To Want To Slap The Loudmouth That Spoilt Our Special Day Out?

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DH and I planned a very special and expensive train trip to mark of silver wedding anniversary. We had been looking forward to it for ages and felt really excited when we started our journey. Everything was lovely and as expected, the food was superb and the staff on the train were attentive and professional. Unfortunately, for much of the day there was a small group of people with one particular woman who was raucous and loud with a laugh that would have rivalled Sybil Fawlty. She had obviously had too much to drink and didn’t give a damn about anyone else around her. While we had a really lovely day, it was hard to ignore this woman’s appalling behaviour. I’m amazed nothing was said to her. I would have complained to her myself but unfortunately during the journey I discovered she is from the same village as us and I didn’t want any future repercussions. AIBU to have wanted to slap her? How can anyone behave so badly?

You obviously have no idea about this type of train trip. It is a special day out that many people enjoy for celebrations. It isn’t like a commuter train where you just sit in a seat to get from A to B.

What a miserable lot of people you are. Nobody has any thoughts for our elderly couple having their special day ruined by a drunken woman.

Don't you moderate your volume according to your surroundings? If, say, you were in a restaurant where everyone else was just having quiet conversations at their respective tables, would you speak and laugh so loudly that they could all hear you and it would intrude into their conversations? If so, yes, that would make you rude. It's not hard to keep your voice down.

Where does OP suggest she objects to normal conversation and laughter? It's only when it becomes intrusive that it becomes a problem, and over the course of a long train trip I can see that constant cackling would become seriously intrusive. I strongly suspect that this was that kind of loud, performative drunken laugh that is desperately trying to say "Look at MEEEE, see how witty I am, see how witty my friends are, see how I'm life and soul of the party". If only people who do it realised it, the reality is that no-one admires them, on the contrary it makes them come over as really quite needy.