To think this is insanely childish? Anyone else been shocked by an adult’s immaturity?!

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In our group of friends one of us can’t make the birthday dinner for someone in the group. They birthday girls has taken huge offence and said the alternative date suggested ‘isn’t her actual birthday so it won’t feel the same.’ Wtf? She’s going to
be 38 not 6? It’s literally moving the day from a Friday (her birthday) to a Saturday. I’ve

*the birthday girl

I think the person who can't go is being unreasonable to expect the birthday girl to move her entire celebration to a different day just so she can be graced with that person's presence. Talk about entitled.

Surely it's the person expecting the date to be moved that is being childish?

Yep i know someone who moved easter for their kids as it fell on her (mums) birthday
I really had thought I'd seen it all

I am shocked by the immaturity of adults on an almost daily basis.

The person can’t make it because they are out of the country for work and their flight gets in at 7pm!

We go out every year for everyone. Wanting to have a dinner on your actual birthday at 38? Really? Surely if that can’t happen it’s not a big deal?!

I mean I think the dinner should be when the birthday girl wants really - if that's on her birthday, it's on her birthday! If someone can't make it surely they can do something else another time and just not go to the meal?

If all of the rest of the group can make the birthday girls day why should the whole group and the birthday girl change the day for one person ?

I think as you get older then it’s just about having a nice day, and not any extra days really. So I’d be more bothered about a celebration being on the day.

It obviously is a big deal for her. Person flying just misses it this time. That shouldn't be a big deal either.

I've spent birthdays sitting at home alone. Having plans the next day doesn't stop it feeling miserable, even though I know really that it shouldn't matter.

People do go a bit bonkers about birthdays, imo.

One of my dc has a friend whose mum insisted on celebrating her birthday on the actual day (because otherwise it wouldn’t feel like her birthday) despite the fact that one of her own dc (primary age child, not adult) wasn’t able to be at the celebration (child was upset to miss it)

It’s not entirely clear who suggested what/what birthday girl was upset by - I’d be slightly peeved if I invited a group out for my birthday and the one person who couldn’t make it tried to move the date. Not because I’m remotely precious about having a birthday event on the actual date, but because it’s just a bit rude to try and move someone else’s event!

If birthday girl is just upset because someone can’t totally rearrange their lives to attend her birthday party and has declined, thus causing a slightly less than full complement of friends at her party then that’s a different story.

The birthday girl is right! Birthdays are celebrated on your birthday, thats what you're celebrating. It's called a birthday celebration. Not a "day thats not your birthday birthday celebration"

You sound like my ex-inlaws who used to celebrate every birthday at the week-end if it fell on a week day lol.

Did you tell her you could go then cancelled on her? Is her birthday tomorrow?

The person who can't come should just sit this one out! Ffs.

I routinely move my birthday 'do' to the nearest Saturday because I want to see as many of my friends and family as possible, and they all have busy lives, as do I.

I also think it’s odd that the meal is being moved for the non-birthday girl guest. Surely it doesn’t matter if that guest misses one meal, or if their flight gets in at 7pm, have the meal at 8pm?

My four year old nephew had his party a week late as the weekend it fell on wasn't convenient. Some people don't like to celebrate early but a day late shouldn't matter!

Is there a massive drip feed about who the non attendee is?

Well is depends which one is more important. Having it on your actual birthday or having all your friends there.
Thats up to the birthday girl.
But she can’t throw a tantrum if someone can’t come!

I’m with birthday girl. If someone can’t make her night out, it’s off to make her change to a different night just to accommodate that person.

Is she single? How would she be spending her actual birthday if it got moved?

Sorry, to clarify, it’s not being moved! She was just in a huge mood about it and said it was unreasonable to suggest the day went to the Saturday even though everyone else (six in total) were fine with it.

I’m genuinely amazed people think it’s necessary for the day to be the actual birthday. I cannot imagine getting worked up about that.

I don't think the meal should be moved.

It's usual with pretty much everyone I know to celebrate on the weekend. In our family we'd have something we like for dinner and a small cake on the day but group celebrations on the weekend.

The meal isn’t being moved. I should have made this clear in the OP, sorry.