To ask if you have ever felt an instant mutual sexual attraction to someone?

[Margot78]

Just wondering if people really experience this or whether it’s just in movies! I’m mid forties now so probably too late for me but just curious as to whether it does really happen!

Wow love these stories, I have felt instant attractions but never been sure that the guy felt something back. Probably not!

Yep about 3 or 4 times. First three, were disasters never got a relationship off the ground. Then married someone sensible and divorced after 20 years.

Lastly, at 47, with my DP. We met OLD two years ago and marry next spring. Never been happier

Yep. Like a thunderbolt. And I married him.

Man - I wish I could one day say 'yes, married him' about mine. It's crushing that it's not to be. But at least I don't feel as silly as I did knowing that others my age have had this happen to them. Thanks OP!

You are unbelievably lucky. I’m jealous! Imaging being married to someone you love and are attracted to, who feels the same way about you. You’re living the dream!

Yes once. Wrong time in life though.
Lasted a few months. Best of times. Miss him now I am older and wiser.

@Blamunge Yes, I agree. I met him at a Christmas party that I almost didn't attend because I was tired at the end of a long work week. And pure luck did have something to do with it.

Quite often - but I do have an unusually high sex drive I think and seem to fancy a wider spread of people than most of my female friends do (for example). That is my impression anyway.

My current husband, on our first date I could have leapt across the table and eaten him alive! I'm still very physically attracted to him years later, and that chemistry has held us together through some really difficult passages I would say. But certainly not everything about the relationship has been easy. The sex has been fucking amazing though!

Yes I married him 20 years ago

Please don’t think being in your 40’s means it’s too late to have the instant sexual chemistry with someone.
Im 43, and it’s been great in the past year or so, I’ve met a couple of men where it’s been just instant crash bang and needing to have each other.
trust me…

It's the fact that my boobs are by my belly button and the rest of me looks like a melted candle that makes me think nobody will feel sexual anything about me, more than being in my 40s
It would be nice though.

Yes. But it was just a heartbreaking disaster in the end.

Nevermind.

Yep. With him now

Yes.

Yes twice. Once in my early 20s, we were both seeing other people at the time. Second was an absolute whirlwind, instant and unstoppable. We’d literally do it anywhere and everywhere. We’re now married with children, but the spark is still there, although confined to a bed rather than pub toilet/alleyway/beach 😂

Yes, three times, alll developed into relationships, but none of them lasted (one turned out to be boring, the second one I had a very volatile relationship that just fell apart and the third was a serial philanderer).

I stayed friends with the second one, all the time we were both in long relationships with other people. We were the best of friends, and when we were both finally free, we got together again and were blissfully happy for 10 years, when, sadly, he died.

Have I misunderstood this? You're saying you had amazing sexual attraction with a gay man? Does that mean you're a gay man yourself?

@CurlyhairedAssassin 😂

Oops yes, I missed the mutual attraction bit! I'm female and don't read properly it seems 😊

God yes! Never been so physically affected by a guy before or since. The things I used to dream of him doing to me…….It was mutual but we were both with other people so it remained a wonderful fantasy & huge ego boost!

I've had this twice and both times its ended up unconsummated as timing has been wrong, one or both of us in relationship, alternating being single.

Yes, not necessarily sexual at all, just a sort of instant spark. X

Twice. One of those guys is my husband. I can remember meeting him and walking over to my friend, saying "wow I'm in trouble" 😂

He says he got caught staring at me by his friend who winked at him!

Same here, I never did one night full monty stands but the one time I did, here we are over 20 years later?

Definitely - it happened with my current partner, & 5 years on I still get butterflies when he smiles at me! We are/were a similar age to you, a few years younger.

Yes. We locked eyes as he walked over and that was it, I was hooked. I had to have him. Best sex I'd had as well.