To be annoyed at other sites discussing mumsnet users?

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I've noticed that some Mumsnet posts and discussions are being shared on other websites, forums, and social media platforms without the author's consent. I find this really frustrating and wonder if IABU in feeling this way.

I understand that Mumsnet is a public forum, and anyone can read and participate in discussions. But when our posts are taken out of context and shared elsewhere, it feels like a violation of our privacy and a breach of trust. It's especially frustrating when people on other sites start making assumptions or passing judgment based on a single post they've seen, without knowing the full story.

I'm not saying that Mumsnet discussions should be kept completely private, but I do think that we should have some control over where our posts end up. It would be helpful if we could have an option to mark our posts as "private" or "not for sharing," so that we know that they won't be legally copied and pasted elsewhere without our permission.

I'm curious to know if other Mumsnet members feel the same way. Does it bother you when Mumsnet posts are shared on other sites?

YABU = It's the internet, deal with it
YANBU = It's poor form, I don't like it

Mumsnet is only post-moderated though - which means only posts/posters that are reported to them are moderated.

It's an important distinction.

Presumably her face wasn't in it.

I have no idea @ChocChipHandbag!

It’s actually quite worrying when people post on here, a parenting site, upset because they’ve had expectations of some kind of privacy or protection while posting identifying stuff about themselves on the internet. The internet is entirely public, infinitely shareable and completely beyond your control, and everything you post on it should be with that in mind and you should be teaching your kids the same.

Why should they? It’s free publicity, maybe they end up with more users who think ‘ that sounds interesting’. The more users, the more promotional content, and that’s what makes it a free site.

There might be moderators but it's not an actively moderated website.

Mods only respond to user reports about threads and posters - if nobody reports then they likely won't take any notice.

Yes, I agree.

A lot of posters on here seem incredibly naive when it comes to how the internet actually works.

I think it's pretty daft to post photos of yourself on MN. I don't really like how they rip peoples looks apart on Tattle but that's what Tattle is all about so probably best not to read it.

That Tattle thread is something else. They seem to take absolute glee from slagging people off. And I thought Mumsnet was bad…

Reddit is brutal about Mumsnetters

I think both your options are true.

I don’t like it, I think it’s rude and sneaky and kind of boring and pathetic. But it’s the internet, put your words out there and they belong to the world.

It’s not new they always have been.

The other thing is, I didn’t know that thread on tattle existed until I saw someone complaining about it on here a few weeks ago. Threads like these (and the one I saw) are driving traffic (and probably new contributors) to those sites. Best to just ignore them.

Don't take it to heart OP.

If I posted a pic of myself right now I'd probably howl with laughter at the comments as I'm wearing jeans, jumper and rain jacket.

Response would probably be "have you slept in a tree?"

Oh for fucks sake. I'm dyslexic. Again. A stem degree educated fucking dyslexic. Stone me to death. Your so much better than me I'm sure. In every possible way no doubt

Yes, agree. I thought similar.

OP please remember MN business model is that you are the product and anything that drives traffic to the site ups the value of their advertising revenue.

@RedSmartie · get a life.

Think of mumsnet and the internet in general as your back garden. It feels private in that you can’t see other neighbours (or sites) while you’re in one, but there’s still no privacy and everyone in the next garden along can hear what you’re saying. If you don’t want them to hear you go inside (or offline).

I reckon those that post about mn on tattle are also posting on here. They have threads that run on and on about postings etc on here, it's rather bizarre

How did you find the picture?