Ideation that girl babies are better than boy babies.

[Supremechicken]

In my family it’s very heavily opinionated that boy babies are an ‘aww better luck next time’ and girl babies are an amazing gift.

My sisters were saying the other day that when they see a gender reveal on Facebook they don’t tend to like or react to the boy ones but the girls they feel excited for.

I don’t really see the difference .

Is there something I’m missing?

Lime tampons 😂

My Dh phoned me up to check it was the lemon or lime tampons I needed from the Coop. When I had stopped laughing I said regular green. This puts a new spin on things.

Not too mention the fact that who has dc in order to produce gc?!

I am like this OP, sorry. I would have been very disappointed if I had a boy. In fact, and I know this is quite awful , but if there's someone who I particularly dislike, I get quite happy when I find out that they are having a boy 😳, I don't know why.Irrational I know, but it is just how I feel , and I cant help it. That said, if I had a boy, mother nature would have made me love him more than anything in the world anyway I am sure. Some boys are lovely, I just won't be happy with one.

In what way? Ask him why he loves his Mom less than you do. Ask him why he's less invested in his relationship than you are? Ask him why he pushed his family out over the wedding and let you take over with yours? Did you also refuse to let his family visit the baby as quickly because it was only the Dad's family? Do you make more effort to see your family with the kids because their relationship matters more?

Think of it this way. Your sons are learning how to treat you by seeing how their Dad treats his Mom. If my sons do, I'll be thrilled. DH speaks to her several times a week, she's down ours once of twice a week, I also have a good relationship with her, I'd love to have three lovely DILs like ME, sins who love me as much as their wives love their Mom's. and lots of grandkids raised to love me how my boys love MIL

I think you are the exception rather than the rule though!

Huh?

Partner goes out with his mum regularly to the cinema etc but there is a difference in their bond between a mum and son to a mum and daughter.

Plenty of people don't have that relationship with their parents though. I'm much closer to my dad as we are more similar.

A son is a son :till he gets a wife. But a daughter is a daughter all of her life.

Are people not actually embarrassed to think these things never mind repeat them?

Why would you bring a child into the world knowing there was a 5p/50 chance you'd he unhappy his entire life and that this would taint his entire life? Are you intending to keep on with this experiment of having kids you have a good chance of not liking?

Just wait until the birth 🤷‍♀️ oh look I had a healthy baby, heray, great! The birth was my sex reveals, no one ever commented on the sex as there was an actual baby so it wasn't the focus, they were here and healthy 🥳. Finding out the sex before the birth is like opening your Christmas presents early. If you wait until Christmas day it's far more fun and exciting.

but if there's someone who I particularly dislike, I get quite happy when I find out that they are having a boy

That's really strange!

Some really weird comments on this thread.

No OP your sisters aren’t normal, and they are strange. Wanting a healthy baby is normal, being so overly invested in the gender I find bizarre. I promise you the parents of children that have disabilities couldn’t have cared less about the gender unless it was a condition strongly tied to gender like OTC affecting baby boys and not girls.

IME anyone overly invested in the gender of a baby is basing it all on stereotypes. If you don’t want a boy because your husband is shit with his family then sounds like a shit husband and a shit son. Mine is very close with his mother and my MIL is only a grandmother due to her sons having children as both her daughters have opted to remain childless. So the BS comment about daughters give you grandchildren one day isn’t true! I also don’t have an issue with my MIL as we treat each other with respect as I hope to do with any future sons or daughters in law.

I feel deeply sorry for the babies born into these families that place so much emphasis on who they will be based on their gender. I know lots of sons close to their mothers and lots of estranged daughters who had awful mother/daughter relationships and so I’d caution against going too much off what other people tell you.

And Op you don’t have to share gender with your family if you think they will be shitty about it.

My 8 yo boy won't watch them. We are going to see Diary of a Teenage Kraken soon tho

God i bloody love Harry Potter. :)

@Screamingabdabz I don't think so, I have a big, extended family & lots of the sons are close to their mothers. Plus I have a lot of female friends & relatives who have complicated relationships with their mothers.

This is horrible to read.

Socialisation and conditioning of babies begins from the moment of conception and woman's sex anticipation or scan results. How they treat their bump, what they say, what they buy, how they behave.
By age 1.5 it's quite set and by age 4 almost fully completed with stereotypes ingrained and undesirable behaviour associated with different sex eliminated.
Ever been to baby/toddler ballet or baby/toddler football? None of the preverbal 13 month olds asked to do ballet or play football yet the ballet class will have 95% girls and football probably 80-90% boys. None of those children showed or voiced a preference, the choice was made for them.
From birth, children observe their family and copy what mum or dad does. That's why (pariicularly in those families where mum does babies and cleaning and dad does fun and advancement in the world of fun and advancement) you'll end up with a girl twin playing with a baby and a boy twin playing with power rangers. One knows she looks more like mum and the other knows he's more like the hypothetical dad and copies associated behaviours. Plus mum or dad would have given subtle clues about their preferred choice of toys for the kids when the child chose toys not typed to.their sex.
It happens very early and there is nothing biological about it.
Almost all young boys are drawn to babies and buggies but how many parents have actually supplied their baby son with one to play with.

Your last two lines contradict each other, if you love them that much you likely would be happy after all with a baby boy. He’s not someone else’s he’s yours

Had it with my first, MIL had two boys and all we ever head was how nice it would be for MIL to get a girl and never mind anyone else. Got on my nerves so much the thought a boy would have been a disappointment or it wasn’t nice for my parents. I have a friend who had the “misfortune” to have two boys first and then the longed for daughter came along and is so spoilt that I have a wee laugh to myself when the mum can’t understand why she has such a “diva”. You reap what you sow.

Almost all young boys are drawn to babies and buggies but how many parents have actually supplied their baby son with one to play with.

Me, although we already had it. Have friends with only boys who bought pushchairs etc.

I understand wanting that mother/daughter relationship, but there is something special about a mother/son relationship too. Both can be really lovely in different ways.

Love my boy, and there is something about having a little boy and knowing he will one day be a man, taller and stronger than me that makes me really emotional.

^this

Some really quite awful misandry on this thread which makes pretty depressing reading…

Due to being a carrier for a genetic illness that only really affects boys, Ive grown up wanting girls only. Being pregnant with a boy would likely mean a termination of the pregnancy, or a very hard life for both me and the baby.

Thats not a problem anymore, as I wont be using my eggs, but I still want a girl. Its all Ive ever known, so Im sure I will be a bit disappointed it I end up having a boy. However, I am sure I will love a boy just as much as I will a girl, once Ive gotten used to the idea!

If I see someone has had a son I do feel a bit sorry for them tbh