To think being a housewife might be nice ?

[Felixss]

I'm on leave I've managed to get the housework done the deep cleaning , decluttered, sorted my clothes and 3 tip runs. I've washed the covers on the sofa and got through a mountain of laundry. Food shop delivered, put away and ordered DDs new shoes. I'm going to sand down and paint DDs chest of drawers. To top it off I've cooked a lovely healthy meal for the family.
I feel really pleased I've managed to do all the jobs I've been meaning to do. I'm always snowed under stressed from work and end up not doing it all. I do have a cleaner but they don't do the nitty gritty really.

AIBU to think being a house wife actually might be nice ? Less pressure and you can complete all the home stuff at your leisure. 🤣 I wouldn't do this as I've worked so hard to get where I am but I can see why it might be tempting.

Apart from the DIY stuff, I’d be bored senseless if I did that all day every day. I enjoy using my knowledge and training at work, it brings me much more satisfaction than cleaning. Also, after a week I think I’d run out of stuff to do! I also like talking to other adults.

My husband and I do the cooking, shopping, laundry, online orders during the week anyway and work full time. I hate cleaning and we have a cleaner.

Have you thought about being a cleaner or a housekeeper?

God no, I like getting through all the jobs you describe in a few days of leave.. then I love going back to using my brain in my tiring but very fulfilling job! I have friends who are sahms though who love it. We’re all different

It would be a massive pay cut so no thanks 🤣. I don't think it would be the same feeling cleaning some random persons home. It's just nice to switch off for a bit and feel the satisfaction of a clean , neat organised home.

I know what you mean, it's very therapeutic having time to potter about. During lockdown I found the slower pace of life meant I didn't HATE housework as I wasn't rushing about trying to squeeze it in around a long commute. Days when I'm around at home more I really enjoy cooking a nice dinner rather than just slamming something in the oven as everyone rushes in the door. I think I would be bored long term though, maybe if I was independently wealthy, there is definitely a happy medium!

I love it, it’s great having evenings and weekends free for fun stuff. My DC are older now but when they were younger it was great not having any school holiday stress.

Surely there is only so much sorting/ DIY you can do? But really the crux of it for me is the financial independence you would lose. What happens when the DH says no more paint pots or plastic containers with labels on them? No more manicures and blow dries? And oh, we can't afford the David Lloyd membership either. what do you do then?

I am a housewife and stay at home mum. My house would be an absolute tip I wasn't, but it is boring and mundane.

I can completely see the appeal of having a housewife but don't fancy being one full time! I'm a teacher so can feel a bit housewifey in the holidays and I find myself getting grumpy about the very repetitive nature of household jobs plus the inequitable division of labour with DH quite quickly!

Yes short term fine you do get alot done. But I was a while between jobs and it got mind numbing at home same oul thing.

I tried it once, it wasn't for me.

But plenty of my friends are and seem fulfilled.

Thank goodness that we have the choice

It would be great if I could be a housewife but keep my wage...

I have been a SAHM/housewife; the novelty soon wears off, and the reality of spending all your time being a skivvy for the family sets in. It also tends to be invisible work so people think you aren't really doing anything but they soon notice when you don't! Yes, my house was cleaner and life was simpler in many ways but working keeps me sane.

I would enjoy it more if I wasn't at the beck and call of little people all day.
Nothing ruins a good sort out like a toddler.
They also ruin satisfying deep cleans and DIY projects that don't involve plastic blocks.

I think it’s nice in your situation because it’s novelty. I’d be bored senseless doing it full time. Plus putting yourself in a vulnerable situation by being financial dependent on someone else

I did it for 10 years while my kids were younger and it was great while they were young. But I could not have stayed at home fulltime while they were at school, it would have been mind numbingly boring. I have friends who are housewives and their kids are in the 20's, their lives revolve around coffee mornings and lunch, their houses are spotless, but is so boring. I need adult company and the opportunity to use my brain, and I feel so much more fulfilled, although life can be stressful at times but I would not have it any other way.

YANBU. I'm a SAHM and currently have two pre-schoolers, will have to go back to work once they're both at school. I'm absolutely dreading it, as I've got no idea when I'll get anything done!! I absolutely love having complete freedom over my time at the moment. I've never been so happy and relaxed in my life, even though young children are very hard! Still a million times easier than work in my view.

I'm a SAHP. I have a toddler and I get nothing done until she's in bed. My house gets the bare minimum done to keep it looking clean and tidy but my cupboards are full of junk, my cupboards need painting, (I'm halfway through that job) and my garden needs weeding!

Imagine not having a car to do tip runs, or money that you couldn't do washing when you wanted, or get things dry. Then on week two, what would you do to fill your time, if restricted to walking distance? Being a housewife on a working wage would be good, in a struggling situation, unless you've got volunteering, cheap activities local, it isn't so great.

I couldn’t stand it. I only experienced it on maternity leave, and it was so grim, I went back to my job as a hospital doctor when DD was 4 months old!
It was like being in solitary confinement- all the adults drove off out of the village to commute to work in the morning, and the place was a graveyard until they all drove back in the evening. All my friends and colleagues were still at work, obviously, so the only people around were pensioners or housewives.
And there is absolutely no intellectual stimulation in cleaning the oven, changing nappies, or hoovering a carpet!

Not only would you be bored, but your conversation would revolve around what cleaning you'd been doing..... so you do the maths!

I have spent the second half on my holiday doing just this. Added with the family drop ins and other stuff I am happy with the results. But everyday and no money? No way.

Oh I would LOVE it

I would enjoy it, but only if I lived alone and had no husband or children to look after as I think I would soon get resentful! And I'd want to still have the same level of income...just not to go to work!

I'd be quite happy doing housework, decorating, walking the dog, going to the gym, meeting friends for coffee...I suppose that's called being retired, rather than being a housewife!

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I dream about being a SAHM because of my autism and ADHD. Working life gives me regular breakdowns every few years. I need mental stimulation and love to be challenged and feel useful outside of my own personal life, but I believe I would thrive being able to have freedom from the stress of work, the expectations, anxiety and sensory overload. I’d be less burnt out and I honestly believe I’d seek out ways to challenge myself and contribute to my community that weren’t paid employment.