Hobby every weekend leaving me with step-kids?

[Roundly]

DP has DSS (11) and DSD (13) from a previous relationship. I have DS (8). DP has always played football every other Saturday and always the weekend he did not have his children. This would typically be from 8am to around 4pm, for training and then matches, and often it goes on even longer if there are drinks or socials arranged afterwards. I didn't mind this as it tied in to when my own DS was with his dad, so I would have the day free to do any leisure activities of my choosing.

At the beginning of the year, for various reasons, my stepson and stepdaughter came to live with us full-time. Since then, my DP has slowly started to play football more, and in the last couple of months has played every Saturday. He's just announced that he will be playing football again this Saturday, leaving the care of all 3 children to me.

AIBU to say I'm fed up and don't want responsibility of three DC all Saturday again, and that he needs to go back to EOW? I feel like I'm being a bit rotten as he does work very hard and does a lot for us throughout the weekdays. I wouldn't mind so much if it was just the morning, but it's literally the entirety of Saturday.

I disagree with some of the comments here, yes they are step-children but they are part of the family so I don’t think OP caring for them is unreasonable, what is unreasonable is DH thinking it’s ok to spend a whole day away every weekend.

You def need to talk to him@Roundly ,sounds like he's not handling having the kids full time OK, and he really just needs to suck it up and handle it.
For whatever reason they've got fro MEOW to full time with you, and not he's keeping the time he's actually around to a minimum. Poor kids. He needs to do better.

Oh, hell no...

This is what the Mumsnet community call a CF, OP.

First it was every other week.
Then it was more and more often.
Then in they moved.
Now it's every week.
And it's getting more complicated as your DSD has her schedule you're now accommodating.
She's learned from him that this is how you are treated.

Creep, creep, creep … slowly but surely all the wife work is being tipped over you because of course you don't work hard or do a lot for the family yourself.

Well done for resolving to tell him.

How did it go?

hope your chat went well and he realises that he is taking advantage of you.

I doubt it, but hope things change. Do the step children not see their mum or any of her family at all?

The SDC live with you full time, do they not have any visits to their mum eow?

I'd say he should have football every other Saturday and when your DC is at his dad's, you have a day free for yourself. That's fair.

Exactly. Even if they were all her biological children, DH would still be massively taking the piss!