Woman showing entire bum in public when bending over - what would you have done?

[Avondale89]

I was in the queue to pay in clothes shop today, standing behind a woman with her friend, both with babies in prams. It was outrageously hot and so she was wearing a short denim skirt that was pulled up high and a vest top. Obviously nothing wrong with that, however she bent over a few times to get things out of the basket under the pram and in doing do flashed her entire bum and thong. There were also mirrors to the side and behind us, so presumably this was also reflected to the entire shop. It was a proper full moon, not just a bit of bum cheek.

It didn’t seem as though she had noticed and her friend couldn’t see from her angle. I couldn’t help thinking that if I was in that scenario that I’d want to know. However I didn’t say anything because it’s none of my business and I didn’t want to embarrass her. Also maybe she knew and didn’t care 🤷🏻‍♀️

But, what would you have done/wanted someone else to do if you were in that situation? I do live up north in a place where strangers do talk to each other regularly FYI!

YABU - I should have quietly told her that her bum was exposed to the shop

YANBU - leave her to it

You don't live in Burnley do you lol x

This is Mumsnet so of course no you shouldn't have said anything. Because her showing her bum is only an issue because all men are sex pests and she should be free to go out naked and its the bastard sex abusing men who are the issue and why are you body shaming her when its the men not her bum thats the issue its the men THE MEN YOU HEAR ME!! ITS ALL OF THE MEN! 🙄

I had this happen to me, was walking for about 20 minutes on a busy street, I can't believe no one told me. I would have said something

Last summer I was walking and couldn't help noticing the girl walking in front of me wearing a pair of what I'm assuming she'd call shorts - but consisting of basically a waistband with a modesty strip attached, so her entire bum cheeks were visible.

Then half the secondary school girls I see walking to school have skirts that barely cover.
"Young people these days tut."

Unless there's an obvious wardrobe malfunction like someone's skirt is tucked into their waistband, I probably wouldn't say anything as I'd assume they know what they're choosing to wear and I wouldn't want to embarrass them for the rest of their outing until they can change.

It's more embarrassing to find out hours later.

I think people have forgotten what life is like with a young baby if they really think this young woman had the intention and time to choose clothes in the morning that enabled her to flash her behind to all and sundry.

Surely you would be out at a pub or club late at night if you wanted to do that, not stood in a queue in a clothes shop!

The far more likely scenario is that having had a broken nights sleep, she saw it was a hot day outside, and grabbed the first two items of summer clothing that she could find, and they didn’t fit her quite as well as they did before having the baby.

Surely if someone wears a thong they are well aware of what can happen? It's very different to someone having their skirt caught up in their knickers. I would have left well alone.

At least is wasn't a massive pubehairy arsehole on full show. Tonight at work a bloke bent over to empty his basket and I'm not kidding, his entire arse was on show. Right down to the browneye 🤢 rotten 🤢 jeans far too big and clearly didn't bother with underwear 🤮 rotten man, rotten 😬

Similar thing happened to me. My friend had bent right over and teenage boys were laughing at her bum, so told my friend and now she won’t speak to me said she preferred not to know!

Outfits that are a perfectly good length when standing upright can become a bit much when bent over at a child’s level. Many a time I have accidentally flashed people due to forgetting this! Depending on situation I have been more embarrassed than others but honestly these days u see people laying on the beach in their thongs (not even a swim costume but clearly pants)!! So u get used to bodies hanging out! Just ignore and move on!!!

I saw a girl once that her backpack had caused her skirt to ride up exposing her bum to everyone, I tapped her on the shoulder to tell her and when she turned she looked about 16! She was mortified and really grateful I'd told her. I'd hope someone would tell me so I'd definitely whisper to them if I saw it again

I might have said, I'd be careful bending in that skirt, when my skirt is short like that I just squat as you never know whose looking. Or I might just think they don't care.

She knows, she doesn’t care, I’d have pulled a face, I don’t want to see people arses in public thanks.

Take a photo then show it to her? 🤣🤣🤣

But if this was the beach no one would bat an eyelid.

Is she bent her knees she might have flashed her minge!

It certainly is.

Some will call it 'dressing for themselves' but I'd say the exact opposite is true.

Short skirt + thong. She has to have known!

Bizarre comments on here, she probably wasn’t aware as she was obviously stressed and focussed on dealing with new baby as OP stated.

I saw another parent with a young baby like this, but in a health centre rather than shopping. She was wearing a pre pregnancy dress and don’t think she realised how short it was at the back.

I think I must be becoming a prude but I wish people had a little more decorum these days. I don't want to someone's entire arse when I'm out. The other afternoon (5pm) I was walking through town and there was a very drunk women in a very short dress. She was bending over to vomit on the pavement and exposing her entire bum. It looked completely naked so I don't think she was wearing knickers. My Goodness.

Probably some sort of disgusting sex kink.

A skirt that wad unintentially tucked up to show bum/nickers I'd tell them. But a short skirt that shows some bum, I wouldn't. Tbh I was wearing a dress yesterday I was pretty sure was flashing my ass and I really didn't care beyond wondering if I've got fatter or the dress has got shorter.

Why would you knowingly risk exposing yourself in that way? We had mini skirts in the 60s but held onto them very carefully when going upstairs on the bus! They didn't compare though, some of the ones I see nowadays are shorter than my shirt. At least wear big knickers!

I was in a large store earlier this week and saw a short, dumpy, youngish woman strolling along with her partner. She wore a skirt that was so short it just looked like a thick belt. One third of her bum cheeks were on full show. Unsure if she was wearing a thong, and don't know what it looked like from the front. Anyway, I was shocked, as was my 15 year old daughter. I asked her whether it was a thing. She said most definitely not.

I wouldn't have said anything.
Just risking getting screamed that I'm staring at thing that I shouldn't and that I'm a perv lol