Page 2 | Ideation that girl babies are better than boy babies.

Supremechicken · 2023-06-24T18:41:28+00:00

In my family it’s very heavily opinionated that boy babies are an ‘aww better luck next time’ and girl babies are an amazing gift. My sisters were saying the other day that when they see a gender reveal on Facebook they don’t tend to like or react to the boy ones but the girls they feel excited for. I don’t really see the difference . Is there something I’m missing?

Kelpi · 24/06/2023 20:03

I've seen a lot of this. If you look at gender disappointment threads on here, 90%+ are about boys, especially second and subsequent boys. I think a lot of people are happy to have a boy but only if they get at least one girl too.

In my family (not by me) girls are seen as much easier, calmer and generally better, whilst boys are seen as immature, loud and rough playing. I only have boys and was often told what a shame it was that DS2 was another boy. My boys are hard work but that's more to do with them being ND than their sex.

PinkButtercups · 24/06/2023 20:04

Supremechicken · 24/06/2023 19:54

I’m pregnant at the moment and really nervous to find out as I know there won’t be any excitement for a boy.

Your family are weird AF and rather nasty actually.

Do not let them take this moment from you. Their actions are pathetic.

I have 2 DS's and 1 DD.

DD & DS are twins and I'd never allow the comments.

Reugny · 24/06/2023 20:05

JumbledE · 24/06/2023 20:03

I've seen and heard this a lot! I have two gorgeous boys and pregnant with our final baby. We're having a surprise but even the midwife said 'If it's a boy, would you go for a fourth to try and get a girl?' 😬

As my DP has girl children the midwife said to me "Are you going to have another so they have a brother?"

"Nope I'm not having anymore"

Queenoftelly · 24/06/2023 20:05

I have definitely seen it a lot on mumsnet. Women feeling disappointed because they are having a boy and wanted a girl.

I've heard it a bit in real life, usually people with boys talking about trying for a girl. My husbands family seem to prefer girls and play up to the stereotypes. Also hear a lot of talk of boys being boisterous, noisy, naughty, rough, overly energetic. Girls being easy and sitting around colouring.

SnuggleBuggleBoo · 24/06/2023 20:06

I'd be hugely disappointed to have a boy. One of the reasons I've decided not to have any children. I dislike the things boys are stereotypically interested in - vehicles, football, fighting, farts, superheros, dinosaurs, guns, their genitaliia, monsters, rough-and-tumble etc (and yes, of course I know that not all boys are like that and it's perfectly possible to have a daughter who is, but statistically speaking it's far more likely with a boy, and if I had a boy who wasn't into all that stuff I'd be worrying he was so different from his peers he'd be ostracised!)

In my experience boys have a completely different style of play than girls. Set up a small world zoo and a girl will have little families walking around looking at the animals, buying an ice-cream at the cafe, a zookeeper giving a talk... A boy will have the lions driving the zoo jeep (which can also fly, maybe occasionally squashing the little people flat!?) I just can't relate to that. It annoys me.

Boys grow into men and I, for the most part, don't like men. Aggressive, sex- crazed, selfish, intimidating, misogynistic, all that fun stuff. It's depressing to think you can plough your life into trying to ensure your son turns out right and then he goes and grooms a bloody 15 year old when he's in his mid 30s (one of my school mates, a former 'head boy', popular lad and pillar of the community did just this). I'd hate to have a son.

LolaSmiles · 24/06/2023 20:06

I've seen a lot of this. If you look at gender disappointment threads on here, 90%+ are about boys, especially second and subsequent boys. I think a lot of people are happy to have a boy but only if they get at least one girl too
I've noticed that on here too. It's really sad.
One of my friends knows someone who had 4 or 5 children because she was devestated not to have had a girl yet. 🙄

It's part of a really weird worldview in my opinion.

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Supremechicken · 24/06/2023 20:07

I will be grateful regardless, just sad to hear jokes such as ‘no hospital balloons if it’s a blue one’

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Oysterbabe · 24/06/2023 20:08

Supremechicken · 24/06/2023 20:01

My sisters both have girls through lime tampons and husbands abstaining for several weeks to lower sperm count.

No they don't. They have girls through random chance.

bakewellbride · 24/06/2023 20:08

It's so sad and I don't get it!

I have one of each and they are equally amazing!

Reallybadidea · 24/06/2023 20:09

Just another facet of the idea that girls/women are a commodity IMHO.

Reugny · 24/06/2023 20:09

Queenoftelly · 24/06/2023 20:05

I have definitely seen it a lot on mumsnet. Women feeling disappointed because they are having a boy and wanted a girl.

I've heard it a bit in real life, usually people with boys talking about trying for a girl. My husbands family seem to prefer girls and play up to the stereotypes. Also hear a lot of talk of boys being boisterous, noisy, naughty, rough, overly energetic. Girls being easy and sitting around colouring.

They need to meet my DD!

A lot of the boys in my family, so her cousins, are easy going, calm, empathic and can/could entertain themselves as children.

Then again at least one of their parents is like that - so perhaps these parents need to look in the mirror!

Fairislefandango · 24/06/2023 20:11

Your family sound weird and not very nice, OP. It's not normal behaviour.

steff13 · 24/06/2023 20:12

Supremechicken · 24/06/2023 20:01

My sisters both have girls through lime tampons and husbands abstaining for several weeks to lower sperm count.

