Ideation that girl babies are better than boy babies.

[Supremechicken]

In my family it’s very heavily opinionated that boy babies are an ‘aww better luck next time’ and girl babies are an amazing gift.

My sisters were saying the other day that when they see a gender reveal on Facebook they don’t tend to like or react to the boy ones but the girls they feel excited for.

I don’t really see the difference .

Is there something I’m missing?

Maybe it's your family. I don't really know anyone who thinks like this - they are just happy the new baby is doing well.

I also see lots of "dad wants a boy" posts. As if a girl couldn't kick a football. Or a boy would naturally be sporty.

Most of the world value boys over girls so YABU.

I don't know anyone with this attitude. Little boys are adorable and so much fun, same as little girls. Your family sounds strange.

I know that in some cultures, it's the opposite. Having a boy (A SON) is celebrated more than having a daughter because boys seem to be more important or seen as a higher status in marriage than girls.

I don't think either is right but I think the girl ones seem to be more because of all the cute things marketed for girls. It's "more fun" having a girl than a boy or buying things for a girl than a boy, if you're into these things.

I do see a few dads who want to have their "daddy's little girl", and mums who want their "mini me" but other than that, I don't see what you say as often as the opposite.

I selfishly wanted a daughter more than a son... I know it isn't very logical as a child could have any personality and interests. I have one of each now and am pleased that in reality I love DS just as much as DD

Aww that’s awful and pretty sad. I love a baby, boy or girl.
My children are complete opposites to the stereotype of what a boy and girl ‘should’ be, my son is the sweetest, most angelic thing ever whereas my daughter is the Tasmanian devil 🤣🤣 still waiting on what my youngest boy is gonna be like. I don’t think I could survive another girl based on my daughter 🙈
I have come across a few people who seem to prefer girls for some reason 🤷🏼‍♀️ and shops have so many girls clothes compared to the limited choice for boys, I find.

Baby is a baby. I want healthy and happy. The sex makes it easier to pick a name. But that's where it stops tbh.

are fucked up.

I think in usa and uk girl babies are more valued.
I’ve seen comments from women with girls who pity mums of boys but not the other way around.
I’ve had friends upset about having a boy , even though they already have a girl.

personally I think it’s more about the grown up relationship with your daughter and not wanted to be a dreaded MIL. In other cultures it’s the other way round.

Not very nice of your family tbh.

If there's any discrepancy within a culture, it's more common to put a higher 'value' on a boy than a girl, especially if boys are expected to bring more financial support for the family than a girl would, once grown.

In my family, both sexes are welcomed and celebrated. Though there are probably times when there might be a personal preference for some reason, one isn't considered better than the other.

I’m surprised other people haven’t experienced this. When I found out my second baby was another boy (which I was delighted about) I had lots of “oh well, never mind” and “suppose you’ll be having a third then, to get a girl” type comments. It was infuriating!

OP I see this too. Also if someone has a girl, I rarely hear, ‘trying for a boy next’ comments as much as, ‘trying for a girl next’ if they have a boy.

I’m pregnant at the moment and really nervous to find out as I know there won’t be any excitement for a boy.

Not sure what happened to my post there. 😬

Your family are seriously fucked up. Don’t let them near any children you have whether they’re boys or girls. People with these views mess kids up.

That's odd and not something I've come across.

I've heard it the other way round more often, apparently boy babies are more easy going while girls are more volatile. I remember when DD was a baby taking her to the weighing clinic and her getting slightly whingy while being put on the scales and an acquaintance who had recently had a boy and was in the queue behind me saying "See, girls cry all the time, glad I only have boys."

Do they have dc yet? Are they just girls

Well the gender disappointment threads on MN are always women who are having a boy and wanted a girl.
I personally don't understand it.

My sisters both have girls through lime tampons and husbands abstaining for several weeks to lower sperm count.

Huh?

My DD was the most chilled baby ever.

Exactly the same as some of my nephews and nieces.

Lime tampons? Is that a tampon soaked in lime juice and inserted? I'm wincing at the thought.

I've seen and heard this a lot! I have two gorgeous boys and pregnant with our final baby. We're having a surprise but even the midwife said 'If it's a boy, would you go for a fourth to try and get a girl?' 😬