To ask if you have ever felt an instant mutual sexual attraction to someone?

[Margot78]

Just wondering if people really experience this or whether it’s just in movies! I’m mid forties now so probably too late for me but just curious as to whether it does really happen!

Yes, a few times never lasted though.

Yes but damn he was so boring. I dumped him in the end.

Ive seen him again years later and it’s still there, it’s like a string between us, but relationship wise, never gonna work.

Yes, instant. She's now my wife.

Yes! I married him!

Yes! Only once, the smell of him was pure chemical sexual attraction. I couldn’t have turned him down if I tried! Luckily he was similarly attracted. To this day if I catch a whiff of that particular aftershave my body goes like a pointing dog

No, never 😌Very jealous of those that have.

If you ask a couple of exes, they will say we did have instant chemistry but no, I was being what they wanted in the hope they would like me...and it often worked. Then it would dawn on me I'd have to act the manic-pixie-dream-girl forever and they didn't actually like ME so I'd bail. I stay single now!

Loads of times. From speaking to friends I thought this was quite common so I’m really surprised to hear people saying it’s only ever happened once or twice for them.

Yes, saw each other across a crowded bar were mutually drawn to eachother. Apert from work trips and hospital stays to have a baby and surgeries, we have not spent a night apart. Now 27 married years we

Yup, couldn't make a relationship work though.
The sex was so good, we were on again, off again for a few years.

It is certainly not too late, op. Goodness me, such things can happen at any age!

Yes I have experienced it. As a mature person I can say it doesn't mean you have found your soulmate but it is exciting when it happens, which is not often. It also doesn't mean the sex will be particularly good but you don't know that unless you try.

When I met my husband I didn't feel any great sexual attraction, a year later I had got to know him and we were very much in love. It all happened then!

Most definitely. My first boyfriend. I have never felt that way about anyone again… unfortunately 😂

Yes, once. Very powerful sexual chemistry, instantly. But not good for a long-term relationship and I walked away in the end.

Yes and married with 4 children and happy bunnies 🤣

Yes, met him walking home from uni one day (he was also a student) and we were in bed less than an hour later. That timeline may not be my finest moment, but we had a great few months before we moved to opposite ends of the country after graduation.

Twice - but it didn’t last either time.

Yes, and it wasn't my husband! So, nothing happened, but I still think about him sometimes.

Yes, my current husband! We're still together 11 years later. I have felt similar feelings albeit much weaker both before and since but nothing that gave me the same feeling that I needed to act on it.

Oh yes. It was very good fun, but not for long, and I don't know where he is now.
Now I'm 40, saggy and a single parent it's highly, highly unlikely to happen again!

Yes, but rarely. Normally it takes me a while to start to fancy someone because personality is a big part of it for me but with a few people it's been instant. One was this American guy that had came over on a gap year. He was handsomeish, not drop dead gorgeous but he had something hot about him. We flirted from the second we met and I'd never been so turned on from a kiss. We ended up in bed that same night we met and then had a short fling till he went home and the whole thing was just about sex.

Yes, absolutely. I started a new job when I was 19 and he was a colleague, a manager but not my manager, 16 years older and utterly heartbreakingly gorgeous; tall, black hair, blue eyes, jawline that could cut you 🤣 It was instant, for both of us. It was unfortunate that I had a boyfriend I was living with at the time but honestly it was the kick I needed to dump him as he was violently abusive and controlling, and I genuinely didn’t believe I could stay away from my colleague. I couldn’t, he was pursuing me pretty relentlessly, there was a bit of an overlap, but we had a really incredible time together.
I ultimately broke his heart when I met my now DH while colleague man was working abroad 6 months. He wanted us to come back together afterwards but I didn’t want to put my life on hold. It’s worked out nicely.

Same, except that we have been together for nearly 45 years now.

Yes. But terrible relationship wise! Great sex is definitely not everything.

Yes, a few times when I was younger, but not since I met DH (thank god!).

Yup. I married him. Still together almost 19 years later.

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