To Want To Slap The Loudmouth That Spoilt Our Special Day Out?

[Ifrozethehoumous]

DH and I planned a very special and expensive train trip to mark of silver wedding anniversary. We had been looking forward to it for ages and felt really excited when we started our journey. Everything was lovely and as expected, the food was superb and the staff on the train were attentive and professional. Unfortunately, for much of the day there was a small group of people with one particular woman who was raucous and loud with a laugh that would have rivalled Sybil Fawlty. She had obviously had too much to drink and didn’t give a damn about anyone else around her. While we had a really lovely day, it was hard to ignore this woman’s appalling behaviour. I’m amazed nothing was said to her. I would have complained to her myself but unfortunately during the journey I discovered she is from the same village as us and I didn’t want any future repercussions. AIBU to have wanted to slap her? How can anyone behave so badly?

Does realising the world doesn’t revolve around you and other people are free to exist and enjoy themselves often drive you to fantasise about violence?

If I had the choice between a day put with Sybil Fawlty or one with Hyacinth Bucket, I know which I’d prefer

Exactly another moaner.

People who moan about others enjoying themselves are just envious because they can't relax and do the same.

So glad you didn't say anything to her. She's not there to please you and you would have only made it worse.
We were on the plane a few weeks ago and a miserable can't asked my partner to tone it down. All he was doing was talking to someone.
Partner told him no and he shut up and never mentioned it again. Boring old fast.

Experienced similar when DS (12) and I had a special train trip. We were seated next to a stag party,
How oppressive!

It says in the OP that it was a special and expensive train trip for an anniversary…

Sounds like OP was fantasising about her very own Murder on the Orient Express...

Filed this away @Ifrozethehoumous under "things that never happened"

YANBU OP.

I can't bear people who can't/won't use their indoor voices.

You and your partner sound awful.

What's wrong with being a middle aged woman called Julie? Just asking for a friend.

We were on the plane a few weeks ago and a miserable can't asked my partner to tone it down. All he was doing was talking to someone.

Is there a reason he couldn't have spoken more quietly? Other people don't need to hear your conversations.

It might taint your day. By the time someone is going up to you to request you cause less disruption in a public place, your current actions/behaviour are tainting their day. It goes both ways. We all have to share public spaces and we should all minimise disruption to others.

OP does sound aggressive about it.

The main wrongdoers in my experience are people who play music or videos with sound out loud. No excuse or justification for that, whereas someone talking loudly might genuinely not realise how far it carries/be used to having to speak loudly.

Excellent.

Sounds like you ruined your own special day out.

What for talking on the plane.
He was awful. Expecting us not to talk.
Some people don't know to relax and chill out he was another one of those types.

Stay at home then.

Lol at all the loudmouths kicking off in the thread, loudmouth style.

Yep. I was waiting for this. Posters questioning why/whether the woman was a loudmouth social nightmare, must be a loudmouth social nightmare themselves.

Standard MN reasoning.

This

😂
We hear people's conversations everyday in shops, buses and trains etc.
If you don't want to hear people talking maybe you need to stay at home.

No, actually, some people would love to relax and chill out but can't because they have the misfortune to be seated in the vicinity of yobs like you and your partner.

Let's be very clear about this. Asking someone to tone down their behaviour is awkward and embarrassing. No one wants to do it, and no one does do it unless the person in question really is being unbearable. If someone actually asked your partner to be quiet it means there is a 99% chance that everyone else around was probably fantasising about knocking him out with a blunt object or impaling him on something sharp.

And when he was asked to be more considerate of those around him, instead of apologising and turning down the volume, he got nasty and aggressive, just to highlight what a rude and unpleasant person he is. And his reaction is why people generally don't ask people like him to tone it down, but stew in silence. Because they know the most likely response is that the person will be aggressive and won't actually shut up so it will just make things worse.

Who dragged you people up?

What does tone it down mean? Tone down the volume? Content? Language?

In some circumstances it is a social crime.

Second thought, make sure the rest of your village know what a loudmouth she is although generally villages know all about their obnoxious neighbours.

You can’t see why they might offer wine with a nice meal on a special occasion rail trip?

OP was it the British Pullman?

Not doing that just because a tiny number of people are selfish twats.

From your other posts, I'd say you're one of them.