AIBU to think this is grim. Funeral.

[ThatFraggle]

A group of mourners all in normal funeral clothes. Some more formal, some less. Some not black. Fine.

Then a group of three girls. They looked older than primary school age, but younger than A level.

The one was in a skintight mini dress she kept having to pull down.

The other two were in those hotpants-vest combo unitard things people seem to wear these days. Basically like a spanx leotard, coming a couple of inches below the bum.

Yes, it's hot. And yes, people can wear what they like, but surely there's a time and a place, and a funeral is not the place.

AIBU that if it were my young teens coming down for a funeral dressed like that, I'd tell them to go back upstairs and get changed?

@frambly I get what you are saying but where does it end where is the line or the boundary.

i think the boundary is set by the person setting the dress code.
i saw a similar tweet, where a fully qualified doctor, who likes tattoos, piercings, and has blue hair, had been judged by a passer by.
Personally i'd be pleased the youngsters wanted to attend the funeral.
just as I would be grateful to be seen by the blue-haired GP. [i'd expect the piercings to be removed if they were doing surgery, but for hygiene, not any other reason]

Presumably the front-line mourners were the ones to state that there was no dress code?

But why do you presume that @frambly?
OP said most people were in 'normal funeral clothes'. Usually the dress code isn't formally specified.

It seems more and more normal for funerals to be a celebration of someone's life rather than a sombre event.

Our family doesn't have any funeral or service at all so nobody can get 'disrespected'

I don't know why people spend so much time being disappointed and annoyed by other peoples behaviour when it doesn't effect them. It seems such a sour way to live. Hot pants wouldn't be my first choice but, whatever! Does it really matter? It's somebody's funeral.

I'm going to tell random people to come to my funeral in fancy dress, make those closest to me aware (they'll think it's me all over)
Then some old busy body, who doesn't even know who the closest people to me are (seriously, preteens at a funeral are going to definitely have been close to the deceased) can observe from a distance and complain online about how disrespectful they were

@HotWithNoRain

I don't know why people spend so much time being disappointed and annoyed by other peoples behaviour when it doesn't effect them. It seems such a sour way to live. Hot pants wouldn't be my first choice but, whatever! Does it really matter? It's somebody's funeral.

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Thank you for being normal, it’s a rare commodity.