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To get the ick with a man I have loved since I was 16. I’m 49

219 replies

Kearsie · 29/04/2023 20:15

I went out with a guy when I was 16 and he was 23. Loved him, like actually adored him.
I got divorced 3 years ago and looked him up on Facebook. He was also divorced so we got chatting. Everything was great and we got on like a house on fire. Been out for a few drinks, slept together, it’s amazing.
Tonight we went to Tesco. I was at the checkout and he wanted to go back for milk. I stood there and waited, and then heard this god awful squeaking noise. Literally the whole shop
turned round to him doing a toe jabby run, squeaking his trainers down the aisle. I was beside myself with embarrassment.
The attraction has literally disappeared after 30 years. I’m so sad :(

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PriamFarrl · 29/04/2023 22:34

LouBaloo · 29/04/2023 21:38

Does he do the T-Rex too?

That was my first thought.

TwoMonthsOff · 29/04/2023 22:35

@Kearsie
okay
just move on

its a massive amount of time that’s elapsed

non issue

Kyse · 29/04/2023 22:36

IcakethereforeIam · 29/04/2023 22:16

Like this?

But not a duck, I'm assuming, and with milk.

I'm sure I saw a comedian recommending wearing crocs when having sex...for traction

But not a duck, I'm assuming, and with milk

Has just made me shake laughing and offended the cat GrinGrinGrin

Devonshiregal · 29/04/2023 22:36

Do men get the ick for women?

TwoMonthsOff · 29/04/2023 22:37

Devonshiregal · 29/04/2023 22:36

Do men get the ick for women?

of course they do

lavenderhaz · 29/04/2023 22:37

I got the ick when an ex called mayonnaise - mayo. Absolutely ruined him for me.

I'm not usually pedantic either.

Crumbs on their face too. Uuurgh.

JaneJeffer · 29/04/2023 22:37

doing a toe jabby run, squeaking his trainers down the aisle
This is a Marian Keyes worthy description Grin

Quitelikeacatslife · 29/04/2023 22:38

IcakethereforeIam · 29/04/2023 22:16

Like this?

But not a duck, I'm assuming, and with milk.

I'm sure I saw a comedian recommending wearing crocs when having sex...for traction

Just snorted out loud at this

Quitelikeacatslife · 29/04/2023 22:40

Was he doing it on purpose to make you laugh ? Or was he trying to run normally and it was the way he did it?
Don't know which is worse

Devonshiregal · 29/04/2023 22:40

I have a lot of male friends and non doc them have ever mentioned it. But women yes. Often. Just wondering.

PollyPeptide · 29/04/2023 22:41

TwoMonthsOff · 29/04/2023 22:37

of course they do

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But according to MN only if there's another woman in the wings.

Quitelikeacatslife · 29/04/2023 22:41

Sorry OP just realised you are feigning sleep, cannot reply

lavenderhaz · 29/04/2023 22:41

Another one when I was younger - his mother served us dinner at the table and he was smiling so much and done like a little happy dance (wiggling his bum side to side) in his chair. Couldn't see him after that.

pinkstripeycat · 29/04/2023 22:41

Yup he’s not for you. If DH did this I’d laugh my head off. The things other people do that make me think “yuk”, if DH does them it makes me laugh.

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CakeBeautifulCake · 29/04/2023 22:48

😂 Reading this while brushing my teeth and nearly drowned four times from laughing so much 👏 can't get the t-rex squeaky hoof jog out of my head now! The one and only time I've had the ick with my long term bf was when he finally joined me for a dance in a pub one night, index fingers up dad dancing style... he's lucky I love him! (And never forced him to dance with me again!)

Mummyoflittledragon · 29/04/2023 22:49

SparklingLime · 29/04/2023 22:27

It really was not all fine then. It's was predatory and creepy, just more widely ignored.

I get this is meant to be lighthearted, but you're going to pretend to be asleep to avoid sex? You don't feel able to say no?

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It was almost the norm back then. Different times. This has been discussed on threads in the past. We didn’t feel exploited by much older men. Looking back, the power imbalance was there. But that was just accepted by pretty much everyone. I would hate this to happen now with my dd but she’d never look at a much older man I don’t think. She thinks 16 year olds in year 11 looking at her would make them ‘paedos’ (her words) and she’s year 10.

As for the ick, either he’s not right for you or you need to teach him how to walk and ditch the trainers.

Dontsayyouloveme · 29/04/2023 22:51

to be it depends in the trainer! Cool addidas or pumas, no problem, sketchers, big problem!!!

MattTebbuttsDenimShirt · 29/04/2023 22:51

ArabeIIaScott · 29/04/2023 22:15

Oh you cow! You fantastic cow! I was thinking of this randomly last night 🤣

Fighterofthenightman1 · 29/04/2023 22:54

I got put off a guy in a supermarket too, he opened the reusable bags we bought really loudly 😄 he held the handles and fluffed them up in the air loudly (can't describe it) haha

Also got completely put off another guy because he had an intense love of fish, like aquarium ones. I don't know what it was about a grown man posting photos of random fish on social media or a photo of his rod by a river with a 👍

Dontsayyouloveme · 29/04/2023 22:55

If it is this.. like a forcing balls (of feet) down on the floor tip toe thing, I think I might like it actually… again, massively depends on the trainer!

I can’t bear that naturally bouncy tip toe walk some people have.. like they can’t put their whole foot down flat 🤢🤢🤢🤢

IHateLegDay · 29/04/2023 22:55

I've had an awful couple of days and this has genuinely made me laugh! Sorry 😂🙈

GG1986 · 29/04/2023 22:55

I got the ick when a guy I went on 3 dates with told me that he had left his job and was spending his days at home with his housemate watching Disney films all day!

mistermagpie · 29/04/2023 22:55

Toe jabby run!! I can picture it completely, and a man in his 50s too? No thanks.

For what it's worth, for the right person you might find you can overlook some truly ickworthy stuff. My husband says 'yummy', for instance. I have begged him to stop, but he's his own man. The thing is, he's just lovely and perfect for me in every other way, so I can let this one go, and I bet I do some really annoying stuff myself if I'm honest. I think the actual relationship-ending ick happens when the relationship wasn't right in the first place, it's just our subconscious letting us know.

MedievalMadness · 29/04/2023 22:57

Was he doing it on purpose to make you laugh ? Or was he trying to run normally and it was the way he did it?
Don't know which is worse

Both as bad in different ways I’d say. Sorry to laugh at the unusual situation you have found yourself in OP, but this thread has made mw smile after a shitty week.

My ick moment was when a BF cuddled up to me on the sofa and made these mouth sounds like a baby makes in its sleep when it’s had a nice feed, a clean nappy and is all blissed out. I wanted to punch him .