Woman showing entire bum in public when bending over - what would you have done?

[Avondale89]

I was in the queue to pay in clothes shop today, standing behind a woman with her friend, both with babies in prams. It was outrageously hot and so she was wearing a short denim skirt that was pulled up high and a vest top. Obviously nothing wrong with that, however she bent over a few times to get things out of the basket under the pram and in doing do flashed her entire bum and thong. There were also mirrors to the side and behind us, so presumably this was also reflected to the entire shop. It was a proper full moon, not just a bit of bum cheek.

It didn’t seem as though she had noticed and her friend couldn’t see from her angle. I couldn’t help thinking that if I was in that scenario that I’d want to know. However I didn’t say anything because it’s none of my business and I didn’t want to embarrass her. Also maybe she knew and didn’t care 🤷🏻‍♀️

But, what would you have done/wanted someone else to do if you were in that situation? I do live up north in a place where strangers do talk to each other regularly FYI!

YABU - I should have quietly told her that her bum was exposed to the shop

YANBU - leave her to it

No way would I have said anything. She knew. No one wears a thong with a mini skirt unless they want the shock value.

I had this in A&E, someone was wearing leggings and when she bent over almost all her arse was exposed as the leggings slipped down. I would have thought she would have felt them slipping down as she bent over and would want to yank them back up when she stood upright again but she made no attempt.
She was taken off by a nurse before I had a chance to say anything and didn’t see her again.

I now have fabletics "ass out" clothing on my feed.

Times have changed, I think it's the way the volume and access to nudity and nude images has changed, some things aren't as shocking as they would have been ten years ago.

God I'm old.

@Avondale89 Something similar happened to me a few years ago (minus the tong) and I was very grateful to the lady who told me about it. I think she just said something like "excuse me, I don't know if you're aware, but ..."

I wasn't "flashing" voluntarily like some (weird) people here seems to think, I had gained some weight and a dress I had worn before without any issue was raising a lot higher when moving/ bending over. It wasn't obvious when wearing it, and my sister was with me all morning and hadn't noticed either.

You’ve obviously got a point to make but I don’t really see how it fits into the thread. I mean I don’t think littlbrowndog thinks her brother is a pervert so what’s your point? That poster thought the woman should cover her arse.

Think you should take your agenda elsewhere. The OP’s question was clearly aimed at other women.

I have seen a lot of arse cheeks hanging out today and strangely coupled with very big long boots in 29C it’s certainly not for practical reasons so it’s a trend I guess long loose knee high cowboy boots with very cheeky hotpants esp in Crochet with the lower cheeks on show . The problem is my partner likes to point this ‘fashion statement ‘ out whilst declaring surprise and not so secretly enjoying the view 🙈Imagine if I dressed like that in public he would be worrying about what other men would be thinking because he knows what is crossing his mind.

I'm glad it's not just me thinking that the knowing declarations of "she's doing it deliberately" are wierdy on here! (Unless we have an influx of male posters all of a sudden?) Who the hell goes out with a baby thinking about attracting attention that way? Far more likely she hadn't had time to do the washing and a thong was the only clean thing available to put on. Or she didn't want a big knicker pressing on a caesarean scar or something.

Since when did we start attributing pornographic motivations to young mothers this way, on a site that is meant to be supportive of them? Tbh I think it's rather distasteful and pervy of posters to think this of a woman out shopping who was stressed and struggling with a pram. Why do posters not given anyone the benefit of the doubt any more?

Same here, as a 75 year old big mouthed busy body I would have found it impossible not to say something even if I did it in a light hearted jokey way!! 🙄Whatever her reaction, like it or not, I wouldn't care! 😳

I wonder wonder what the reaction would have been from some posters when I was out in a shopping centre on a hot summer's day and a woman wearing nothing but a t-shirt, thong and flip flops walked by, arse jiggling everywhere. She had a lovely figure and part of me thought "why not?" but I there were people trying to avert eyes quickly and pretend they hadn't seen anything. A man exclaimed "Jesus Christ!" loudly and covered a kids eyes.

Point is though, she knew. The lady in the shop with her mini skirt would have felt the skirt ride up as she bent over.

I, on the other hand, did not know when my knee length dress accidentally got pulled up at the back and exposed my bum to the entire high street on a 10 minute walk before a woman told me. Had also flashed several colleagues before leaving work and not one thought to tell me.

Big difference.

I would have thought exactly the same as I have in the last couple of weeks whenever I have seen a young woman wearing a see-through top with no bra to show off her pierced nipples : She knows exactly what she’s doing, and why, so let her get on with it. Nothing to do with me.

And were these women hell bent on exposing themselves in shopping centres also pushing prams and looking stressed?

I would have just told her!
Last week I was driving through the supermarket car park and a lady was walking along with her skirt tucked into her knickers, so I pulled up alongside her and called her over, then quietly told her about her skirt.
She was so grateful that she'd 'only' flashed her knickers to half the street and anyone in the car park and was pleased to know that she wouldn't be showing them to everyone in the supermarket too!

In the dim and distant past of my teens one of my friends used tuck the hem of her skirt in her knickers when in the night club toilet.
She could also “faint” to get attention if all else failed.
😉😁😁

Well, she chose to wear thongs under that mini skirt, not a more covering model of underpants. I would've left her to it. 🤷🏼‍♀️

This post is literally the definition of “judgey pants”! 😃

There are two scenarios. One, where someone’s skirt is caught up and they don’t know. The other, where someone goes out wearing a skirt that is too short so you can see what they have had for brekkie if they bend over. With the former, you should tell the person. With the later, they are well aware this is the case so just leave them to it and look away.

Depends… in your situation probably nothing. If it was someone with their skirt tucked in their pants though I’d say something… I used to wear tiny skirts and I was very aware that I’d I bent over the skirt bared all…. So used to bend at the knees instead so as not to flash the world…. I think she’d have known and just not cared.
I was in macdonalds the other day grabbing a coffee and there was a small child who had pulled her trousers and pants below her bottom and was showing off everything, it was a bit gross actually and I was concerned who else was in there, so I did mention to the mother that her daughters whole bottom was out. (But we have a duty to children)

I was in a similar situation in a cafe - the server had a tiny skirt and every time she bent over to clear a table, the whole place could see her backside and thong. I told her. I suggested bending from the knees because we could see her underwear. She was mortified and disappeared out the back.

I only mentioned it because I had someone tell me when I was in the same situation as a teenager working in a pub. I was also mortified but extremely grateful!

@Pythacalling702 exactly. None of our businesses.

She was mortified because you mentioned it , that’s embarrassing.

Parked my bike.

The context of stressed mum loading shopping with new baby is key.

I am sure what she was wearing and wardrobe malfunction was not on her mind being focussed on the baby and groceries.

The skirt may not have appeared so short before pregnancy, skirts and dresses can ride up due to weight gain and so in this scenario it does occur very unintentional.

We don’t know why a thong, perhaps that’s her pre pregnancy knickers, perhaps it’s all she owns, or as PP perhaps they are more comfortable depending on type of delivery or it was all that was clean.

What on earth for?!?! Because the word 'thong' was mentioned?!^^ The HORROR

Me too lol 😂