My day versus his day

[Spiderplantweb]

My day-
alarm goes off at 7, I get straight up get ready take the dogs out at 7:30, back at 8:30, feed the dogs water, put kettle on, unload the dishwasher, have breakfast. Go upstairs make beds
9:00 start work at my £85k a year job.
12:30 take dogs out, put hoover round and grab lunch.
1:30 get back to work. Pay a few bills and organise shopping delivery.
6:00 he comes home, we take dogs out. I cook dinner load dishwasher, feed dogs, wipe round kitchen.
8:00 we sit down to watch tv

his day

7:00 gets woken up by my alarm, tools over goes back to sleep until 8:15.
8:30 gets out of bed, gets ready to go to work
9:00 leaves house for £28k a year job he loves
17:00 comes back home and sits down to watch tv until I am ready to go out.
1800 accompanies me on the evening walk and then watches tv until dinner is ready
1930 joins me for dinner and then goes back to watch TV.

Im an absolute bloody mug aren’t I.

I don't know why your salaries are relevant but yes, he should be doing more. Have you spoken to him about making dinner a few nights a week and taking over some of the earlier dog walks?

Yep. Get rid.

Pay a few bills and organise shopping delivery.

is that not once a week at most?

mountain. Molehill

Why have you mentioned the amounts you both earn?

You picked him

Have you asked him to help?

to be honest neither of your days sound particularly full on compared to many people

Your salaries aren't relevent but yes he's taking the piss

Stop letting him.

Your say hardly sounds onerous

lots of nice dog walks
no commute
minimal housework

You listed put kettle on

as one of your jobs 😂

Sounds like he's watching a lot of TV. Could you ask him for some series recommendations? Thanks.

While you're chatting you could also ask him to do more around the house.

Is there anything this prince among men does for his own household other than get catered to? Whatever you do, don't start breeding with him, and don't get married.

This is one of the most unintentionally funniest OPs I have read in a long time!!

@slowsundays because on top of all the household work I end up paying for almost all our bills and days out. He’s talking about going part time because we’re comfortably off.

@Ursualesther i guess today I’m a bit distracted after this mornings realisation that I am a bit of a mug. And want to know that I am not completely off my rocker thinking that this situation is bonkers

I feel a lot like this but substitute looking after dogs for a child. He is the higher earner though.
Have you asked him to do more? It doesn't sound ridiculously full on.

What's your point @Spiderplantweb ??? Apart from the fact you have time to post banal threads on Mumsnet whilst doing your '£85K a year' job? 🙄

Your days sound quite nice.

You could have a proper lunch break. Dogs don't need three walks a day and hoovering doesnt need doing every day either. And one of you could do the evening dog walk while the other cooks dinner.

I think I may go get some popcorn. 🍿

Why does he do so little ? Why do you let him do so little ? Why do you do all the cooking and cleaning ?

How many beds do you have?

What does this involve

'Go upstairs make beds,

At least 3 posters on here have said "have you asked him to do more?" WTF!

Yes OP you are a mug. Tell him to get off his lazy arse and contribute more to the relationship both financially and practically or fuck off.

Yes.

Walking the dogs is hardly an onerous or challenging task, it's a life choice!

You are a mug to cook and clear up dinner every evening rather than taking turns, especially if he doesn't do other household or gardening chores which even things up a bit but neither of your days sound particularly difficult or exhausting tbh