Woman showing entire bum in public when bending over - what would you have done?

[Avondale89]

I was in the queue to pay in clothes shop today, standing behind a woman with her friend, both with babies in prams. It was outrageously hot and so she was wearing a short denim skirt that was pulled up high and a vest top. Obviously nothing wrong with that, however she bent over a few times to get things out of the basket under the pram and in doing do flashed her entire bum and thong. There were also mirrors to the side and behind us, so presumably this was also reflected to the entire shop. It was a proper full moon, not just a bit of bum cheek.

It didn’t seem as though she had noticed and her friend couldn’t see from her angle. I couldn’t help thinking that if I was in that scenario that I’d want to know. However I didn’t say anything because it’s none of my business and I didn’t want to embarrass her. Also maybe she knew and didn’t care 🤷🏻‍♀️

But, what would you have done/wanted someone else to do if you were in that situation? I do live up north in a place where strangers do talk to each other regularly FYI!

YABU - I should have quietly told her that her bum was exposed to the shop

YANBU - leave her to it

😂🤷🏻‍♀️Not said anything..how would you say it

I would ave told her. I saw a school girl the other day and her skirt was hooked up with her back pack. I wound the car window down to let her know. Very greatful teen.

What would I have done? Laughed probably.

I’d have assumed she didn’t mind, given that she chose what to wear that morning.

Some people get off on knowing others can see what they shouldn't

When I walked full length down a city street with my skirt tucked in my knickers, I was very grateful to the man who informed me of this.

I would have said something. But I am old, and over a long life have realised that generally, I regret why I haven't done more than what I have done.

If it’s that short, surely she must know. Different to someone who’s got their skirt caught up or something, in which case I definitely say something.

I would always tell someone if their skirt was tucked in their knickers etc but in this case I would assume she knew what was on show and left her to it.

She knew full well what she was flashing so would not have appreciated your telling her. If you are walking around with your skirt caught up in your bag or knickers, that's a completely different story since it has happened by accident and the skirt is clearly not meant to be worn that way. However, the woman in the shop dressed herself precisely in the way that you found her. It was not a mistake.

I would have let her know. She probably hadnt even considered it.

She knows that she was wearing a short skirt, I would have said nothing.

I wouldn’t have said a word - It’s just a bum She chose to dress herself in a way that risks exposure of it. Nothing to do with me.

If she chose a skirt that short, she knows. I’d tell someone if it was obviously unintentional like the examples given of stuck in underwear or hoiked up by backpack but not for an item of clothing that’s just too short.

I told a girl at the gym (quietly so nobody overheard) that you could see up her shorts (she had on these very loose, very short ones with no pants so she was flashing her bits on every rotation of the cross trainer). The cross trainers are on a slight platform above the rowers and weights so it really was right in the eyeline of anyone working out. She was glad I told her. I think I would have said something. I'd want someone to tell me.

Exactly she knew exactly what would happen when she bent over and had no qualms about it

That’s very different to someone who wears a very short skirt and still bends over in that way.

You’d have to be really naive to not realise you’re flashing everyone when you bend over. Not saying she does it deliberately, just that she’s not bothered and you’d potentially be embarrassing her by raising it.

Some years ago, I was in Sainsbury's when a guy with low slung jeans squatted down to reach something and the back of his waistband slid down so that his hairy bum came right out. An older lady walked past and in disgust loudly declared. "OH MEIN GOTT!" This is in UK and not many Germans here.

The way she said it was magnificent. If I see people deliberately exposing themselves in public, her voice echoes in my head. OH MEIN GOTT!

It wouldn’t surprise me if it was deliberate to be honest. Attention seeking is becoming a bit of a trend.

I think some people are just exhibitionists. I’d have said nothing.

There are varying levels of vulgarity in society. Nothing can be done about it.

😂😂😂 this is brilliant.

Interesting to read the split opinions here. Also to be clear I wasn’t offended by the skirt, it was just a bum and we all have them. I just wondered whether there was a consensus on the appropriate thing to do!

She didn’t seem the type to be looking for attention, if anything she seemed a bit stressed looking after her baby in the heat. If she’d just reached down by bending her knees there would have been no flashing issue.

Anyway just a light-hearted question for the evening! When to mind your business and when not to.

My second post was in response to Redebs’ post re the German lady in Sainsburys. Not sure why I sometimes can’t quote on here!

Nothing. She knew full well. It's not like when someone's skirt is caught in their knickers I've told a lady that before because it's clear it was an accident and she was really grateful.

What you describe... I saw similar today but it was hot pants strolling along with her little one. I just went about my day OP.

would tell a friend, wouldn’t tell a stranger