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To hate people using the word 'myself' instead of just 'me'?

227 replies

blackrabbitwhiterabbit · 11/05/2023 11:52

There's just no need. It should be 'my friend and I'...shouldn't it? Not 'myself and my friend.'

First world 🌎 problems, I know. 😂

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Hydrangeatea · 11/05/2023 17:08

SpeckledlyHen · 11/05/2023 14:24

I just don't think I could work for someone like that.. My old director couldn't string a sentence together. I used to cringe listening to him "I faught we was going to fink about what we was doing, myself and John agree".. This was (with many others) one of the reasons I left.

I sat on a call with him and clients, all C-Suite execs and he spoke like that. Rambled on and on and no one was any the wiser of what he said at the end of the call.

Faught was probably too complex for him - it was probably "I fort we was"

CharlottenBerg · 11/05/2023 17:21

Hydrangeatea · 11/05/2023 17:08

Faught was probably too complex for him - it was probably "I fort we was"

I had a line manager from Essex, and his 'fanks' and 'nuffink' etc used to really get on my tits, but he was a lovely bloke.

JenniferBarkley · 11/05/2023 18:38

Incorrect grammar is one thing, but slagging off someone's accent really is the lowest of the low.

CharlottenBerg · 11/05/2023 18:51

JenniferBarkley · 11/05/2023 18:38

Incorrect grammar is one thing, but slagging off someone's accent really is the lowest of the low.

Maybe, but for me it it depends which accent. I love Northern accents, and Midlands (east and west), Welsh, Irish, and Scottish, but (maybe I have some kind of sensitivity?) Cockney, Essex, Estuary, etc really get on my nerves. When DP watches Eastenders, I am either cringing or sarcastically imitating the characters.

JenniferBarkley · 11/05/2023 18:55

Fine to have favourite and less preferred accents (posh Scottish, most non-rhotic respectively for me). But slagging someone off for saying fanks instead of thanks or fink instead of think says more about the moaner than the moanee.

Hydrangeatea · 11/05/2023 18:56

JenniferBarkley · 11/05/2023 18:38

Incorrect grammar is one thing, but slagging off someone's accent really is the lowest of the low.

Where is anyone slagging off accent? All anyone is commenting on is incorrect grammar - nuffink, fanks, fort, we was is all incorrect grammar

Hydrangeatea · 11/05/2023 18:57

JenniferBarkley · 11/05/2023 18:55

Fine to have favourite and less preferred accents (posh Scottish, most non-rhotic respectively for me). But slagging someone off for saying fanks instead of thanks or fink instead of think says more about the moaner than the moanee.

This is simply not about accent......it is purely about incorrect grammar.

How on earth you can try and justify bad english is now just a regional accent is astonishing!😂

JenniferBarkley · 11/05/2023 18:58

Nuffink, fanks and fort are all accent.

We was is informal usage in many dialects.

Hydrangeatea · 11/05/2023 18:59

JenniferBarkley · 11/05/2023 18:58

Nuffink, fanks and fort are all accent.

We was is informal usage in many dialects.

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha

I really now "have seen it all" on mumsnet

Never in my life have I heard something so ridiculous. Oh my days....

WeAreBorg · 11/05/2023 19:06

Hydrangeatea · 11/05/2023 18:59

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha

I really now "have seen it all" on mumsnet

Never in my life have I heard something so ridiculous. Oh my days....

I’m impressed that this is the most ridiculous thing you’ve ever heard in all you life. Your whole life!

Hydrangeatea · 11/05/2023 19:09

WeAreBorg · 11/05/2023 19:06

I’m impressed that this is the most ridiculous thing you’ve ever heard in all you life. Your whole life!

It's because I am from Surrey, am bright and intelligent and surround myself with bright and intelligent people 😏

MzHz · 11/05/2023 19:10

Schroedingersimmigrant · 11/05/2023 11:59

I had email from someone in professional capacity who used it instead of every single "I" and "you" in the email...

I ignore these emails every time. Don’t care who it’s from, no excuse for such ignorance.

