I don't want my child to go to her leavers party.

[Ijustdunnoanymore]

The parents of my child have organised a leavers party extravaganza. The problem I have however is that nearly (not quite all - some have been nice) all the parents involved have been absolutely horrible towards me over the course of this year. I am a fairly new parent and thats the main reason for their venom. If my child goes I have to stay too and hang out with these people. Do I let my child go and put up with it OR do I not and show her that bullies shouldnt always win?

New parent to the school.

I think you’ve got to just let it go for the sake of your child

Of course you suck it up and go.

You can’t seriously consider making your child miss her leavers party as folks were horrible to you. I’m sorry that happened but it does not mean you get to be even horribler to your kid.

This isn’t about you. If your child wants to go you should go.

Does your child want to go? If so them I think you need to suck it up and just stick with parents that are nice.

Parents of your child? Is your child adopted?

YABU. If she wants to go suck it up for her sake.

In what way have they bullied you anyway? Is it really bullying? Why would they do that?

My DD is year 6 and there are 2 leavers parties I think … 1 is being put on by the PTA and yes I expect all the parents will go. It doesn’t have to be the OP though… can’t her Dad go?

Put on your big girl pants and suck it up. Your daughter shouldn’t miss out because of your relationship with other parents.

How on earth will your dd not going to a fun event with her friends show anyone that bullies don't always win?!? I can't imagine the bullies/other parents care less if you go or not.
This party is absolutely nothing to do with you or the other parents.

Are you the previous poster whose child was new to the school so you volunteered to do the leavers shirts, messed them up, and there was a big fallout with some parents over them?

Do I let my child go and put up with it OR do I not and show her that bullies shouldnt always win?

I don't get your logic. You won't be putting out the bullies by not going. They won't feel bad that you're not there. If anything you're letting their treatment of you affect your daughter. Like others say just go there and take something to pass the time.

If your child wants to go, let her. If you don't, then you're punishing her, not the other parents. And since this is a leavers' do, you're unlikely to have to deal with the same group of parents again. I'm surprised that parents are expected to stick around for a party involving children as old as 11, but just grit your teeth and endure it in the knowledge that this is the last time.

Drop your daughter off and pick her up at the end. They can't make you stay.

A huge part of parenting is doing things you don't want to for your child. Please take her. It's just a couple hours out of your life.

You are not showing her that bullies shouldn't always win by stopping your child from going to a leavers party. You are showing her that they have won.

Children's parties aren't about the adults happiness.

How are they supposed to get pissed and set fire to a car? Let them grow up op ;-)

What exactly have the other parents done to be venomous towards you? That’s quite strong language and I’m just struggling to imagine what exactly has gone on. Might help to have some context. But regardless of that, if your DD has friends at the school and wants to go then you let her go to the party. Do you have a husband or grandparent who can go instead of you if you really don’t feel comfortable around the other parents?

New to the school??

Surely if the parents are the ones arranging it, they can decide who is and isnt invited? In which case, if they wanted to be venemous, they simply wouldn't extend the invitation to your daughter. She's invited and you've been asked to stay, so everything points to you being included rather than 'bullying.'

The parents of my child ???

Are you an active parent or a birth mother of an adopted child ?

Surely the 'parents of my child' means that others are the parents ? This needs explaining before suitable advice can be given .

You poor thing that sounds stressful, I have a couple of questions before being able to give any thought out response.

you say the organisers of the party have been awful to you, in what way?

ate there other parents who you get along with?

does your child know these parents have been awful to you? If not it’s not a lesson in letting bullies win.

what are the dynamics of the party? Church hall? Outdoors? These things help to come up with an escape plan hahaha xxx

Go for the sake of your DC and kill everyone with kindness.

If they insist on parents staying (why?) then say you will be outside sitting in your car if needed, or if it's somewhere nice, just sit outside on the grass and read. I can't see why parents have to stay unless they are going to organise some hideous parents' games or something, and you can set a good example to your own child (and others who might not be raucous extroverts) by deciding not to participate in something you won't enjoy and being assertive if they are pushy about it.