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To call neighbour and tell them to come home from work?

219 replies

Hocuspocusnonsense · 13/06/2023 09:39

And let their sodding dog in?

Think terraced house, very small garden, one end has shade, so neighbour has sodded off to work and left their bloody yappy dog shut in the garden for the day!!! It has been barking for 2 hours now!! Aaaaaaaargh!!

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LeedsMum87 · 14/06/2023 11:25

Ridiculous comment, you’re just a troll after an argument and not here to actually offer practical advice.

No I certainly hope you wouldn’t leave any child on their own. However children are allowed in shops, hospitals, doctors, restaurants, other people’s homes, play centres etc, unfortunately dogs aren’t always.

Definition of Animal Cruelty. Animal Cruelty is defined as depriving an animal of food, water, shelter, and/or veterinary care. Torturing, maiming, or killing animals is also animal cruelty. I can assure you our dog is very well looked after and very loved. We are caring and responsible dog owners just trying to juggle life.

Thank goodness we have sympathetic and supportive neighbours who have never complained but only mentioned her howling on the odd occasion.

MinionsHooray · 14/06/2023 12:13

LeedsMum87 · 14/06/2023 11:25

Ridiculous comment, you’re just a troll after an argument and not here to actually offer practical advice.

No I certainly hope you wouldn’t leave any child on their own. However children are allowed in shops, hospitals, doctors, restaurants, other people’s homes, play centres etc, unfortunately dogs aren’t always.

Definition of Animal Cruelty. Animal Cruelty is defined as depriving an animal of food, water, shelter, and/or veterinary care. Torturing, maiming, or killing animals is also animal cruelty. I can assure you our dog is very well looked after and very loved. We are caring and responsible dog owners just trying to juggle life.

Thank goodness we have sympathetic and supportive neighbours who have never complained but only mentioned her howling on the odd occasion.

What’s ridiculous is having a dog you can’t care for properly and meet all its needs.

LeedsMum87 · 14/06/2023 12:39

We rescued her from a horrible situation where she had no life, locked in a small flat all day with dozens of other animals, never walked, forced to have puppies, she was matted, smelly and uncared for. I’m proud to say we’ve given her a loving home and a happy life. In the grand scheme of things leaving her for a couple of hours here and there to go to an appointment or run errands doesn’t mean she isn’t well cared for.

Stormyweathr · 14/06/2023 13:18

I feel your pain my last neighbour did this and the council/rspca did nothing, she actually went on holiday for 2 weeks and just had the neighbour go in to feed it everyday, it barks a lot anyway but in addition we could hear it crying and whimpering in the night with no lights on for it at all

I am in a new house now and working away in my office that overlooks the back gardens and I have just watched a lady put her dog in the garden in a cage!! I can see into her kitchen and she is sorting a baby but wtf is up with these people why have dogs and just leave them

MinionsHooray · 14/06/2023 14:33

LeedsMum87 · 14/06/2023 12:39

We rescued her from a horrible situation where she had no life, locked in a small flat all day with dozens of other animals, never walked, forced to have puppies, she was matted, smelly and uncared for. I’m proud to say we’ve given her a loving home and a happy life. In the grand scheme of things leaving her for a couple of hours here and there to go to an appointment or run errands doesn’t mean she isn’t well cared for.

You keep telling yourself that if it makes you feel better about leaving a distressed dog several times a month for hours.

coffeecupsandwaxmelts · 14/06/2023 14:39

LeedsMum87 · 14/06/2023 11:04

What alternative care would you suggest? We already leave her with family or have a dog walker come in and take her out for an hour if we’re out more then half a day?

You need to pay for doggy daycare.

LeedsMum87 · 14/06/2023 14:40

Seeing as you have no practical advice or suggestions your comments are really not very useful.
We’ll keep on caring for our dog, and helping her overcome her separation anxiety ☺️👍🏻

LeedsMum87 · 14/06/2023 14:45

We both work from home full time so are home most of the time so she’s rarely left. It’s only when we go out to places they don’t allow dogs. Sadly doggy day care wouldn’t work for the few instance we pop out for a couple of hours here and there at the weekend. I don’t know of any you can just drop them off for a couple of hours on a Saturday or Sunday.
She also wouldn’t do well at daycare as she’s reactive around other dogs due to her troubled past.

