To think being a housewife might be nice ?

[Felixss]

I'm on leave I've managed to get the housework done the deep cleaning , decluttered, sorted my clothes and 3 tip runs. I've washed the covers on the sofa and got through a mountain of laundry. Food shop delivered, put away and ordered DDs new shoes. I'm going to sand down and paint DDs chest of drawers. To top it off I've cooked a lovely healthy meal for the family.
I feel really pleased I've managed to do all the jobs I've been meaning to do. I'm always snowed under stressed from work and end up not doing it all. I do have a cleaner but they don't do the nitty gritty really.

AIBU to think being a house wife actually might be nice ? Less pressure and you can complete all the home stuff at your leisure. 🤣 I wouldn't do this as I've worked so hard to get where I am but I can see why it might be tempting.

I guess volunteering is not as restrictive on time? Exercising, seeing friends, doing hobbies - you can’t get paid for that.
To be fair I felt the same anbout volunteering and didn’t enjoy it! But my point stands - nobody needs to be scrubbing floors all day. You can get out there and do loads of stuff. Why would that be boring? Jobs can be boring and restrictive.

I’m saying this as someone who works part time. But I’m not sure I’d be bored if I didn’t work. Maybe slightly unfulfilled.

Not a housewife because I don't like housework, but definitely a "lady who lunches".

I work term time only and have 2 children. The first week of the holidays I love getting so much done at home but by this point in week 2 I feel very much over the housework each day. I don’t think it would be for me permanently. I spent years as a SAHM but it’s quite different once the children are growing up doing their own things most of the time

The thing is unless everyone has a cleaner (and I guess many do) then there is still cleaning/laundry/DIY/gardening/admin to do. It doesn’t magically disappear- unless you have a fulltime housekeeper. But you’re squeezing that in to your evening after a full day at work. Even if you have a cleaner there are daily tasks to do.

The most mundane and unenjoyable and stressful my life was was when I was full time, 2 kids and I’d get home at 7.30 and then have to tidy/cook/do bathtime. Utterly exhausting. I guess if the DH does 50% then that eases the pressure.

No way, but only because I don't enjoy cleaning or DIY. I would much rather go to work than clean the house.

If I could be a SAHM with a cleaner / housekeeper, I would definitely consider it

I'm a housewife with a cleaner, a gardener, a window cleaner and, when the DC were young, a nanny.

I would have gone straight back to work if I'd had to do all the above work myself, and used the pay to pay for the above (except nanny - that was a lovely bonus and really she was more just an extra pair of hands as we knew nobody at all in our overseas city at the time)! Now, I love having time to do the extra "looking after" things for DH and my DC and the wider family, I like having time to meet friends and pursue hobbies, I like not having to struggle with work/life balance. My family's life and mine is very comfortable and easy, almost every hour outside of DH's working hours is leisure time.

I'm very, very, very grateful for the life I have.

I'm a sahm of secondary age DC. I don't get bored at all. I will go back to work at some point but only for the money. I'm very happy at home.

I would be no good at it.

i love it. I had to choose to make the best of my situation and I’ve come to absolutely love it.
Im also a carer for my ds and dd but when I’m not busy in that sense I really love to be organised, clean, tidy, decorate, meal plan and shop for meals etc etc I feel like previously I enjoyed life and managed fine fitting things in round work but now my situation has changed in making the best of it and it’s a nice lifestyle (on the good days)

It can be nice. I suppose my identity is wrapped in my work so I would worry about not having a sense of self if I didn't work. I also like that if something happened with dh I'm in a strong position.

It's depends on so many factors and circumstances.

If you are a thinker, day dreamer, like to write, create and so on having time to yourself is something you can't put a price on.

If you don't need to validate your purpose in earth through work in an office it's also a wonderful thing to be at home.

For me it's a mix and I work.

Ugh, no. I'm a completely lone parent working full time and I'd never want to be a housewife.

Now, if I won the lottery and was independently wealthy, that would be a different story. But never if it meant I had to rely on a partner financially.

I am PROUDLY a housewife.

No. Never. I would be bored to tears.

I'm not embarrassed or proud or bored.

MrsShortStuff
yep,me too.Who cares what anyone else thinks?

I was a SAHM for a few years. I don’t regret it for a moment but while you don’t get the Monday blues you also don’t get the Friday feeling either. Every day is the same. I’m a TA now so have enjoyed 2 weeks of pottering at home around going away and family events.

I'm also very proud to be a sahm and a homemaker.I don't need a paycheck to feel validated.

I am self-employed and have a trade. I aim for this balance each week, although with some larger projects (or in the run up to Xmas) I don't always achieve it and run over with the paid proportion. If I have a couple of consecutive weeks with more paid work, the household stress levels are noticeably higher and the house starts to look quite grubby and cluttered. I am working on maintaining consistency!

I'm a SAHM mum with 2 boys under 3 so I only just manage to keep on top of housework/laundry!

I liked it when my kids were little. We were always out and about doing fun (free) activities. Once they went to school I tried doing it a little longer but got bored quickly and retrained then went back to work.

I do 4 days a week now and use my non work day to do most of the household stuff and help my parents. I do miss it sometimes, especially in the nice weather. I do really like cooking, gardening and pottering around the house and don’t mind cleaning.

I'm amazed how many people prefer working to being at home. Work is only ever about money for me.

I think you have nailed it here.
I enjoy both.

Working 80 hours or being a housewife -neither appeal to me.
Balance is everything .

I stayed at home until my daughter was eight and only went back to work because we were finding it harder to manage without a second salary. We made sacrifices for me to stay at home with our daughter - no holidays for several years and very few nights out etc but we both felt it was worth it. I loved being at home and was always busy, and nothing would have persuaded me to go back to work if it hadn't been financially necessary.