To hate people using the word 'myself' instead of just 'me'?

[blackrabbitwhiterabbit]

There's just no need. It should be 'my friend and I'...shouldn't it? Not 'myself and my friend.'

First world 🌎 problems, I know. 😂

YANBU but you will get a lot of stick for this.

This drives me mad too. It's like nails on a blackboard in my head every time I read it which is a lot in here. No idea why this has become so commonplace.

That wouldn’t bother me. However, I have a friend who uses tmw instead of tomorrow. I don’t know why but it irritates me to the point of stopping reading her texts! I’ve told her too!

I can't stand it either. I instantly judge I'm afraid.

I had email from someone in professional capacity who used it instead of every single "I" and "you" in the email...

Is she over 35? Lots of people still text speak. I think it's habbit in messages from the times long gone when we had to hit button 4x to get a letter🙈

Ooh my partner says this and I hate it, he also says "whom" incorrectly a lot. But I have to seethe quietly because I bet I say annoying things too!

So annoying and makes no sense grammatically. I think people prefer it as it feels a bit more 'complete' or formal to say the longer word even if it is a refllecive pronoun that isn't appropriate in many contexts used

Reflexive**

It bothers me too but not as much as using “John and I” incorrectly - sometimes “me and John” is right!

An example I see often on emails: “if you have any questions please do not hesitate to contact John and I”. No. If there was no John involved you’d have said “if you have any questions please do not hesitate to contact me” not “contact I”, so you should say “me and John”. People are adamant “me and John” is always incorrect but sometimes it’s right.

It's annoying.

My personal theory about why it happens. When growing up and learning English, it's more common to make the mistake of using 'me' where 'I' should be used, e.g. 'My sister and me are going shopping' than the other way round so some people start thinking 'me' is wrong and should be avoided at all costs. Where 'I' sounds wrong to them, they substitute 'myself' because of the erroneous belief that the correct 'me' is 'bad'.

What are people's views on "perfectly fine"?
It annoys me but I can't articulate why.

Personally I would say “please contact John and/or me”. You should come last.

It's normal to use 'myself' in Scottish English, so just a regional variation-there are many!

Can we add people who use the word ‘utilise’ when they should use ‘use’’?

Actually i think that should be:

Can we add people who utilise the word ‘utilise’ when they should use ‘use’? 😎

I agree with you.

It’s grammatically incorrect. It’s said my people who want to appear important.

Me and John is never right.

This!!! It irritates the hell out of me. People are terrified of the word me for some reason. My other pet hate is "us nurses/cyclists/whatever" as opposed to "we nurses....".

Even the IMO great Taylor Swift let herself down with this one.

YABU. Yourself could of posted this in Pedants' Corner instead of AIBU?.
Me and others find it annoying.
Anyways, should yourself wish to find pendants and I, were their in Pedant's Corner

You're not wrong about the incorrect usage of 'myself' being intensely irritating. But you are wrong to think it's always 'my friend and I".

My son used "myself" in a cover letter which I proof read and I made him change it because I told him that he was neither an estate agent nor an Apprentice candidate so didn't need to speak like a knob!

He laughed and thankfully hasn't used it since.

we play "Myself Bingo" when watching The Apprentice - they do it A LOT - also "yourself" - "Myself will direct the video, yourself will be sub team leader"!

Yep - drives me mad. Usually used by those who write "we was" in an email following their "Myself and Jane" opener.

I find it common amongst fellow Scots. Doesn't grate when said with a Scottish accent!