MinionsHooray · 14/06/2023 14:45

LeedsMum87 · 14/06/2023 14:40

Seeing as you have no practical advice or suggestions your comments are really not very useful.
We’ll keep on caring for our dog, and helping her overcome her separation anxiety ☺️👍🏻

You don’t help dogs overcome separation anxiety by leaving them all the time for hours on end.

You just rescued a dog you can’t care for properly. You took it from one cruel situation and put it in a slightly less cruel situation!

Tiddlypomtiddlypom · 14/06/2023 14:54

Can you two stop going on? I suspect you’ve both made your points enough times now.

MinionsHooray · 14/06/2023 14:59

Tiddlypomtiddlypom · 14/06/2023 14:54

Can you two stop going on? I suspect you’ve both made your points enough times now.

I can reply as much as I like.
Skip it if you don’t want to read it, Jesus.

hattyhathat · 14/06/2023 15:02

Hocuspocusnonsense · 13/06/2023 10:37

She works 5 mins down the road in an office.

I have a feeling she will pop back at lunchtime (I hope!)

She still hasn’t replied to message (read it a while ago).

any news? I think if you frame it as a I'm concerned for your dog rather than a your dog is annoying theu might respond better

LeedsMum87 · 14/06/2023 15:13

We have plenty of techniques recommended by her behaviourist that we practice with her to reduce her anxiety when we go out from time to time. We’ve had her for 4 years now and it comes and goes but is actually worse when we haven’t been out for a while.

I’d hate to think of what had happened to her if we hadn’t have rescued her.

pictoosh · 14/06/2023 17:08

Good god @MinionsHooray give it a rest.

freccle · 14/06/2023 17:47

Me being a dog nut I'd go and get it and bring it into my house/garden

Messyhair321 · 14/06/2023 18:06

This makes me rage, what is wrong with people?! Call the RSPCA it's too hot for the dog to be left outside in this heat.
What absolute selfish twats

Noodles1234 · 14/06/2023 18:11

That’s so unfair and inconsiderate on the neighbours and the dog. I really feel you it would send me batty.

I used to live behind a house that did this, I’m not joking they worked 7 days a week every week, and left the dogs to their own devices outside everytime they went to work. Even if I washed up in my kitchen with the doors and windows shut, when the cutlery went into the drainage tray and they clanked it set the dogs off (if they weren’t barking already).

sitting outside on the patio was a thing of the past, friends would ask to sit inside as they couldn’t cope with it and nor could we.

knocked on their door when they got home and they wouldn’t answer the door. Eventually I got in touch with the agent that let the property, landlord wasn’t aware there were dogs there.

we all work hard and want to go home to peace and relax, to have a yapping dog is really stressful. I really wish people would truly consider having a social animal when they constantly leave it home alone.

also if you live in a semi / terraced home your neighbours will hear the dog, generally the older the house the more they hear especially houses 70’s to 30’s. We have a 40-50’s house and they might aswell move in.

SweetcornFritter · 14/06/2023 18:17

My entire neighborhood resounds to the interminable barking of dozens of dogs from morn till night. I’m completely frazzled by it. There are dogs both sides of me and two dogs directly opposite, plus dogs constantly being walked up and down outside front and back. They all set each other off and it’s the early morning dog walking barkers that usually wake me up before 7am. I wish to god they’d bring back dog licenses and make them extremely expensive.

Boboobear · 14/06/2023 18:53

I would record the dogs barking and show your neighbours what you are putting up with.

Spinninsweetness · 14/06/2023 18:55

Disgusting! Why do people have dogs if they can't look after them. Do they not realise pet theft is on the rise !

HarrietPoole · 14/06/2023 18:57

Sorry, haven't RTFT but do they know the dog barks? Maybe not if no one had told them.

Grandmanetty · 14/06/2023 19:02

How does that help the poor dog?

Lolasgame · 14/06/2023 19:06

If you did that to my dog it would run in the roads like a maniac and get itself killed as I suspect most dogs would. Not good advice.

Jeannie88 · 14/06/2023 19:07

Not on at all, put in a complaint on council site. I know someone who did this and it dealt with quickly, also anything else to help but to help poor dog. X

Lolasgame · 14/06/2023 19:14

Dotjones · 13/06/2023 09:59

Good idea, better it take its chances in the wild than remain where it is. There's always a risk it will attack someone of course but for the most part the only real danger is to the animal itself.

I take it you’ve never owned a dog if you think sending a dog to their death on busy roads is good advice. Most dogs don’t have any sense.