No.

Reugny · 24/06/2023 20:13

LolaSmiles · 24/06/2023 20:06

I've seen a lot of this. If you look at gender disappointment threads on here, 90%+ are about boys, especially second and subsequent boys. I think a lot of people are happy to have a boy but only if they get at least one girl too
I've noticed that on here too. It's really sad.
One of my friends knows someone who had 4 or 5 children because she was devestated not to have had a girl yet. 🙄

It's part of a really weird worldview in my opinion.

I know families of 7.

One to get a boy that never turned up.

Another to get a girl which did happen. She was bloody spoilt particularly due to the age gap between her and her brothers. She use to terrorise her brother who was nearest in age to her. I have nothing to do with them now.

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Supremechicken · 24/06/2023 20:13

They do have girls and swear by it. Obviously I’ve not tried that as I think it’s very slim it actually works and my DH wouldn’t entertain it even if I wanted too!

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Stickybackplasticbear · 24/06/2023 20:14

I mean most men are awful so I get it... But I feel like hopefully you can make that not the case if you try.

PinkButtercups · 24/06/2023 20:14

Supremechicken · 24/06/2023 20:01

My sisters both have girls through lime tampons and husbands abstaining for several weeks to lower sperm count.

Whattttt!!

As if they believe that.

Not that there is a 50/50 chance at all 🤣.

I have twins because the day I conceived them I are a double yolk egg so..

PinkButtercups · 24/06/2023 20:15

Ate*

Oysterbabe · 24/06/2023 20:16

Supremechicken · 24/06/2023 20:13

They do have girls and swear by it. Obviously I’ve not tried that as I think it’s very slim it actually works and my DH wouldn’t entertain it even if I wanted too!

It does nothing at all. They're making a baby not a margarita.

MidnightInAustin · 24/06/2023 20:16

My sisters both have girls through lime tampons and husbands abstaining for several weeks to lower sperm count.

Frightening that these people are parents and are in charge of the well-being of children. Poor kids.

Queenoftelly · 24/06/2023 20:18

SnuggleBuggleBoo · 24/06/2023 20:06

I'd be hugely disappointed to have a boy. One of the reasons I've decided not to have any children. I dislike the things boys are stereotypically interested in - vehicles, football, fighting, farts, superheros, dinosaurs, guns, their genitaliia, monsters, rough-and-tumble etc (and yes, of course I know that not all boys are like that and it's perfectly possible to have a daughter who is, but statistically speaking it's far more likely with a boy, and if I had a boy who wasn't into all that stuff I'd be worrying he was so different from his peers he'd be ostracised!)

In my experience boys have a completely different style of play than girls. Set up a small world zoo and a girl will have little families walking around looking at the animals, buying an ice-cream at the cafe, a zookeeper giving a talk... A boy will have the lions driving the zoo jeep (which can also fly, maybe occasionally squashing the little people flat!?) I just can't relate to that. It annoys me.

Boys grow into men and I, for the most part, don't like men. Aggressive, sex- crazed, selfish, intimidating, misogynistic, all that fun stuff. It's depressing to think you can plough your life into trying to ensure your son turns out right and then he goes and grooms a bloody 15 year old when he's in his mid 30s (one of my school mates, a former 'head boy', popular lad and pillar of the community did just this). I'd hate to have a son.

Interesting point of view but a bit sad in my opinion,

Of course you are perfectly entitled to your feelings and opinions but I never really understand the idea people have of having a child so that they can share their own interests. Dangerous road to go down.

Children are their own person, it really doesn't matter whether they like cars and dinosaurs or dolls and ballet. A parent is their to nurture their child to be the best version of themselves.

thepantsoffmethod · 24/06/2023 20:18

Supremechicken · 24/06/2023 20:01

My sisters both have girls through lime tampons and husbands abstaining for several weeks to lower sperm count.

Give me strength.

Queenoftelly · 24/06/2023 20:21

Also the whole don't want a boy cos men are awful,

You're l having a girl with a man so presumably you think he's pretty amazing or you wouldn't want him to be your child's dad?

Oysterbabe · 24/06/2023 20:21

MidnightInAustin · 24/06/2023 20:16

My sisters both have girls through lime tampons and husbands abstaining for several weeks to lower sperm count.

Frightening that these people are parents and are in charge of the well-being of children. Poor kids.

Right? Imagine when their daughters are grown and coupling off.
'Time to shove a lime up your fanny and make me a grandaughter'

Itsadogone · 24/06/2023 20:26

I had never picked up on this until I had my first baby - a boy. I was pregnant at the same time as a friend (who was having a girl) and there were so many comments about how glad everyone was that hers was a girl. I felt a bit like a spare part as if having a boy was somehow a second place prize! I’m now having a girl and as much as I am of course delighted to be getting to experience both, it’s annoying me a bit every time someone acts overly amazed that I’m having a girl. Ive had my MIL saying ‘eventually! A girl!’ I just get this feeling from everyone that this is some sort of cherry on the cake because I’m now having a girl.

My friend even said she would have been disappointed if she’d had a boy, when I was sitting there and have a boy 🤷🏼‍♀️ Both are amazing and I have absolutely loved having a boy! Would have been delighted to have had two little boys too