I don't want my child to go to her leavers party.

[Ijustdunnoanymore]

The parents of my child have organised a leavers party extravaganza. The problem I have however is that nearly (not quite all - some have been nice) all the parents involved have been absolutely horrible towards me over the course of this year. I am a fairly new parent and thats the main reason for their venom. If my child goes I have to stay too and hang out with these people. Do I let my child go and put up with it OR do I not and show her that bullies shouldnt always win?

Go to the party. Choose not to care hw they treat you. Help out of you can. There's usually some handing round of food, mopping up of drinks etc. Decide in advance that how they behave towards you in no way affects you or reflects on you. If you see another parent looking a bit lost introduce yourself and say hi. look relaxed and smiley for your child's sake. Do NOT make a big issue of it or deny your child a party because you don't like how the adults behave. That teaches her nothing useful. Teach her how to handle difficult people with grace, calm and amused indifference. That's a good life skill.

OP hopefully your DD doesn't feel bullied or isolated by her classmates. If she wants to go she should.go to the party. If she DOESN'T want to go because there is bullying, then support her to say no and not attend.

From YOUR point of view DD just has to be there with some adult representative, who can be there in case of any issues and take her home at the end. Is there someone else who can take her- a relative or friend of yours, who your DD trusts? If there is, I would ask them for this favour, and then NOT go myself.

I had the same situation with parents at ds primary school, I went to the leader's party & read a book on my phone & had music on my earbuds. Ds decided after an hour he had had enough & we left.

However hard this will be for you if your daughter wants to go I would turn the other cheek and take her . Once it’s over with have a nice glass of wine and have a big sigh of relief . Being a mother is hard but it’s what we sign up to . Good luck dear

This victim mentality is really enlightening. You literally put yourself on aibu for judgement then complain that you are feeling judged, ignoring all the supportive comments you did receive.

As others have said: this is about your daughter, not about you.

I understand that it will feel horrible, but I really believe that not allowing her to go (if she wants to) would be extremely unreasonable in this case.

Drop your child ant don't stay. What are they going to do?

Does your daughter want to go? In which case go, take your iPhone, book etc and then if they’re unfriendly just take yourself off to a quiet corner. Unfair for your child to miss out if wants to be there

If child wants to go, you go. Only a couple of hours. I have to accompany my son to his year 6 leavers party. There's going to be over 100 kids as siblings allowed to join too. It would be chaos if loads of parents dropped their kids and left and others had to be responsible.

This is about your child not you. It's not a good idea to leave her out because of your experience with some of the parents. I'd go along. You can even take a book and find a quiet corner if the other people are so ghastly. You did say some have been nice. Perhaps you could chat to them?

Get a friend or family member to take her. She shouldn’t miss out. Can her dad take her

Your daughter absolutely has to go but if you really don't feel able to I'd ask a friend to take her. I used to get one of my elder daughters to take my ds - they are 10 and 11 years older than him.

Ok thanks again. As mentioned earlier she is going. I am not narcassictic (have no idea how the heck you even spell it lol)....nor am I selfish I have taken on board the useful feedback and as stated she is going. I will now leave this discussion. Thank you.

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