Page 9 | To get the ick with a man I have loved since I was 16. I’m 49

Kearsie · 2023-04-29T19:15:41+00:00

I went out with a guy when I was 16 and he was 23. Loved him, like actually adored him. I got divorced 3 years ago and looked him up on Facebook. He was also divorced so we got chatting. Everything was great and we got on like a house on fire. Been out for a few drinks, slept together, it’s amazing. Tonight we went to Tesco. I was at the checkout and he wanted to go back for milk. I stood there and waited, and then heard this god awful squeaking noise. Literally the whole shop turned round to him doing a toe jabby run, squeaking his trainers down the aisle. I was beside myself with embarrassment. The attraction has literally disappeared after 30 years. I’m so sad :(

pinkyredrose · 30/04/2023 09:49

PyongyangKipperbang · 30/04/2023 00:13

30 years ago my 17 year old cousin got married to her 23 year old fiance. I mean.....yes it was a disaster and wasnt all that common, but it wasnt that unusual either. There were raised eyebrows but no one considered the age gap to be particularly outrageous. Her (and my) generations parents generally got married a lot earlier than my generation did, and we generally got married earlier than following generations (I am 49, same as OP). For example my parents where 19 and 20 when they got married and had 2 kids by the time they were 23.

So while, yes with modern eyes 16 and 23 seems appalling, back then it wouldnt have been so bad. Whether that is right or wrong is up for debate, but there would not have been the out right horror at the idea that there is now, as shown on this thread.

Oh and 30 years ago was 1973...FYI.....

1993 surely?

Wonderway19 · 30/04/2023 09:53

This is hilarious but the ick is the ick 😂 give it another go and you’ll soon see! It’ll either long be forgotten or every time thing he does from now on will have steam venting from every orifice 🤣🤣

Shoelacesundone · 30/04/2023 09:53

I have just never got the ick but it sounds like it cam strike at anytime and is then fatal. Do men get it too?

Throwncrumbs · 30/04/2023 10:00

PyongyangKipperbang · 30/04/2023 00:13

30 years ago my 17 year old cousin got married to her 23 year old fiance. I mean.....yes it was a disaster and wasnt all that common, but it wasnt that unusual either. There were raised eyebrows but no one considered the age gap to be particularly outrageous. Her (and my) generations parents generally got married a lot earlier than my generation did, and we generally got married earlier than following generations (I am 49, same as OP). For example my parents where 19 and 20 when they got married and had 2 kids by the time they were 23.

So while, yes with modern eyes 16 and 23 seems appalling, back then it wouldnt have been so bad. Whether that is right or wrong is up for debate, but there would not have been the out right horror at the idea that there is now, as shown on this thread.

Oh and 30 years ago was 1973...FYI.....

30 years ago was 1993! 1973 was 50 years ago!

WouldYouLikeACrabPuff · 30/04/2023 11:29

@BOOTS52PollyPrissyPants omg my dad did that a few months ago! 😂 just couldn't take anything he was saying seriously or stop looking at this 1cm of bare skin.

CrimpleneAttraction · 30/04/2023 11:31

30 years ago was 1993! 1973 was 50 years ago!
Incorrect.
I have DC born in the 1970s and they assure me they are only in their 30s.

Swg · 30/04/2023 11:48

You are being unreasonable yes. And rude. And mean.

You like who you like and its absolutely fine not to like someone. But everyone has a thousand weird little habits and movements - I have a load myself. There's a wide section of the population that will never be attracted to me and that is fine. But if I found someone I actually liked had decided to post to a website making fun of those habits I would be crushed and miserably self conscious.

There's a really big Mean Girl segment of mumsnet which dresses it up in cutesy language like The Ick. Its not something to be proud of.

TheFireflies · 30/04/2023 11:52

Throwncrumbs · 30/04/2023 10:00

30 years ago was 1993! 1973 was 50 years ago!

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Sssshhh. Let people enjoy things.

LlynTegid · 30/04/2023 11:54

Just say in a few days time how you felt about everyone noticing him and rubbernecking, ask him to walk more carefully in future.

I'm sure you'll feel less gutted in a few days, though understand why it was awful for you.

Ofcourseshecan · 30/04/2023 12:11

I read it as Joe Tabby run, and tried to look it up. So I’ve had a brief but puzzling detour via some nice cat pics.
Thanks PP for the Daffy Duck gif.

Now I’m wetting myself laughing. Sorry OP. This wouldn’t give me the ick. When my DH does his Minion voice in the supermarket I crack up laughing too.

JaneJeffer · 30/04/2023 12:13

Portandlemonade · 30/04/2023 09:20

You are unreasonable to use the phrase 'get the ick'.
A silly US import!

If this is real, you sound like you are 16 not 49.
Dumping someone because their trainers squeak?

Mine do sometimes- it's the leather being worn in and they were very expensive.

This post gave me the ick

FictionalCharacter · 30/04/2023 12:24

Portandlemonade · 30/04/2023 09:20

You are unreasonable to use the phrase 'get the ick'.
A silly US import!

If this is real, you sound like you are 16 not 49.
Dumping someone because their trainers squeak?

Mine do sometimes- it's the leather being worn in and they were very expensive.

This is not someone walking normally in shoes that squeak a bit. It’s a middle aged man doing a really silly childish run, deliberately making the soles of his shoes squeak on the hard floor. Ridiculous behaviour.

“Ick” is used a lot on MN and the OP is perfect reasonable to use a word that a lot of other people use. It’s shorthand for a feeling a lot of us recognise- a sudden visceral revulsion in response to something a person says or does, that makes us feel differently about them. It’s a “something inside me died” kind of thing. It can be the end of a relationship because you can’t see that person in the same way again. You may not like the word but there isn’t yet another one that describes the same thing.

ArabeIIaScott · 30/04/2023 12:28

Portandlemonade · 30/04/2023 09:20

You are unreasonable to use the phrase 'get the ick'.
A silly US import!

If this is real, you sound like you are 16 not 49.
Dumping someone because their trainers squeak?

Mine do sometimes- it's the leather being worn in and they were very expensive.

Is that you, toe-jabby?

Dontsayyouloveme · 30/04/2023 12:59

I got the ick once when he returned my Tupperware… unwashed…! Just wrong!

pinkspaghetti · 30/04/2023 19:05

On another thread about the ick a couple of years ago, a poster said she got the ick because her partner constantly referred to himself as "muggins here" which is exactly the sort of thing which would majorly give me the ick.

Belle96 · 30/04/2023 19:10

OP hasn't updated since this morning. The views on all the icks is hilarious!
I think there may be more too this one!

mrsfennel · 30/04/2023 20:12

Was he trying to be like footballer? When some footballers run to the side of pitch to get ball they sometimes do a bit of a toe jabby run?

Dontsayyouloveme · 01/05/2023 09:51

mrsfennel · 30/04/2023 20:12

Was he trying to be like footballer? When some footballers run to the side of pitch to get ball they sometimes do a bit of a toe jabby run?

That’s the one!!! 👌🏼

mrsfennel · 01/05/2023 09:57

@Dontsayyouloveme 😂😂