault. Doesn't he have insurance? Are you all ok?

Mum2jenny · 28/06/2023 21:30

OP your partner is a muppet (could say worse) but it’s not your problem. You’re probably better being separated.

LaBefana · 28/06/2023 21:30

Flowerpower333 · 28/06/2023 21:22

Is it not both parents’ responsibility though? He said he wanted to go, It was my idea but we hadn’t been abroad for 7 years! He said he was bothered we didn’t go, so he did ant to go. I just suggested it and booked it after we agreed. Does that make it all my responsibility?

Are you seriously asking whether it is any of your responsibility at all? Please get real. Your husband is a twat. Does he shift blame on to you about other things? Is that a habit of his? Is this even real?

If he crashed his car while he was driving it, the cause was either his driving, or some accidental thing, and could have just as easily happened while he was driving to a builders' merchant or to work or anything nothing to do with the holiday you didn't have. Please tell us you aren't trying to find a way of agreeing that it was your fault. PLEASE.

Clarinet1 · 28/06/2023 21:32

Don’t give in OP. He was driving!

ejbaxa · 28/06/2023 21:35

What a fucking halfwit. Why don't you tell him to ask his parents for the money, as by his logic, it was clearly their fault that he was born.

Thedogscollar · 28/06/2023 21:35

God some men talk utter shite.

Zanatdy · 28/06/2023 21:36

What a dick. Can’t be check the passport anyway? Why is it your responsibility to make sure your daughter has a passport and not him

PonyPatter44 · 28/06/2023 21:37

Hes an idiot, but you already know that. Are you afraid of him?

ThatFraggle · 28/06/2023 21:38

Is it his dd? Could he not have checked the passport. Are you employed as the family PA?

Qbish · 28/06/2023 21:40

Your partner is an arsehole. HTH.

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