Florissante · 11/05/2023 19:11

Hydrangeatea · 11/05/2023 19:09

It's because I am from Surrey, am bright and intelligent and surround myself with bright and intelligent people 😏

If MN doesn't have a raised eyebrow emoji, it should.

MzHz · 11/05/2023 19:11

Hydrangeatea · 11/05/2023 18:59

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha

I really now "have seen it all" on mumsnet

Never in my life have I heard something so ridiculous. Oh my days....

To be fair “Oh my days” is another thing I can’t bear.

and from Surrey too… clearly not the posh part 🤣😉

WestwardHo1 · 11/05/2023 19:13

YANBU.

For some reason people are too embarrassed to use "my wife and I" (for example) in case it makes themselves like King Charles. And they know that sometimes using "me" is wrong, as in "me and my friend went shopping", so they use "myself" because they've heard other people doing it.

There used to be a landlord advertising properties on our local FB. He used to say "For more information please message myself". Used to make me swear.

Hydrangeatea · 11/05/2023 19:14

Florissante · 11/05/2023 19:11

If MN doesn't have a raised eyebrow emoji, it should.

Agreed! I have certainly needed one today. That and a wide eyed in disbelief emoji 😬

WestwardHo1 · 11/05/2023 19:16

And yes, often people use "I" instead of "me". Home and Away, I'm looking at you.

"You know we belong together
You and I forever and ever...."

Backtonormalatlast · 11/05/2023 19:18

I must be deaf because I have never heard ‘ myself ‘ used in this context!

WestwardHo1 · 11/05/2023 19:20

Florissante · 11/05/2023 15:37

It depends on the content.

For example, she gave the apples to John and me (us) not John and I (we). But John and I (we) went to the cinema not me and John (us) went to the cinema.

Cases isn't it? Accusative and Dative.

English is a Germanic language with lots of Latin vocab.

WeAreBorg · 11/05/2023 19:22

Hydrangeatea · 11/05/2023 19:09

It's because I am from Surrey, am bright and intelligent and surround myself with bright and intelligent people 😏

There’s not enough bright and intelligent folk round my way to shield me H-Tea.
I’m peppered with “myself”, Random Capitalised Words and unnecessarily long words used in place of short ones wherever I go! HELP

Anonymous48 · 11/05/2023 19:27

I agree and find it very grating. I live in the US and never hear myself or yourself used that way. It seems to be a British thing.

Quisquam · 11/05/2023 19:30

Can I ask why some people pronounce ‘ate’ as ‘et’ rather than rhyming ‘ate’ with ‘gate’.

Apparently, it’s dialectal. My guess is it comes from an obsolete form either in Old English or Proto-Germanic. “Eat” comes from the Proto Indo European language root “ed”, which became “edere” in Latin, giving us edible in English, among others.

“Manger” to eat in French came from the colloquial “manducare” used by Latin speaking peasants, as it never appeared in any Latin literature I read - educated Romans used “edere” in writing. Same probably as the slang testa (plant pot) was used in Gaul for head, and became the French for head “tete” (I don’t know how to add a circumflex, to represent an s dropped from the Latin word).

PedantScorner · 11/05/2023 19:40

Knock, knock
Who's there?
Henrietta
Henrietta who?
Henrietta Lamb

NowZeusHasLainWithLeda · 11/05/2023 19:41

Hydrangeatea · 11/05/2023 18:56

Where is anyone slagging off accent? All anyone is commenting on is incorrect grammar - nuffink, fanks, fort, we was is all incorrect grammar

Only your last example is incorrect grammar. None of the others are anything to do with grammar, correct or otherwise.

NowZeusHasLainWithLeda · 11/05/2023 19:44

Hydrangeatea · 11/05/2023 18:59

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha

I really now "have seen it all" on mumsnet

Never in my life have I heard something so ridiculous. Oh my days....

Jennifer is correct.
You are making rather an embarrassing fool of yourself. Do you genuinely think the pronunciation of words is "grammar"?