To Want To Slap The Loudmouth That Spoilt Our Special Day Out?

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DH and I planned a very special and expensive train trip to mark of silver wedding anniversary. We had been looking forward to it for ages and felt really excited when we started our journey. Everything was lovely and as expected, the food was superb and the staff on the train were attentive and professional. Unfortunately, for much of the day there was a small group of people with one particular woman who was raucous and loud with a laugh that would have rivalled Sybil Fawlty. She had obviously had too much to drink and didn’t give a damn about anyone else around her. While we had a really lovely day, it was hard to ignore this woman’s appalling behaviour. I’m amazed nothing was said to her. I would have complained to her myself but unfortunately during the journey I discovered she is from the same village as us and I didn’t want any future repercussions. AIBU to have wanted to slap her? How can anyone behave so badly?

I’m amazed nothing was said to her

Yet you didnt have the guts even BEFORE you found out where she was from? Then why should anyone else?

Can you be more specific? You wanted to slap her? What did she do/say that was so offensive? A loud laugh is annoying, but not a social crime.

Hopefully you will bump into her soon and will be able to tell her how she has very little self awareness when under the influence of alcohol.

Unless you're going to dripfeed, I don't think loudness can be called "appalling behaviour". I'd have been annoyed but not to the point of wanting to resort to violence.

I don't think having a loud laugh is a dreadful social crime?

Sounds like she was having a good time op, maybe you should try it

I don't know why they have alcohol available in all these places. Nobody needs it and there's always potential for antisocial raucousness.

I've got a loud laugh.

I speak loudly.

Because I speak loudly people think I am being over confident and gobby.

I actually have a hearing problem and I don't realise how loudly I am speaking. I don't mind if people gently point out to me that I'm being loud. I DO mind people making assumptions about me or telling me aggressively to 'STOP SHOUTING.'

Quite often I want to make complaints about people like YOU who make judgements without knowing the FACTS.

You can't think of any reason why a commercial business might want to sell its customers drink? 😆

You should have spoken to the train staff, that's obvious, surely?

If she was causing a disturbance, why didn't you speak to the staff about it? If she just had a loud voice, though, I don't think she has done anything wrong.

So she was a bit loud??

If you spend time in a public so as we then you have to expect people will be people!

Apart from being loud what else did she do wrong?

And why is your first thought violence?

I speak loudly and have an unusual laugh. Does it make me rude? Aslong as the woman wasn't swearing and causing a nuisance I don't really understand your anger. Was she being deliberately malicious?

As this was a special occasion event that lots of people may only do once, I would expect the staff to have ways of dealing with unruly customers who may spoil the experience for others.

However, without us being there it's obviously really hard to know if this lady was loud enough to spoil the experience for others.

I struggle with this kind of thing as I have very little patience for the general public, plus I have misophonia, so I have to be really sure it's not just me being over sensitive before I say anything! But if I did, it would be a quiet word to the staff, not to another customer directly.

Hope you had a great time anyway!

Have you accidentally left out the bad behaviour, or is it just a loud laugh that you found so appalling?

I do think people can be really irritating when they are loud in enclosed settings like a train carriage. Especially when it’s an event that other groups of people will want to have without listening to a random member of another party for the entire time. But there is zero point in dwelling on it, especially if you made the decision not to say anything at the time.

Why such difficulty saying ‘It’s great you’re all having a great time but could you keep the noise down a bit please?’ ? What ‘repercussions’ do you imagine would ensue from a direct polite request?

I imagine if her behaviour was "appalling" the staff would have spoken to her.

That would have driven me insane. She lacks self awareness. Part of being in public and with other people is being considerate of them. A constant very loud laugh and hugely loud talking are different from laughing and having a good time.

You are obviously not British.
We don’t consider it has been a good day out if we are able to recall anything that has taken place.
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I have to say if I was the loud passenger I would be mortified by such a request and it would taint my day.

Agatha Christie compared loud laughing and talking to braying bloodhounds 😂

Agree. I’d be annoyed by the loud person yet wouldn’t want to hurt their feelings.

I think I would quite enjoy a rail trip with Sybil Fawlty!

Was it like a special.train experience that you pay a,lot of money for or just a normal.train trip,if it was the former I can see why you would be annoyec,but if it was the latter ,it's just a train ,high I g much you can do.about it though.