I don’t know any men that would sexually assault or abuse a woman. It seems that there are probably men in your life that are like this (hence your hatred of all men), but I personally don’t know any.
Ah, you see, you think that, but statistically you are pretty much overwhelmingly likely to be wrong.
I can pretty much guarantee that you know men who are domestic abusers, use prostitutes or sex workers, or who have other unpleasant histories — you just don’t know you do. So many women suffer from domestic violence or sexual abuse in secret; some men who appear absolutely lovely can do awful things. I’ve known several men who’ve turned out to have committed some horrific crimes or betrayals that no-one would expect. In some cases families and women keep their secrets forever because of the shame of others finding out.
A “lovely” senior colleague at work, very respectable person, devoutly religious, wife and children, pillar of the community — turned out he had been running level 5 image child pornography rings on the dark web for twenty years. Didn’t get jailed because he came across very “remorseful” and “contrite” in court, apparently, according to the judge. I was aghast that you could hardly move at work for people defending him, even when the really unpleasant details of what he had done were described at the sentencing.
Another “lovely” man I knew well — people used to say how lucky his wife was, what a family man, how much he did with the children, such a new man, what a feminist, his I wish I was married to X, etc. — well; turned out he lost their home from running up massive debts his wife knew nothing about, all from paying prostitutes for ten years; gave her an STD as well.
Lots of women in my mum’s generation who we knew as family friends who you over time quietly found out had husbands who hit and were seriously abusive, though would appear just delightful in company and highly “respectable”. In fact, I’ve known quite a few men personally who you’d swear were absolutely “lovely” if you knew them well - but who were entirely different, violent and difficult, personalities behind closed doors.
I know this from bitter personal experience, but also from many other women. It make me look at even the apparently “lovely” ones with suspicion, because I know very well indeed that you don’t really know a man from how he appears, even if you think you know him very well.
Many older women are very very aware of this - the “lovely” man with the hidden side that isn’t so nice. In fact it’s hard, after a while, not to know quite a few women this has happened to, even if you’re lucky and it’s never happened to you directly. o do really get why some women are psychologically very very invested in the whole “namalt and my lovely dad and hubby are wonderful!” thing. You’re either extraordinarily lucky, very young, or very naive about the lives of other people (and don’t have many women friends confide in you), if you have not yet realised that quite a lot of men are not nearly as nice as they appear.