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To say my choice of holiday destination is not cause of his car crash

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Flowerpower333 · 28/06/2023 20:49

I made the mistake of not getting dd’s passport sorted for a holiday and so we couldn’t go. We went somewhere in this country and my partner crashed his car. He says i should pay half the damage as it was my fault we were there for not checking the passport. My argument is where ever he was, it is nobody else’s responsibility but his how he drives and he has equal responsibility to me to check whether a passport is in date or not. He says because I booked the holiday and I wanted to go that it was my responsibility to check the passport.

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MummyJ36 · 29/06/2023 19:46

Lol what?

To say my choice of holiday destination is not cause of his car crash
FloydPepper · 29/06/2023 19:55

Comtesse · 28/06/2023 20:52

Maybe it is your responsibility to check the passport but he crashed his own car - not you!

Yep. If we couldn’t go on holiday because you fucked up, I’d be very annoyed. That’s on you

but his accident is on him.

Completelydonechick · 29/06/2023 19:58

Yeah! He is mental!

sweetdreamstenasee · 29/06/2023 20:30

No you’re not in the wrong and quite honestly I think you say something like ‘I can’t actually believe you’re asking me for money for crashing your car, have you no shame?’

ReadingSoManyThreads · 29/06/2023 20:34

Bloody chancer!! 😂

Janus · 29/06/2023 20:48

Why is it the person who booked the holiday to check everything? Should they also book insurance, check all passports, arrange the parking, work out what bags to pack etc? No, in our house we remind and check everything out loud together. I often check the passports but so does my husband to make sure we are ok, it’s being a team.

CheshireCat1 · 29/06/2023 20:54

Ask him to move out and take his wrecked car with him.

Comeonbarbiebrianharvey · 29/06/2023 21:03

Is he 12?

Message him back

Hi Joey just checking the highway code... can't find the page where it says if you reverse into something it is actually your wife's fault, because you were only on a staycation because she forgot to check the passports? Maybe you're just a shit driver? LOL.

Does he actually believe this shit??? Ungrateful shit why didn't he check the passport

CoffeeMama1 · 29/06/2023 21:08

What an insufferable idiot. You h are in no way responsible for the crash, nor should you be solely responsible for the passports. The audacity to blame you for his crash, I can't even!

joycies · 29/06/2023 21:28

Spherical objects !

Bogeyes · 29/06/2023 21:45

What an idiot. Dump him asap....don't accept liability....he's a knob

Catsmere · 29/06/2023 22:49

If it was minor bumper damage, why doesn't he just pay it instead of claiming? I did that when someone sideswiped me. Informed my insurer but didn't claim. I'd rather not have my fees go up.

Flowerpower333 · 29/06/2023 23:15

Its £2200

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Flowerpower333 · 29/06/2023 23:18

How did i fuck up on my own though? Whey is it only the womans responsibility to check passports?

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FloydPepper · 29/06/2023 23:19

Flowerpower333 · 29/06/2023 23:18

How did i fuck up on my own though? Whey is it only the womans responsibility to check passports?

It’s not but in your post you said you’d made the error. I presumed that meant you’d made the error.

Flowerpower333 · 29/06/2023 23:26

I did but surely it was 50/50 our fault?

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toxic44 · 29/06/2023 23:47

The passport is one issue. The car thing is a different issue. The two are not connected. If he argues the accident happened because had the passport been renewed he would not have been in the accident area, you might say had you never met him you would not have forgotten the passport, so that was his fault.

FloydPepper · 29/06/2023 23:51

Flowerpower333 · 29/06/2023 23:26

I did but surely it was 50/50 our fault?

Maybe, maybe not. We don’t know

i was just going on what you’d said.

timesaretight · 30/06/2023 00:14

Get rid.

ChellyT · 30/06/2023 01:54

Flowerpower333 · 28/06/2023 21:06

I didnt realise I had to renew dd’s passport after 5 yrs as she is my only child but I think that is not just my fault. I do the vast majority of the organising of these things.
we are married and live together although we are in the process of amicably splitting up (his decision)

@Flowerpower333 You are human, we forget to renew loads of different things through our lifetimes, hopefully we all live and learn.

Please write a list of the top 10 things you have always wanted to do and couldn't/didn't because you were married to this dick of a human. And get onto that list as soon as you split from this dick of a human... It will be no better way to show you why you should have moved on sooner.

PS please look after you and your child

Catsmere · 30/06/2023 02:51

Flowerpower333 · 29/06/2023 23:15

Its £2200

Ah, that is a lot. Bugger. Still, it's solely his fault and his responsibility to pay for it whichever way he chooses. Good thing you're going to be free of him!

MargotBamborough · 30/06/2023 03:11

That's absolutely ridiculous.

Quiverer · 30/06/2023 03:33

There is no connection whatsoever between the accident and the passport issue. Is he normally this thick?

honeynutcornfllakes · 30/06/2023 03:38

Passports are both parent's responsibility, however whoever physically made the booking probably should have checked before proceeding with booking and paying. I wouldn't book a flight without being certain of passport expiry dates.

But that has fuck all to do with how he drove his car. Tell him no. Especially as he has decided he no longer wants to be in the marriage, he doesn't get to ask things like this anymore.

Juced · 30/06/2023 06:41

Urghhh he sounds like an absolute ball bag, he’s totally doing you a favour by choosing to split with you!

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