AIBU to think this is grim. Funeral.

[ThatFraggle]

A group of mourners all in normal funeral clothes. Some more formal, some less. Some not black. Fine.

Then a group of three girls. They looked older than primary school age, but younger than A level.

The one was in a skintight mini dress she kept having to pull down.

The other two were in those hotpants-vest combo unitard things people seem to wear these days. Basically like a spanx leotard, coming a couple of inches below the bum.

Yes, it's hot. And yes, people can wear what they like, but surely there's a time and a place, and a funeral is not the place.

AIBU that if it were my young teens coming down for a funeral dressed like that, I'd tell them to go back upstairs and get changed?

The hotpants-vest and minidress were black btw.

Meh, not something I could get worked up over

So youngsters who probably never been to a funeral before?

I’m guessing they were there to mourn the loss of someone they love. It was probably their first funeral. I’m not sure this is the time to judge someone.

Well if they were your kids and you told them to change then that’s your call. But they are not your kids and it’s sod all to do with you

Of course it's inappropriate, their parents should have advised them on how to dress for a funeral.

I'm with you, someone should have said something before they got there.

Nice thread.

I'm with you on this. Parents should of told them to change

They might not have had anything else and thought they had to wear black clothing?

I couldn’t get upset about this to be honest, they were there and I think that’s what mattered.

It's not really your business what other people wear to a funeral, is it?

I'm quite chilled about things like that, but teenagers need to learn a bit of funeral etiquette. It's not all about them, and anyway looser and longer clothes would be cooler in the hot weather.

I think it's disrespectful. I guess it's not a church funeral because I'd hope that wouldn't be allowed in church. In some countries you can't even go into church in a thin strapped top.
I don't expect children to know what is appropriate but I do expect parents to teach them.

Teenagers don’t tend to think any further than wearing the outfit they think makes them look the best. It’s just a slightly one-note approach to dressing. Similar in a way to using “grim” as a description for everything you don’t like, including things that don’t even vaguely fit the definition of “grim”.

I think it's grim that you are judging them. They are young, probably don't have a "funeral outfit" like most adults, and might not know what's expected at a funeral. Leave them to grieve in peace.

Why does it matter? Was there a dress code stated? If so and they were young then there’s every chance they didn’t understand or didn’t have someone available to explain it to them. If there wasn’t a dress code then what has it got to do with anyone? I find funeral rituals quite tiresome at times, just let people grieve. My mum has already said she doesn’t want one and given the directions by my dad his is going to be like a Baz Luhrmann movie. Life (and death’s) rich tapestry Usually at a funeral I am so buried in grief I barely notice who is there let alone what they are wearing.

It's not really appropriate but their parents should have been guiding them on what to wear and what the procedure would be if they have never been to a funeral before.

Oh well, i wouldn't get too bothered about it if im honest

Whose funeral was it, and what relation to them?

I couldn't care less what others wear for funerals tbh. Weird that you're worked up about this @ThatFraggle

Yes, it's strange the parents didn't guide them on dress code / appropriateness.

Really depends on the person who died and the parents of the kids. Sone people don't want a fuss and want people to do their own thing, others want a formal funeral. Sometimes you just know what that person would prefer ... not for everyone but hey ho

Of course it’s inappropriate. Honestly, some responses on here these days.

I do agree that their parents should have advised them that wearing anything that exposed a lot of bare flesh, wouldn't really be appropriate for a funeral, however hot the weather. Although perhaps to some extent that may depend on who the deceased was, ie, if it was another young person, then I would perhaps have expected a lot of youngsters there, and so maybe wouldn't have expected particularly formal attire.

However, this would appear to be yet another lowering of standards in today's world, and I must admit, not one I'm particularly comfortable with, a bit like when my daughter got married, and one of her best friends turned up in jeans and an old coat, as if she was just popping down the road to the corner shop, and not at all appropriate to a dressy wedding at a nice hotel.

Do the principal mourners actually notice and/ or care? When my sister died I couldn't tell you what anyone was wearing and I doubt my parents could as well. I had bigger things to worry about.