To go round to neighbours in the morning?

[MonkeyDoodles]

Because I have totally had enough.
Next door neighbours just had a loud party from 5.30PM to only now just finishing up. Loud screeching and screaming from the kids, hot tub and all the noise that comes from that, DIY also done in the middle of it all. My whole evening has been a write off because of them.
This is constant. Kids range from 4 years to 10 years and scream and holler to each other constantly for hours on end. My other family members don't want to confront them as are worried about causing an argument but I honestly feel it is having a massive impact on my mental health. Aibu to go round there and tell them it's not on even if my family disagree? It is actually unbearable and causing a lot of arguments in my own home.

Actually you’re wrong. It’s fine to have a party until 11pm it’s excessive noise after that time that has to be taken more seriously by council / police

@Hollyppp If it's a one off, it's not a problem and not much can be done but persistent, unreasonable noise even before 11pm can be actioned.

I finally found my dream home on a national park it was inexpensive and the only one I could afford in the area. I worked every Saturday as well as full time to do the place up and planned to spend my life there. I'm 6 years off retirement. It was just heaven going out to listen to the birds sing and relax in the big garden I had created. It was perfect. Then a family with 6 kids moved in.
The shrieking and screaming went on from dawn to dusk. I had no peace at all. Neither did any of the other residents. The parents were nice enough but just didn't care what their kids and their numerous friends did.
I was forced to move elsewhere not nearly as nice because I was so tired and it was affecting my mental health. That family destroyed my future.
Who needs 6 bloody kids anyway. Id never let my DS behave like that.i feel you pain OP but I doubt your neighbours will care less.

No, it doesn't sound that bad, 10.45 isn't late but it would be annoying if it happens all the time.
Our old neighbours had a party until 3 in the morning and everybody was very upset. Someone called the council and the police and they were warned not to do it, though they did it again next year. Just so inconsiderate.

Your neighbours aren’t doing anything wrong they are just living in their house. I’d suggest if it’s a huge issue you need to go and buy a detached house somewhere.

I can understand your anxiety OP. Loud noises and screaming all the time would be very stressful. A suggestion in the meantime is to get a pair of the loop earplugs experience , they are very good at taking those triggering noises away whilst allowing you to hear

You need to get a life. They’ve finished before 11pm so before most councils ‘quiet times’

Seriously? Commenters are being ‘obtuse’ because they don’t agree with you OP? Their children are making noise in their garden until 10pm? They’re children. What would you have them do? Gag them? Lock them up? If you don’t like noise perhaps move to a property that doesn’t have neighbours enjoying their home how they choose to in your proximity! You definitely sound unreasonable to me.

Before I moved our neighbours had a hot tub and three children, crappy loud music always playing, shouting, screaming, hot tub noise, dog barking. I’m a very quiet person and it made me absolutely miserable. I really do sympathise with you.

YANBU - they are selfish. I live in the country (as people have suggested you do!) and I won’t let my own kids scream around the garden as I don’t want to hear it!
BTW, it’s not that quiet in ‘the country’ either - inconsiderate chainsawing, harvesting all night, pheasant shoots, bird scarers and pissing wood pigeons 😆

I really sympathise, once it becomes oppressive it can mess with your head.

However I voted YABU simply because there is little you can do. It's not worth going round there, it will just put them offside.

A calm chat might be better, but what can you realistically do? They're living their lives, albeit noisily.

We have a similar family at the back of ours. They keep me daughter up till late into the night. They're out all hours in summer.

I can't imagine how we could tackle it. If it was keeping me awake antisocial hours like before 7:30am, after midnight, or regularly after 11pm, I'd complain to the council. But otherwise it's just one of those things sadly. ☹️

I really feel for you. We had the same next door for 17 years, it cost me my mental health and ultimately my marriage. It was every day, then party time would start on a Friday at 6pm, visitors' cars blocking us in, then go on until 8pm on a Sunday night. I started to dread weekends, it was awful. DH wasn't bothered and refused to move.

I hate selfish people. Probably won’t help if you go around. I would get some good ear defenders and look to move. Once you raise a complaint it’s harder to move without having to explain why. Some of the people on here sound as if they don’t mind these sort of neighbours. Personally we moved to a rural location with no nearby neighbours- couldn’t bear our old noisy ones… I really do sympathise it is rubbish

Só be 10:30 pm on a Friday ? Come on ! If you don’t want any noise do as I did and move rurally . Other way stop being so uptight . Let people have fun

We don’t have the weather for most of the year for this to be every day. They are using their garden for family time, having guests over, living the way they wish to. Even your own family think you’re wrong. I think you’re probably hyper noise sensitive - maybe you should think of moving - it’s going to be a long hot summer. (Written from my hot tub - kids are playing football and have a friend over. It’s not quiet here).

If they aren’t disturbing your sleep, I don’t think you can do much. Be grateful, some of us have who party into the small hours on a regular basis. It could be so much worse.

*have neighbours

YANBU OP. We bought a semi, attached to an HMO in 2021. The previous owners told us there were 3 ppl living there and that there had been no issues with them. There are actually 10 adults and I recently heard from the LL that there have been multiple complaints over the years!! Things I have learned from various (official) sources in the last 18 months:

1. keep a noise diary, day and night
2. download an app to measure/record the noise - I use DB Meter
3. noise over 60db at the boundary of your property can be considered too loud at any time of day
4. the “quiet” time is set by local councils, yours may be 10pm rather than 11pm
5. quiet time is meant to stop normal household noise such as vacuuming or practicing the piano!
6. regular noise that impacts other people is not considered ok legally at any time of day

we appear to have won our battle, with the help of a very neighbourly landlord. Good luck with yours, don’t let your family gaslight you!

ps. I have a 4 year old; I spend a lot of time in the garden reminding her to be quieter but less often than when she was 3. We are trying to be the neighbours that we want!

So they let their children have fun? And express themselves at a reasonable time? 🙄

You have my sympathies- our last neighbours were awful. The kids didn’t seem to have a bedtime, they had no carpets and it was so loud so much of the time. It really got me down. I spoke to the people who lived the other side of them to check it wasn’t just me.

i don’t think there’s any point in going round. People who live like that just don’t give a shit about anyone else. We sold up and moved after about 18 months.

So many people misunderstand the law on this issue.

It is antisocial, it is a noise nuisance and action can be taken against them under the Environmental Act.

@Houseplantmad I like the way you think.

I think it depends on what the law says about sounds coming from neighbours at that time of night.

I had 2 different neighbours who would play extremely loud music early on the weekends (from 6am) and I used one tactic which resolved the issue. Put very loud music on about 1 hour before they start the party, and don't stop it. This would make sure that they understand how annoying it is. Probably leave the music on the entire night, leave the house if you have to.

It worked for me, hopefully it does for you.

If not, I would suggest calling the police due to their noise.

@Freckles978 Sadly, the police won't do anything about noise these days. They used to back in the day but not anymore unfortunately.

Has anyone suggested putting speakers in your garden and blasting your own music at them until they get the hint?

Something opposite to their own tastes would be ideal. Or for nuclear grade, something naff like the bird song. Just one song. On a loop. Incredibly loudly.

Then put ear plugs in and go about your day