To be angry my daughter was made to kiss a family friend?

[Garethkeenansstapler]

Something that’s been playing on my mind for a few weeks.

DH took our daughter, 3, to visit his mum and dad who live locally. Their friends happened to be there (same couple their age, DH has known them since he was little) and DH mentioned when he got back ‘DD even gave Pete a kiss when she left’.

Now DD is confident but would never kiss a man she doesn’t know willingly. It turns out they had ‘encouraged’ her to give him a kiss and she had ‘eventually’ done it.

I don’t know why but it’s made me really angry. I asked if he would make our baby DS kiss him in future and DH said ‘of course not’ but couldn’t really justify why not. We all know of course 🙄

I would of course expect DD to say goodbye or wave to people as they were leaving, as I think manners matter. But the thought of her being made to kiss old men she doesn’t know to make them happy makes my blood boil.

It’s clear DH thinks I’m overreacting, so I’m going to show him this thread if the response shows I’m not BU. So please lay out why this was so inappropriate of him and that I’m not some neurotic madwoman for being angry about it.

Thanks x

I would be absolutely raging too. This is really important for teaching kids that they have a right to have their feelings respected. It's the foundation for teaching them about consent.

Our young ones in the family…girl wants to kiss me (aunt) and my husband, grandparents etc, little boy doesn’t so we fist bump or jokily shake hands (he’s 10) on his birthday/Christmas etc, I ask would it be ok if I gave him a kiss, he usually says no and that’s fine! He’ll hug you and that’s great, but I never, ever kiss him against his will.