To ask if you have ever felt an instant mutual sexual attraction to someone?

[Margot78]

Just wondering if people really experience this or whether it’s just in movies! I’m mid forties now so probably too late for me but just curious as to whether it does really happen!

Yes, and it's someone I work with. We kissed on a work night out a few weeks back, we are both single but he has been burned before by workplace relationships so isn't keen to take it further.

I'm still hoping he will change his mind!!!

Yes! Deadly crazy chemistry.

oh yes 🔥

Yes

Yes definitely for me but in each case the attraction faded pretty quickly when I realised they were not particularly nice personality wise!!!

Yes , It was a co worker at a temp job and I was in a relationship at the time so it was kind of awkward!
He was very attractive he gave me butterflys 😳He kept finding excuses to touch me and talk to me, he asked me if I was single and I told him I wasn't and he backed off
He ended up leaving but I saw him a year later on the train and he gave me a big hug, I got butterflys all over again😭

He asked me if I was still with my boyfriend and I said yes and he said "I hope he is treating you right" and then we parted ways
Wish I got his number because my ex was cheating on me relentlessly, so much for being loyal
🙄I dont feel like that with everyone , its instant fireworks

Yes. Dh. First time we saw each other. Still the same now

I fancied my now wife straight away. She was and still is absolutely, naturally, gorgeous. It took her a bit longer to fall for me!! :-DDD

Yes a few times. Lots of fun! One though came out with some right wing xenophobic shite and the fire drained away in seconds 😁

Yes. Felt like electricity between us. I'm not the most confident person and not one to be like 'oh he likes me', but I just knew it couldn't be one-sided because it felt so intense. Still together now 20 years later. The spark isn't as intense but it's still there and it's usually what brings us back together when we've had difficult times or an argument!

Oh yes, twice and didn't end up with either of them! First time it was I think a bit of a rebound thing and he was the utter opposite of my recent breakup in every way, which I think was a large contributing factor...ultimately he was completely wrong for me but the sexual chemistry was impossible to ignore.

Second time he was the best man at a work friend's wedding. He gave an amazing speech, had the whole room eating out the palm of his hand and I fancied the pants off him instantly. Made a beeline for him at the reception and we ended up having a really intense fling that lasted about 2 months and consisted of just sex really. I wanted more, if I'm honest, but he saw it as a casual thing.

Met my now DH shortly after that ended and it was a much slower burn, but ultimately he's been the one I've been the happiest with and once the attraction grew it has been much stronger (and longer!) than those instant intense fiery ones.

Gosh yes, often. Have to crush it swiftly now though as married.

Yep. The first time I saw DP was at sixth form and the second I clocked him I just instantly knew there was something about him - it’s hard to describe. But we are still together 17 years later and I still get the same feeling about him.

Yes. But sadly never with anyone I can actually be with . Its only happened twice but uts either been with someone where we bring the worst out of each other so relationship was short lived.

Or we just couldn't be together even if we wanted to be and we slept together to basically kill it and go on our merry way.

Margot78 - at your mid forties I can categorically guarantee that it is not too late for you, by any means!
yes of course it happens, others pick it up too, ie aware of it as it is like a chemical reaction (sparks)

Yes quite often

Yes twice in my life and had relationships with both.

Christ, loads of times when I was younger.

Many times. And also had very weird experiences like the first time I met my now ex I knew instantly we were going to have a child together. 😳 I mean that sounds absolutely bat shit crazy, I know. But I mean literally talked to him across a bar for 5 seconds and I just knew. And we ended up being together for 5 years and having a dd - and then he turned into a complete arsehole 😳😆 (that was 20 odd years ago now).

Oh yes! When i traveled to bulgaria. Not even speak the same language. He cant speak english. The attraction was so intense i think i falling in love. Spend my holiday in bulgaria with him for a week. Lots and lots of sex and cuddle but not talking 😂😂😂 i dont even remember his name. I still remember his face as he is fckin good lucking and sexy 🤣. And its been 20 years ago

Nope.

Several times a day. I think it's because I have quite an active imagination and also I am very curious about people.

Yes, a few times in my youth, really strong sexual chemistry. Didn't lead to anything long term but fun at the time.
One guy the attraction was so intense, we met on holiday and had a fantastic few days. I flew to his city a while later and same again despite the lack of sun and sea but then found out he had kids and I was too young for all that.
He had an unusual name and I was tempted to look him up again a few years later but I knew it was curiosity rather than a real relationship prospect and I resisted.

Yes. A couple of decades ago. It lasted almost two years but just the sexual attraction wasn't enough to make it last longer. Sometimes I wonder if we were ever to meet again we'd still feel it (very very unlikely as we live in different countries)

No. I have only ever felt actual
sexual attraction to men I have gotten to know extremely well first. It is the mental connection that creates the sexual attraction.