to ask adult DD to leave

[whackyattacky]

It's been an incredible journey for me, having recently made a major move from one country to another. At my retirement age, my sister graciously invited me to live with her, and I was filled with hope and excitement.

However, just as I was starting to settle into my new surroundings, one evening, a knock at the door brought an unexpected surprise. It was my DD(42) , along with my three precious grandchildren, ages 21, 12, and 9. I was overwhelmed with joy to see them all

Initially, my DD mentioned that she would stay for a week or two, offering her support to help me adjust, navigate the bureaucratic processes of obtaining new documents, and even find a car. However, as the weeks turned into months, I couldn't help but notice that her departure seemed uncertain.

Regrettably, the promised assistance never materialized, and instead, I found myself facing instances of verbal abuse and frequent lectures. The household cleanliness was neglected, and any time I sought her help for basic tasks or requested the use of her car for essential errands, she dismissed me with lectures and refusals.

The latest incident occurred when I asked for assistance from either her or my grown grandson to assemble a bed frame, to which she callously responded that I should do it myself, disregarding my physical limitations and pleas for support.

Am I being unreasonable to ask DD to finish up her visit in the next week or two and go home?

My 5 yo still thinks when you die you're just really sick and sleep for a long time, even though a million times I've tried explaining to her that if someone does they don't wake up. Each child takes it differently but they will understand somewhat

Please make sure your finances are protected. If you have online banking ensure it is password protected and possibly also 2 factor authentication. If there is any possibility they know or could have found your passwords then change them.

If you have bank cards and/or passbooks then hide them well or keep them with you.

From the behaviour you describe I wouldn't be surprised if they tried to take you for as much as they can.

Another reason not to give two weeks notice. Get them out now.

For preference I would pack their bags myself to check they are not taking anything they shouldn't

There's the door close it on the way out love. Long over due.

oh no. Never. According to @Allthegoodnamesarechosen there is only one country in the world and one way to say things. I wouldn't be surprised if English is the only language.
Such an unhelpful remark that one

Troll hunters the bridge is that way, bye!👋

Not a new policy - if you don't think it's genuine, report.

Op I am so sorry you are going through this . You sound absolutely amazing . ❤️ how anyone could stand over their Nan and try to intimidate them is beyond me . I lost my Nan 4 years ago and I would give anything to have her back . It's time for them to go . Fair enough if they were genuinely there for you and too help but unfortunately like you have stated it's about money . It always is . We have had a huge fall out over money with family who only wanted one thing . It's so sad . I hope everything will work out for you x

Good grief… I am an Aussie. I go to the shop and do my groceries. There are generational differences in the way things are said too. People used to “Pop to the Milk Bar” here, but now it’s a corner store or convenience store. (Or 7/11 or Nightowl… whatever.)

Shut up 😴

Hi there,
Thanks very much to the posters who reported their concerns and did not troll hunt, but as we have said to them we can see that this OP signed up to MN many years ago so we are inclined to give her the benefit of the doubt.
Much as we love Mumsnet we would be surprised if, in the event that AI cracks time travel, it makes posting on here its first priority. You never know, though...

Are the 12 and 9 year olds attending school?

How insular do you want to be @Allthegoodnamesarechosen? Bloody hell.

They are home schooled.

i've been doing the floorpan in my head