To be annoyed at other sites discussing mumsnet users?

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I've noticed that some Mumsnet posts and discussions are being shared on other websites, forums, and social media platforms without the author's consent. I find this really frustrating and wonder if IABU in feeling this way.

I understand that Mumsnet is a public forum, and anyone can read and participate in discussions. But when our posts are taken out of context and shared elsewhere, it feels like a violation of our privacy and a breach of trust. It's especially frustrating when people on other sites start making assumptions or passing judgment based on a single post they've seen, without knowing the full story.

I'm not saying that Mumsnet discussions should be kept completely private, but I do think that we should have some control over where our posts end up. It would be helpful if we could have an option to mark our posts as "private" or "not for sharing," so that we know that they won't be legally copied and pasted elsewhere without our permission.

I'm curious to know if other Mumsnet members feel the same way. Does it bother you when Mumsnet posts are shared on other sites?

YABU = It's the internet, deal with it
YANBU = It's poor form, I don't like it

Unfortunately we as users don’t own the content, Mumsnet do.

YABU = It's the internet, deal with it

Don't put anything on MN you wouldn't discuss loudly in a train station.

Exactly, OP is being V U

I admit it puts me off posting anything private to be honest but I don’t think anyone can do anything about it. I do think the Daily Fail (mail) are extremely lazy journalists for getting articles in this way.

Do you mean things like the daily Mail taking stories? Or Facebook?

I'm not sure, I think that it's an open public forum so nothing that's posted is really "private" and I'm sure as PP said mumsnet own the content once you've posted?

When something is free, you're the product. I'm surprised this still has to be said. There should be no expectation of privacy on the Internet, least of all on Mumsnet.

If you want control of it, don't post it on the internet.

I wonder then if MN could take action if their copyrighted content is posted and dissected elsewhere?

Nothing on the internet is private

What copyright? You don't have copyright of whatever you post here.

Meh, there’s what, 12 million folks on here? It’s hardly private.

How would you control it?

The more irritating thing tbh is ops putting Fuck off daily mail/ I don’t allow you to use this content. Yes, that’ll work.
It’s always on the most dull threads too.

If you mean Rediit and Tattle then I agree it's quite brutal.

It’s not private, it is very very public. If other sites discussing MN reminds people of that, that’s probably a good thing. Best think of everything you write on here being projected onto a billboard outside your house- if you don’t fancy that, don’t post it.

The full picture is that I am upset that a picture I posted in a style & beauty thread was shared on tattle and mean comments made about my outfit.

It's my fault for posting it at all but God forbid a woman wants to talk to other women about her outfit without being picked apart.

The same happens on Reddit, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, netmums etc. if you post on a public forum it becomes public.

It is annoying how shit journalism is, especially the shitty tabloids but it is what it is and as long as people engage it will continue. An interesting, well written article that requires actual thought will be overlooked in favour of some pseudo-controversial parenting drama because more people will have an opinion on it.

That Tattle thread is pretty brutal. But on the other hand, you don’t have to read it. You’d have to go searching it out to find it.

That must have been upsetting. I’m sorry.

Sadly nothing is private on MN.

Even The Independent had a MN story a couple of weeks ago.

As for posters and threads in other sites, how on earth could this be policed? And as if a ‘not for sharing’ or ‘private’ button would work!

‘I have decided to share this personal dilemma with countless strangers on MN, but it is far too sensitive for any other anonymous platform’

People do what people do. Obviously when TAATs are not allowed here, they will be discussed elsewhere.

Here you go, OP, link to the terms, which start by saying in big letters that it’s Mumsnet’s copyright and content must not be used without express approval. So I assume the Daily Fail and the Scum and any other “journalism” outlet takes threads with MNHQ’s express approval, probably paying a fee.

I know, I should have known better. But I really didn't expect to find a picture of myself.

I wonder then if MN could take action if their copyrighted content is posted and dissected elsewhere?

Firstly : what makes you think it is copyrighted ?

Secondly : if more people hear about Mumsnet more people come here and more advertising revenue is generated.

But it is mumsnet content you give permission for what you say belongs to the site. Their Is no privacy.

I can see that’s upsetting but it’s a risk you take. FWIW Tattle users seem set on slagging off MN users so take it with a pinch of salt (not sure why- the sites seem pretty similar to me- the vanity of small differences).

You really can’t assume everyone on here has your best interests at heart- there are millions of users and some are here to cause trouble. Stick to your friends if you want to be sure people are going to be kind.