Ideation that girl babies are better than boy babies.

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In my family it’s very heavily opinionated that boy babies are an ‘aww better luck next time’ and girl babies are an amazing gift.

My sisters were saying the other day that when they see a gender reveal on Facebook they don’t tend to like or react to the boy ones but the girls they feel excited for.

I don’t really see the difference .

Is there something I’m missing?

Omg I agree it's such bullshit isn't it.

Enjoy your cuddly baby bears from a fellow mum of boys who knows.

Do you have any Ds

I’m guessing not

Just curious as to what ethnicity/culture you are, OP?

I have 2 boys and 4 girls and loved all my babies. In fact, I love all the babies everywhere.

Historically, having a girl was
Inferior and in many cultures has/had dire consequences.
It's nice that they're being celebrated now.
And boys and stinky

It's definitely a UK thing. My best friend, who already had a daughter, 'joked' she didn't want a boy when she was pregnant the second time - she actually went on to have a boy and she has said in the past that at least she has her girl....! Someone I work with, pregnant with her first, has said several times she hopes she has a girl. She wants to wear mummy and daughter matching outfits.

I have two boys and would love a third boy, but I'm too old now.

I've seen this a few times where the parents were desperate for a girl and had 4, 5 even 6 boys before eventually getting the girl, who was then spoiled rotten and treat like a proper princess.

Meanwhile the boys were completely overlooked and often neglected, crying out for attention and always blamed. I think it's so sad cos these boys knew they weren't really wanted.

It's really affected their relationships with one another and their mum and there's a huge amount of sibling rivalry even now and they're all in their 30s.

Most of the world lives in a cesspit not in the least because of this.

I think if you feel this way prior to getting pregnant, you have no business trying for a child.

It's a horrible way to think - okay some say they can't help it and if those feelings come on after you're already pregnant is one thing.

To go into it knowing you will be disappointed and resentful if it's the 'wrong' sex is moronic - there is a 50/50 chance.

As an aside, OP I wouldn't tolerate your families attitude at all.

This is probably the saddest thing I’ve ever read on mumsnet.

I think people just don't like to speak negatively about a girl baby because it seems old fashioned (the desire to have a son and heir and so on). It would feel really quite antiquated and sexist to suggest someone should "try again" for a boy after having a girl but somehow some people still think it's reasonable when it's in reverse?

Also, generally people who talk about these things are women and lots of women either like the idea of having a daughter to connect with over feminine things, or assume that other women do.

Sad but at least this person has acknowledged it and chosen not to have a child as they know there is a half chance it will be a boy, even if we don't agree with her generalization of the male population.

Well quite, but not having a child isn’t really the issue here. This poster must encounter many boys and men in their lives, all of which are labelled as above. That’s sad.

I have a fifteen year gap between my dd and her two older brothers and everyone seemed to assume I was having another baby to have a girl - all I wanted was a healthy baby. My two ds were so different from each other so I assumed that any baby I had would be different from his or her brothers.
Mind you I did enjoy my daughter’s childhood as she was so different from her brothers.

Just. Feckin. BATSHIT!!

You have GOT to be taking the piss!

Tbh there are times when I really dislike men, the entitlement, their attitude, laziness, selfishness etc. and that very much is based on most of the men I have sadly ever met.

I have only two truly decent men in my life so yes I guess from that end it is a shame that more of us don't have a positive experience of the males.

I’ve heard it a few times about my baby due this summer (a girl) - apparently she will be ‘easier’ than my son was.

really?!?!?

*the male species

Another handful of posters coming on here to say things that weren't generally ever true for the UK or Europe to normalise their communities and cultures based on subjugation and hatred of women - that they elect to support. Some people just can't think outside of what their upbringing and communities taught them.

Never been like this in the civilised world, not normal. Which is why you presumably choose to live here.

Going back at least 3 generations, strict Irish Catholic family here, the boys are worshipped and the girls are tolerated by their mothers. I like to think I broke that chain with my daughter.

Disclaimer: of course not all Irish families thank goodness, before anyone thinks that’s the case.

My Nan wasn’t allowed to use contraception and boys were welcomed (x5) but not the two girls. It was the mothers side rejecting the daughters not the fathers.

I must admit I was one of these people and I now have a 6 month old son who I absolutely adore.

I come from quite a heavily female dominated family and I felt like I wouldn’t know what to do with a boy, I don’t like football or marvel films or any typical boy activities. I think I look at boy mums as always coming second best to girl mums and girl mums have a friend for life, where as boys drift more to the girls family.

Obviously this is all worrying about a future 20+ years away, but that was my reasoning behind the feelings.

I would have been happy with either gender but always imaged myself as a boy mum. We found out at 16 weeks we were having a boy and were so happy. Our friends and family love him but yes I did get some comments “oh I really thought you’d have a girl!” “Maybe a second baby will be a girl”

Sometimes when people tell me it would be lovely for us to have a girl next I just reply with “actually I’d love to have 2 boys”

Well globally, this simply isn't true, males are valued much more highly, to such an extent that there are estimated to be hundreds of millions of women missing from the world's population, mostly because they didn't even get to be born in the first place.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Missing_women

Please do share. Is it because male are violent abusers? Because they abandon their birth family on marriage? Their kids others are less frilly? Their toys aren't fun enough? Perhaps you could add another boring cliche to the list? I feel its important to school all my boys in Al lthe ways they've failed me by their male father giving the wrong chromosome. Typical man, can't do anything right 🙄

Agree with @LittleMG boys are simply amazing. I have 2 boys, they are both so loving, caring and gentle. Always giving cuddles and telling me how much they love me.

When I am working from home, they always make me little pictures to put on my desk.

When my second son was born he completed our family. I am so unbelievably grateful for my 2 boys 💙💙

There is an element of truth in this. I have 2 boys and was 'consoled' by people including my pwn parents about not having a girl. I mean.. wtaf? People tory out the line that a daughter is for life and a son is a son until he meets a wife etc. Was commiserated with about how I could not 'go girly shopping' with a DD. I have never gone girly shopping in my life - certainly not with my mother.

madness. I have two gorgeous children. That is a blessing.