Woman showing entire bum in public when bending over - what would you have done?

[Avondale89]

I was in the queue to pay in clothes shop today, standing behind a woman with her friend, both with babies in prams. It was outrageously hot and so she was wearing a short denim skirt that was pulled up high and a vest top. Obviously nothing wrong with that, however she bent over a few times to get things out of the basket under the pram and in doing do flashed her entire bum and thong. There were also mirrors to the side and behind us, so presumably this was also reflected to the entire shop. It was a proper full moon, not just a bit of bum cheek.

It didn’t seem as though she had noticed and her friend couldn’t see from her angle. I couldn’t help thinking that if I was in that scenario that I’d want to know. However I didn’t say anything because it’s none of my business and I didn’t want to embarrass her. Also maybe she knew and didn’t care 🤷🏻‍♀️

But, what would you have done/wanted someone else to do if you were in that situation? I do live up north in a place where strangers do talk to each other regularly FYI!

YABU - I should have quietly told her that her bum was exposed to the shop

YANBU - leave her to it

I'd follow the PPs; if a woman has her skirt tucked in her knickers or caught on her bag or similar I'd quietly tell her. Not the lady in the short skirt though - and her mate was with her anyway so could tell her.

I hate ‘I would want to know, so I’m telling you’ people. No, you want to embarrass someone.

I would not want to be told, and if I ever noticed myself be able to tell myself that no one else noticed.

I once wore a dress inside out on the school run and an ‘I would want to know’ woman let me know 😄 just let me live in ignorance woman!

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Reported just in case...

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She knows and doesn't care.

I walked to work through the city a couple of weeks ago with my dress tucked up above by bum. Really wish someone had told me

If she's wearing a skirt that short with a thong I'd assume she didn't mind and leave her to it.

This. Completely different from the example above with the girls school skirt caught in her bag. No way she didn’t know that her arse was hanging out. And there’s no need to bend over like that when wearing a short skirt either, she could have bent her knees and crouched down instead of exposing her arse and flashing her gash.

My husband and I were having dinner in a pub garden last week and the young waitress had on a really short skirt that meant even collecting glasses from tables afforded us with a view of her entire arse. She may have had a thong on in there, but we didn’t see it.

We were both 😮 and 😂.

I agree with the others. If something is caught, I would tell.

Personal choice to dress in a way that one can see everything, wouldn’t say anything. Adults and even teens know what they are doing when they dress themselves. Their choice or lack of pants / bras combined with their choice of clothing is intentional.

Exactly. She wouldn't have dressed like that and then bent over if she cared about exposing her bum, would she?

I'd do nothing, I'd assume she knew as she knows she's chosen to wear a very short skirt that morning and chose to bend over.
Assuming you couldn't see butthole or genitals as she was wearing a thong, no harm done.

If a skirt was caught in her knickers or something by accident I'd discreetly let her know.

I wouldn't have done anything. She must surely have known. I saw a tramp in Asda the other day showing his entire fat, scabby arse, the elastic had gone on his trackie bottoms. It was absolutely disgusting but there's nothing I could have done.

She probably knew everyone could see. You don't put on a skirt and not know how short/long it is. You don't know what her reaction would have been either. She might have slapped you or something.😅

Well at least it could have sorted out where to park my bicycle 👍😹😹👍

Interesting how everyone seems to think that the woman knows that she is flashing her whole bottom. I am pretty sure so many dont realise that this happens.

I do think that there is a ‘fashion’ of wearing very skimpy clothing in settings that wouldn’t previously have been deemed as ‘appropriate’. We just had a thread about very tight clothes at a funeral.

I personally don’t like it (for myself) but wouldn’t mention it to or judge others unless I thought it was a genuine mishap.

I’ve noticed at our local gym pool which attracts a lot of families, the fashion is to wear very slim thong type bikinis with skimpy bikini tops. Again each to their own but I’d prefer this to be more of an evening choice of attire, not during kids’ swim times.

when dd was tiny (2 years) she was on dh’s shoulders and had a bit of a builder’s bum as her jeans slipped down. Some adults made some quite odd (almost sexualised) comments to us very loudly. To be clear she wasn’t fully exposed.

😂 Brilliant!
A friend of mums ( very glamorous aged about 25 was wearing ( not immodest) shorts in Boots ( chemist) of all places , while waiting for a prescription had a dotty old woman march up and blow (. Puff) straight in her face, then slap mum’s friend’s thigh.

Very unpleasant and random.

There seems to be no sisterhood - tell her. If she's embarrassed fine but honestly it's a no brainer. Why would you let another woman expose herself? What world do you live and more than half of those commenting live on?!

Me too. Different if its a hooked up skirt by accident but I'd presume mini skirt and thong was deliberate and she knew.

I was at a pub In mmy20s and a girl came dressed as Mrs claus with thong and the bar got a eyeful. Multiple times. No one needs to bend at the waist in a thong and mini skirt. I'm in my 40s and even I can sqat down bending my knees. If I bent from the waist in a mini skirt I'd know

If someone wears a short skirt and a thong, they are deliberately exposing themself. It's inappropriate and offensive (and unhygienic)

That's entirely different and cruel

@Dibbydoos
can’t answer for the others but in terms of the world I live in…I live in a Midlands city, the type they often appears when we have unpleasant threads about the ‘worst’ places to live.

Members of the public are often drunk or stoned when going about their business, ‘anger management’ is a challenge to many of them. Looking at people ‘funny’ is risky; road rage is an every day occurrence.
Queuing in busy shops like B&M or Primark can be challenging if tempers are frayed and people are keen to take offence or create drama.

So in the situation described - adult with another adult, no vulnerability or learning disabilities etc mentioned I’d be very much inclined to keep my mouth shut. Perhaps if the lady was on her own, or a teenager rather than an adult, or clearly had a vision problem then I might consider it.

YANBU , she knows . You only need to look at half the teenage girls going into school nowadays that are wearing belts instead of skirts and must be flashing their assets all day that that is obviously the way many people feel it’s appropriate to go out in public .

Surely when one pairs a short skirt with a thong, one would know about the risks of bending over and exposing one’s derrière?

I’d definitely NOT tell someone “ My dear, your cheeks are showing “ in these circumstances.

A girl in a very flimsy long skirt bent down once in the street, and her bottom took a “ Bite” out of the thin fabric and held onto it.

A male friend I was with noticed. 🙄

A hitched up skirt in error I have mentioned
and have has people warn me, too , Eg If zip came undone on trousers) very grateful to them.