To think boys shouldn’t go in to men’s toilets???

[Scotlandma]

This is hypothetical I seen another post about someone not letting their 9 year old use mens public bathrooms

what age do other people let their children go in to toilets on their own?

and how do you navigate them using the disabled toilets if not?? I’d be so worried in case someone actually disabled needed them

Why shouldn’t children use the mens toilet? What is the MN obsession with toilets, its like a weird fetish.

I take my son into the women's loos with me.

Take them in the women's? It's all behind doors.

Because of dodgy weirdos in men's loos!

They shouldn’t be using the disabled toilet unless they have a disability.

Yes these dodgy weirdos who only seem to exist on MN land where a suspicious number of women seem to believe they’re experts on mens toilets.

My son is 8 and I'm now at the point where I send him into the men's loos. I fucking hate it tbh but I can't be an advocate for the preservation of single sex spaces whilst expecting other women to be ok with my son coming into the women's loos, and 8+ seems to be the time when it becomes less acceptable.

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Absolutely spot on

At 9? I'd not expect to see a 9 year old boy in ladies toilets. I work in a school and some of the 9 year old boys are nearly as tall as some of the staff

By the same logic would they not allow their 9 year old daughter to use ladies toilets?

This raises an interesting issue on school trips. Where do boys (say Y3 or 4, age 7, 8, 9) go? I never have a male member of staff with me so it's not like an adult can go in with them.

If they are young enough to need escorting to the toilet they go with their accompanying adult to the appropriate facility for the adult.

If they are old enough to be out and about by themselves they are old enough to go to the toilet by themselves.

My son was 6 when he started going to the gents.

It’s quite the conundrum when we cannot allow boys to be exposed to the dangers of the gents’ toilets, and not invade women-only spaces, and not inveigle disabled facilities either….Best they stay home at all times.

Absolutely agree.

Again ?

Let him use the men’s, it’s fine. Never met any weirdos, what do you think goes on in there ?

Noting the comments on disabled toilets above, is it not the case that someone with a disability has priority using a disabled toilet in the event that two people both need to use it? Rather than a person who doesn’t have a disability not being permitted to use it? I have a baby and often use the disabled toilet as I can get both me and my baby’s pram in. Should I not be doing so?

DH informs me that men’s toilets are usually disgusting. If you’re man size and competent at a stand up wee, urinals are tolerable. If you’re a little boy, you don’t want to be using a filthy toilet with no seat. I do let my 9 year old use men’s toilets on his own but I take my 7 year old into the ladies still.

My son's 10 with a disability and if the accessible toilet is occupied or non existent, he comes in with me. Sorry I'm all for single sex spaces but my vulnerable kid is my priority in this situation.

It's not the same though. The threat here is men, not women. Let's not pretend there is an even field.

My 8 year old boy comes on the women's loos with me and he will until I think best

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As a single parent my DS (age 9) has been using the men's for the last 18 months I trust him, I wait for him and I would go in after him after 5 mins.