Woman showing entire bum in public when bending over - what would you have done?

[Avondale89]

I was in the queue to pay in clothes shop today, standing behind a woman with her friend, both with babies in prams. It was outrageously hot and so she was wearing a short denim skirt that was pulled up high and a vest top. Obviously nothing wrong with that, however she bent over a few times to get things out of the basket under the pram and in doing do flashed her entire bum and thong. There were also mirrors to the side and behind us, so presumably this was also reflected to the entire shop. It was a proper full moon, not just a bit of bum cheek.

It didn’t seem as though she had noticed and her friend couldn’t see from her angle. I couldn’t help thinking that if I was in that scenario that I’d want to know. However I didn’t say anything because it’s none of my business and I didn’t want to embarrass her. Also maybe she knew and didn’t care 🤷🏻‍♀️

But, what would you have done/wanted someone else to do if you were in that situation? I do live up north in a place where strangers do talk to each other regularly FYI!

YABU - I should have quietly told her that her bum was exposed to the shop

YANBU - leave her to it

Where on earth are you OP that it is hot? Like autumn here in Co. Cork. Rained all day today and have a thumping headache.

This has just jolted a memory for me!

Growing up in the 70's we used to say: "Stop bending over, you're showing next week's washing!"

So, even as young children this is what we accused the 'flasher' of 😁

Never heard it since then.

I would have rushed home and posted on MN for advice.

I was on the Tube the other day and a lady told me my skirt was tucked in. And it was properly tucked in. I'd been like that for at least 20 minutes. I thanked her profusely. Very grateful.

Well it's definitely like summer here in South East England. Boiling hot.

Well this is a huge projection! I’m not uncomfortable or pissed off with her at all. Interesting some of the mental leaps that are made on this forum. I actually got the sense she didn’t know, but she clearly had bigger things on her mind as she was looking after a baby.

All I was wondering was would you want to know in that situation/would you have said anything (kindly). I know it’s not a big deal, I was just wondering what opinions were.

NW of England. V humid and hot today where I am, especially in shops with no air con!

I flashed this afternoon to a car driving past, as my dress flew up just as I was putting my kid in the car seat. I don’t know if they saw but I think I would have been annoyed if they’d said something as obviously I knew the dress flew up but couldn’t help it. So it’s a bit different.

it being in a queue it would have been very difficult to say something without everyone hearing so I think it would have made the situation worse

Please do let me know what the criteria are for starting a thread here. The topics do seem to be pretty wide ranging. Granted, this isn’t an important or groundbreaking issue.

Years ago I worked with someone who habitually wore short skirts with a slit at the back with stockings. You could see her stocking tops through the slit if you were walking behind her.

This made me chuckle! I think I will probably remember this now if I see something similar 😂

Ah, we are getting all the bad weather from the Atlantic. Very fed up of it.

Woman wearing short skirt bends over and you can see her arse and thong shocker

Of course she knew

@Avondale89 Not a huge projection by any means. I found your post very 'curtain twitcher-y' to be honest. It was a 10 second event involving a stranger with a too-short skirt who didn't care about it. No need to insert yourself.

I think in that case I would not have said anything.

Per my post, I didn’t insert myself. And the lady was directly in front of me, so I wasn’t straining to look. Nor did it distress me in any way.

Sounds like she knew she was flashing her arse!

I would ignore it. The woman has issues if she wants to expose herself and is an exhibitionist. Not worth saying anything to someone who doesnt care. She probably has done this on a daily basis. Just turn your back.

I agree.

So many of these comments are just plain weird, almost like she should be ashamed for wearing a short skirt.

No ones out there flashing their bum for attention, especially when they’re out shopping with their baby and simply getting something out of a pram.

It’s possible that the skirt is slightly too tight on her since having the baby and before she was able to bend over without flashing and now she doesn’t realise.

I would always let someone know if they had their skirt tucked in their knickers or toilet roll stuck to the bottom of their shoe, but probably wouldn’t have said anything in this case.

I would always tell other women if they had the stickers on the soles of their shoes too, but remember doing this once with a lady in work (not someone I knew) and being looked at like I’d asked her what colour knickers she was wearing that day 😂

I was informed in no uncertain terms that she never bothers removing the stickers as it’s not a big deal. That was certainly me told!!

Last night I was picking up a DC from the station. I was waiting at the bottom if the escalators. As I looked up for her a very beautifully dressed young woman was coming down in a short dress. Make up perfect, great fitted dress hair to perfection. Unfortunately I could only focus on the fact that her labia were out for the world at such an angle. I wanted to tell her as I am 100% sure she wouldn't have known that from this view all was on show. However I wussed out and let her walk past me.

If it's something someone can easily fix there and then, like this or a skirt in knickers then I'll let them know. Something that can't be immediately sorted, like see through leggings , I wouldn't say anything.

Same here!

I would have smiled to myself and moved on. When I had a young baby and was in that stage where you take the whole travel system out with you and have to fold it down, lift it in to the boot etc, and on a hot summers day wore an M&S chino type skirt. After dismantling the pram several times and bending down I realised skirts and prams don’t mix, I opted for shorts for the rest of that summer. Saying that, I wouldn’t have worn a thong, that makes things 10 times worse.