To Want To Slap The Loudmouth That Spoilt Our Special Day Out?

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DH and I planned a very special and expensive train trip to mark of silver wedding anniversary. We had been looking forward to it for ages and felt really excited when we started our journey. Everything was lovely and as expected, the food was superb and the staff on the train were attentive and professional. Unfortunately, for much of the day there was a small group of people with one particular woman who was raucous and loud with a laugh that would have rivalled Sybil Fawlty. She had obviously had too much to drink and didn’t give a damn about anyone else around her. While we had a really lovely day, it was hard to ignore this woman’s appalling behaviour. I’m amazed nothing was said to her. I would have complained to her myself but unfortunately during the journey I discovered she is from the same village as us and I didn’t want any future repercussions. AIBU to have wanted to slap her? How can anyone behave so badly?

You couldn’t even say pipe down to her but think you have the bollocks to slap her? Aye, ok pet.

I would have thought the woman living in the same village is something to make it easier. You could have gone and spoken to her and had an opening gambit.

Oh I feel for you Op, I really do. We celebrated our 11th wedding anniversary recently and it was ruined by an awful man who tried to assault a teenage girl, he screamed "you stupid little CUNT!" because he bumped into her. His vile filth went on for bloody ages and the security staff were hiding. I hope you can do something special and forget this blip.

I can see why it would have been annoying, but I think you either have to make peace with it at the time, or do something (discreetly ask a member of staff if there is space in a quieter carriage). You otherwise spend the occasion (and now afterwards!) stewing on it.

😂😂😂😂 sadly so true- but I am proud

I think the OP is getting a hard time here. Me and DH went on one of these train trips before covid and it was absolutely wonderful. It was however very expensive (about £360 for the two of us) Everyone was well behaved and it was a lovely day but i would have been really annoyed if the experience was ruined by someone who didnt have the basic manners and ruined the experience for us.

OP, I get what you mean. Some people love to draw attention to themselves.

I hate going places where there are people that you can't fail to notice because they are talking at the top of their voices or their kids are running around or screaming in a restaurant.

Some people have no decoram.

Decorum!

But you really notice and relish the peace when they've left.

Agree. She sounds a pain in the neck

You're not UR for being annoyed but you are UR for not even mentioning it to staff then moaning about no one else mentioning it (also the slap but I assume you were trying to be funny and didn't mean you'd actually do that).

We went to a gig in our local theatre, all seated, acoustic show, relatively quiet vibe.
A couple of women next to us were chatting away through the first couple of songs, people were turning heads.
We got their attention and told them to be quiet 🤐 we could hear every word.
They stopped chatting, we all enjoyed the music, the end.

Yes I completely agree with this!

So you expected others to complain about her but you didn't?

YABU

If her behaviour was really objectionable you had the option of speaking to her or asking the staff to intervene.

Fair enough if she was swearing or being a nuisance, but laughing and being a bit pissed? Maybe she was also celebrating a big birthday or anniversary. Lighten up.

My OH and I get this a lot. We'll be in a restaurant. Suddenly, horrible shrieks and braying that goes right through you and won't stop. 'Oh God we've got a laughing woman.'

Loud shouty men are annoying too of course. Also in their case, they're usually drunk and out of control, so a bit threatening.

I would have complained to her myself but unfortunately during the journey I discovered she is from the same village as us and I didn’t want any future repercussions.

What are the chances?

Repercussions! What would she do? Stand outside your window laughing like Sybil Fawlty.

If it was a Belmond train I would be equally pissed off by loud squawking drunks. She probably wasn't but was a bit loose. Either way, some people have no self awareness.

Especially those who are telling you to loosen up (who are probably the same that sing in theatres😆
)

She was on a day out not a funeral or to coin Sybil Fawlty.
"This is a hotel (well train in this case) not a Borstal." 😂
Surely people are allowed to let their hair down and be a tad rowdy if they want to. What were the staff meant to say "Stop enjoying yourself"

YANBU to have been irritated by her but YABVU to suggest that a slap is a reasonable reaction.

How did you find out she was from your village?

Blimey, some hard-of-thinking types on MN today. If you actually read the OP, you'll see that she mentioned wanting to slap the woman, not actually getting up and doing it. I regularly imagine things but don't actually do them, it's a normal human behaviour.

Even if it was a Pullman train, it’s still public transport, and so you take your chances.

I don’t think it’s fair to compare a man who called a child a cunt with this woman whose only crime appears to be that OP didn’t like her laugh and thought her voice was too loud.

People being loud and raucous when other people are in the same space as them are annoying, but to want to slap someone doesn't exactly paint you in a great light.

I’m amazed nothing was said to her.

By whom ?
You are the one that was letting her / them get to you, but you weren't prepared to say anything.
Indeed, what would you expect anyone to say anyway? That she wasn't allowed to enjoy herself because she has a loud laugh ?

How can anyone behave so badly?
There's nothing in your OP that says she was behaving that badly.

I get your frustration, disappointment even but the only way to avoid people, is to arrange to do something where there are no people, not put so much hope on everyone else who has chosen to spend their money in the same way you have, in a confined space for a length of time, happening to behave the way you want them to and coming up to your exact standards.

... I should really read things twice. Op, you know its unreasonable to want to physically harm someone, right?