To think being a housewife might be nice ?

[Felixss]

I'm on leave I've managed to get the housework done the deep cleaning , decluttered, sorted my clothes and 3 tip runs. I've washed the covers on the sofa and got through a mountain of laundry. Food shop delivered, put away and ordered DDs new shoes. I'm going to sand down and paint DDs chest of drawers. To top it off I've cooked a lovely healthy meal for the family.
I feel really pleased I've managed to do all the jobs I've been meaning to do. I'm always snowed under stressed from work and end up not doing it all. I do have a cleaner but they don't do the nitty gritty really.

AIBU to think being a house wife actually might be nice ? Less pressure and you can complete all the home stuff at your leisure. 🤣 I wouldn't do this as I've worked so hard to get where I am but I can see why it might be tempting.

I'd love it. I really enjoyed being a SAHM.

The only place I'm ever bored is work!

I should add that I love being a SAHP. I leave the house not long after DH in the morning and get home close to when he does. Our days are filled, probably why I get little housework done!

I think it would be great provided I had my own money and lots of it!

It's a no from me.
It's very important to have financial independence.

Nah. I like doing the jobs during leave (I rewired the lawn mower today after dh Ra over the cord) but need to get back to being employed. When I look back on my death bed I don't want to be proud of well folded sheets or a clean step.

I would love it. I am so envious of people who are SAHMs. I'd love the opportunity to take my child to school every day and pick them up, always having time to keep the house nice, not having to follow someone else's timetable every minute of every day, baking more, taking time to plan and cook interesting meals, having time to go to the gym or for a long walk and so on.

Instead, my life as the main earner involves me leaving the house at 7:20am every morning, not getting home until 5:30-6pm, often cooking the same quick meals, having to do housework at the weekend, finding it hard even to schedule in a daily walk to my daily routine so I feel myself getting more unhealthy... I hate it.

I enjoyed it once the children were at school but I needed a break from DS who has severe ASD. I did get stuff done but also went out to meet friends and do activities, not all housework, DIY and admin. However, at the other end, when everyone is at home (DH retired, DD b"between jobs"), they are used to you doing everything and there's more to do!

My order of preference, having tried all three:

• Job I find interesting, that pays reasonably well so I can afford a cleaner. Also not crazy hours
• SAHM
• Job I find boring and/or doesn’t pay enough to cover any help and/or has such crazy hours I don’t have sufficient time left for DC or me.

I think the half way house of working term time only so a wage but a break every 6 or 7 weeks would be brilliant, especially as the children get older and more independent.

I've been one for 18 years now, love it.

If you like it, it's fine for you, op.

I would not have liked being a full time housewife apart from not having to get up at the crack of dawn and being able to have a nap and read when I felt like it. I thoroughly enjoyed going to work, hated housework (liked cooking and doing laundry). When you go to work you can pay someone to clean.

Would it give you the same satisfaction if you had to do it all day every day? I doubt it.

I’m not keen on the stealth boast tone of your thread. Your big important well-paid job is just so tough and somehow you manage to be just so excellent at being a “housewife” as well? And just think it would be so lovely and easy in comparison? I think you can piss right off with that tbh.

I get what you mean, OP. I've upskilled in an area where there's a lot of consultancy work, very high paid short term contracts. My plan after Mat leave is to bounce around doing short contracts with little voids inbetween.

Not the same as full on housewifing, but definitely better than being chained to the routine for me. I've got most of this month off (self employed), and there's so much to catch up with. It's great.

You have just described my friend to a t!

I’ve never talked about cleaning to my friends, I’m too busy doing fun stuff. I get all my jobs done first thing in the morning and then concentrate on doing things I enjoy.

What is this magic career you have found if you don’t mind my asking, @thecatsthecats?

I only worked one nightshift a week when the dcs were young so the rest of the week I was free to housewife. I loved it 😂 I even got some chickens and a pinny so I could feel like an old fashioned one. The house was clean and tidy and I was always up to date with laundry etc. I didn't enjoy cooking that much though, that was the only downside.

It is absolutely fantastic and I never run out of things to do. Last child is almost out of the house and I have loved every single day being with them.
Now I'll be able to focus more on my home,the hubs,volunteering if/when I want to or whatever I decide.And no I won't be bored.
Yes.I'm still intellectually stimulated.
No,I'm not lazy.
And 100% this is the most fulfilling job I could ever want.
I love to hear when other women enjoy being home as well😊

Apart from the lack of paycheck at the end of the month. The novelty would wear off very quickly!

If we could afford for me to be a housewife then yes, I would do it in a heartbeat!

I’m always envious of those who say they wouldn’t choose this if it was an option, they must really love their jobs.

Trust me, it gets boring very quickly! In the 1950s at least they had Valium and smoking 😅

As long as you have a private pension and NI sorted then it would be fine.

I did it for 7 years. It was definitely less pressurised and less stressful than being a working mum, I can tell you! I liked that feeling of being in control, being on top of things. I liked being there for the kids and the fact I had time to do the housework etc while they were at nursery/school so I could spend quality time with them afterwards.
In the end I was very bored though. I got sick of domestic drudgery. I was lonely. Most other mums I knew were working and sometimes I just wanted to see people who weren't mums and talk about stuff other than our children! I felt like I wasn't using my brain. Now I have what I consider to be the best of both worlds - I work part time. I still have time to keep on top of stuff, I still have time to be with the children but I'm also earning money, using my brain, meeting other people. It's nice to talk and think about things other than the family.

I would absolutely love to be a housewife.
I have a career and have always been academic so I never even really considered it as a viable option.

Now I have children who need a dual income household and sadly I have the higher salary by quite some margin.

DH is seven years younger than me though so when if I retire and he is working still I suppose I will be a housewife. An old decrepit one at that.

I was a SAHM when my children were younger and it was the happiest most contented and fulfilling period of my life.

We are all different but i am only ever bored when i am at work and never when i am at home - but i would not do that amount of cleaning in a millions years