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He stepped on a spider

207 replies

Alwaysrushingaroundffs · 20/04/2023 20:22

With glee/relish…

Man I like and have been attracted to for a while…(we’re not together)
There was a medium sized spider on the floor, one of the women in our party (not keen on spiders) asked him to remove it/get rid of it. He came over and stamped right on it with his big foot, sort of scraped his foot back, laughed and said ‘It’s the circle of life’ and walked off.

Aibu to have gone off him, pretty much immediately?

So disappointed

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chocolatemademefat · 20/04/2023 21:29

Hate hate hate spiders! Ask him if he’ll visit me at the end of the summer when they’re running around my floor. He can stomp on as many as he wants!

newfence · 20/04/2023 21:29

I hate spiders but would never do that and would really go off someone who did. You are not being unreasonable.

YukoandHiro · 20/04/2023 21:30

Horrible, that would put me right off. He's exposed a cruelty within himself

Farmerama1 · 20/04/2023 21:30

YANBU

romdowa · 20/04/2023 21:31

He'd be my dream man. Spiders freak me out and they either get squashed or hoovered up.

Eranzer · 20/04/2023 21:33

That would completely put me off too. I love that my DP is gentle with spiders/insects and safely releases them somewhere away from me.

newfence · 20/04/2023 21:34

@elm26 Awww, my dad always named every spider in our house, 'Fred'. He was an older man as well (1928) - perhaps a generational thing (or just a standard spider name 😂)

WhineWhineWhineWINE · 20/04/2023 21:38

I used to have bit of a crush on a colleague, until he told a "hilarious" story about the time he shot a bird with an air rifle because it kept shitting on his car. Never gone off someone so fast in my life.

Snugglemonkey · 20/04/2023 21:40

CindersAgain · 20/04/2023 20:35

Spiders and wasps often get killed as there are more people who are scared of them. I wouldn’t mind a spider being killed if someone was really upset by it. But maybe there could have been a conversation about it, so that people who want it to be saved could have moved it. I mean, if you’d moved it, that would have suited everyone?
Possibly just a bad judgment call on the bloke’s part.

Taking pleasure in killing is not a bad judgement call, or a matter of suiting everyone. Noone needs a creature to be dead rather than released outdoors.

TellHimDirectlyInDetail · 20/04/2023 21:40

What if he did the same to a cockroach? Or mosquito?

SurrogateSoul · 20/04/2023 21:43

We all want our very own Spiderman but that ain't it!

Don't get trapped in his web.

SirVixofVixHall · 20/04/2023 21:43

WhineWhineWhineWINE · 20/04/2023 21:38

I used to have bit of a crush on a colleague, until he told a "hilarious" story about the time he shot a bird with an air rifle because it kept shitting on his car. Never gone off someone so fast in my life.

That would be instant death to any crush of mine too.

Justcallmebebes · 20/04/2023 21:44

He'd be dead to me after that. Bastard

PriamFarrl · 20/04/2023 21:44

They always say you can tell a lot about a person by how they treat animals and waiters. It would be an instant no from me.

stonedaisy · 20/04/2023 21:48

I hate spiders but killing it like that gave me the ick too. My OH always gets a glass and a piece of card to do a humane rescue. Never considered what a turn on that is until now...

Mynewname2023 · 20/04/2023 21:48

I’d go off him as well! Unnecessarily cruel and possibly showing off by doing it so casually. RIP spider 🕷

ShowUs · 20/04/2023 21:49

My friend has a massive phobia of spiders (has to take medication and ended up in hospital due to crippling anxiety over it) but she would never kill a spider!

This would give me the ick and it would be over for me.

ShowUs · 20/04/2023 21:50

PriamFarrl · 20/04/2023 21:44

They always say you can tell a lot about a person by how they treat animals and waiters. It would be an instant no from me.

I completely agree!

elm26 · 20/04/2023 21:53

newfence · 20/04/2023 21:34

@elm26 Awww, my dad always named every spider in our house, 'Fred'. He was an older man as well (1928) - perhaps a generational thing (or just a standard spider name 😂)

That's so funny!

Bless them. It's funny because every spider I see I name it Fred in my head but it doesn't make them any less scary to me 🤦🏻‍♀️

newfence · 20/04/2023 21:54

elm26 · 20/04/2023 21:53

That's so funny!

Bless them. It's funny because every spider I see I name it Fred in my head but it doesn't make them any less scary to me 🤦🏻‍♀️

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Hahah! Absolutely not - awful things 😂

TheMiddleOfTheMiddle · 20/04/2023 21:59

What a nasty prick. At least you know.

Ponderingwindow · 20/04/2023 22:01

This is the most uk thread of the uk threads on mumsnet.

Most of the spiders we find inside here bite humans, with bites ranging from annoying swelling and itching to deadly. I don’t want them in my garden any more than I want them in my house. It’s why we pay an exterminator to keep both spider free. The rare non-biting variety I will happily leave alone, but they are almost non-existent.

Babyroobs · 20/04/2023 22:02

Nasty and instantly off putting.

BotterMon · 20/04/2023 22:04

Dump him by saying to him "it's the circle of life". What a tosser.

TorchwoodWho · 20/04/2023 22:05

Squashing a spider - fine, getting joy out of doing it - not fine.